From Thanksgiving until New Year we have the “Winter Holiday Season” which can be quite overwhelming to our senses. We are inundated with music, color, lights, gifts, food, social events, and nonstop commercials to buy this or that. With all this activity it can be difficult to remember that the holiday season is really only happening inside of us!! The power for how we mark this time of year (happy, sad, chaotic, peaceful etc.) is not up to Toys R Us, JC Penney or Starbucks. It’s not up to your mother, your friends, the local church, your Rabbi or your neighbors. It is only up to you.
Our senses act as personal filters for everything going on around us. Our thoughts and beliefs tell us how we feel about what we are experiencing. For example; this time of year we have a big selection of major movie releases and this year has a doozy with the continuation of the Star Wars series. No matter how much money this movie makes there will be a huge range of opinions about it – no two people who see it will see the same movie. And the same is true for what our experience of Christmas or Hanukkah or Kwanzaa will be. It’s in our hands alone; the power to filter what comes across our path. We get to choose what to think, what to say, and what to feel in every moment. No one can control us for they don’t live inside of us. No one is in our minds, our hearts or lives behind our eyes but us.
But there is a trick to doing this “choosing” especially this time of year. The trick is to get quiet time for yourself daily if you can, even if it’s just for just 15 minutes. This will help you to restore your energy and collect your thoughts so you feel centered and balanced as you dance through all the activities you have planned. It will also help you to process and download the overload to your senses so you can detach and choose what is best for yourself in the moment.
No matter what happens in your life during this time of year, you can choose peace. You can choose to be happy and grateful or stressed and miserable. Flexibility is your best friend here. Bear in mind that plans are just that PLANS; not events taking place in the current moment, and plans can and will be changed, so remain open to this and flex with what does happen next. Be okay with what comes next and the right response to it will occur to your now open mind. This is how to maintain the feeling of peace inside yourself; which you can choose no matter what is going on outside of you. The first best choice you can make will be to find time for contemplative peace daily.
Give yourself the gift of happiness this holiday season by taking short breaks and get away from it all. This way you can find happiness and gratitude over and over and over again and your holiday season will be wonderful!
Your Personal Space Coach