Benefits of a Home Energy Review

There are many benefits to a Home Space Energy Review but among the top three are;

  1. Enhanced physical, mental and emotional energy
  2. Improved self esteem and personal value
  3. Overall well being and joy with life as a whole

While the Energy Review covers the entire home, I have included a few of the easy to fix and improve upon tips below… Home Energy Review

Light: How much natural light do you have in your home? If you can grow house plants you have good natural light, but if they won’t live for you, chances are your home is natural light deficient. There is no greater source of energy than our sun and it’s not necessary to be in direct sunlight to benefit from this energy. A daily practice of opening the drapes or the blinds will go a long way toward refreshing the space of each room. While you are at it, open a window for some fresh air as well. Just 15 minutes of light and air will reboot a room’s energy.

Electronics: How many electronic devices do you have in your home? Are they all in one room or scattered about? Having even one room where you don’t have electronic energy will be helpful to your health and I highly recommend this be the bedroom. No TV or internet, just a clock radio with music in the room where you sleep. Even your cell phone needs to be at least 10′ from your bed or you are taking in these frequencies during your sleep. Add a few living house plants the rooms with the most electronic devises. Low light plants like “Mother-in-Law Tongue” or “Pothos” will do the trick.

Favorites: Do you like your furnishings? Is there a room you avoid? Look around your home and list the items you find you might want to change. Perhaps you have an accessory or chair gift you never really liked, or an area that could use some fresh color energy. Get out a notepad and jot down on one side the items you don’t like and on the other side what you would prefer instead. Next see if you can let something go and fill the space with either something new or from another room – just make sure you like your change better than what you had before. Do this periodically like twice a year will keep your home free of unwanted energy.

Fresh Energy: Is there a space that has been the same for a long time and it feels “old” and stale to you? Our homes are full of reflections of our own inner energy and as such the items inside need to shift and evolve as we do ourselves. Try changing out the colors with the seasons or holidays. Add fresh flowers on a regular basis either cut in a vase or potted ones like mums which last longer. If you can manage to do this in your space, move the furniture pieces around. It’s amazing how sitting in a new spot can open your eyes to a new perspective of your room and of your life!

Below is an example of what can happen after making the changes suggested from one of my Home Reviews…

You now have a favorite room (or space) designated as your very own with a Private Space chair that you love. It’s comfortable; it’s in the colors you love and is in a great spot by the window with all your books nearby. When you return at the end of your day, your favorite chair is waiting for you. Sitting in this space comforts you and anchors you. While you sit here you read and do the things that make you happy and you also day-dream while in this chair. One day while sitting here you realize that many of your day-dreams have come true, in fact your day-dreaming has become more of an action  planning session because you actually believe in yourself and in your dreams. You believe that you can have them come true, so you go about making them happen. You made your Home Space work for you and now your life and health are working for you as well. Self love and respect directs your actions now and your life is happier than ever.

Sounds wonderful doesn’t it? We each deserve to have this kind of energy for ourselves in our homes. Try out the tips I suggest and see how they make you feel. Then get yourself a full Home Energy Review and really rock your world!

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach


Workmen In Your Home

There isn’t a home in existence that doesn’t need from time to time a visit from a repair man/woman or service worker of some kind. Perhaps it’s your TV connection that needs service, or a new phone line installed, or your refrigerator repaired. From painters to house cleaners it is vital that you “protect” your privacy when having “strange” guests into your home. I am not even talking about the obvious things we must do concerning our security and safety such as putting away cash and other valuables. This is simply common sense and you don’t want to be party to tempting someone who is normally honest and trustworthy into a misdeed. Moving Day

What I am most concerned with here is your Personal Space Energy. Many of us have vision boards up in our homes or affirmation cards on our refrigerator. Some have even created alters or sanctuaries of peace they use daily. These are the very personal items that we don’t want to share with our friends much less a service stranger. I learned this lesson one day with a very observant AC repair man who not only saw but thought it was his right to comment on my vision board. Not cool.

Respect goes both ways. You respect your visitor by preparing your home for them. You clear out the area they need to work in and prepare for their visit. And your respect yourself by securing those areas of your Home Space you want kept private and secured.

A key point to remember: You may need their help but don’t think you are a victim because something in your home has broken and you need help!! Remember you are the one paying them for their service and you deserve great respect.

Having someone into your home is a big deal. This is your private space and no one – even a good friend, has the right to be there without your permission and rules. These are people who are not privileged with a key to your home so it’s up to you to be clear on what you are willing to share with them.

There is a reason most of us “clean house” before company comes over. It’s not that we keep a dirty house but because we need to protect our privacy and energy. Our business is our own and we use our homes to process our life. Sure it’s also a common courtesy to freshly prepare our home for guests but more than that we are giving our guest a gift by letting them enter our most private space and sharing our life more intimately with them.

I am always amazed when I see celebrity homes in the magazines. I have yet to see one that I actually believed a celebrity “lived” in.  You can tell that they put their best foot forward for the photo shoot and kept their “life” from showing. I applaud because this is their private space after all. So take a tip from the celebrities and secure your home before you have stranger service providers or even friends over to visit.

‘till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach

Expand Your Personal Space

Expanding your Personal Space is the expression of your personal empowerment in action. Expanding your space only works if you have first explored what it means to be the authentic you and then put those things you learned about yourself into daily practice. That’s right, Personal Space is a practice; it is the practice of being you, the practice of taking-up-space your way. And just like learning how to cook or drive a car, over time you will do what it takes to be you in the world automatically, instinctively even. Expand Your Space

Your inner bossy-ego voice that tells you to “be like the crowd” will know to keep quiet and save its breath because you are so anchored and confident in your true self your ego can’t sway you any longer to go along with the crowd.

Once you are this firmly established in the practice of being yourself openly, you can have great success at expanding your space. This means moving out of your old habitual “culturally correct” routine and entering the world in a new bold and uniquely “you” manner. And you do this while remaining true to your core values and true self. You will know how be spontaneous and navigate in new territory because your inner senses are fully tuned and can lead you on. In other words you will have a fully active internal compass which will always point you in your true north position.

Expanding your space is not about influencing others. It might seem that this is just what you are doing but that is the ego’s illusion. Expanding your space is more like singing out your Soul’s song vs. just humming it to yourself. Your Personal Space energy is a vibration that is there all the time. It surrounds you and keeps you in tune with yourself, even while you are in the company of other vibrations and tunes – like multiple radio waves that surround us at any given moment. They are invisible to the eye and unheard by the ear unless a tuning device is used and a particular channel chosen. You see, anyone who is influenced by you is in charge of their radio station selection. THEY tuned into you so it’s on them to be influenced by your tune …. or not. Never take credit for another’s success, it can never be yours. It’s all theirs for tuning in and then receiving the message you proclaim. Your credit comes from you sharing openly your Soul’s song with respect for yourself and all others.

So how do tune into yourself, empower your unique voice, and expand your Personal Space power? It starts with a simple practice you do in your Home Space; the Private Power Spot. This is a room or a chair in a designated spot in your home that is all your own. No one else uses this space and you fill it with the things that matter most to you. Once you have your designated spot you begin by spending time here. This is quiet contemplative time. All the other spaces of your life are full of engagement with others, either in person or on TV so this space is just for you. Write, draw, read or just day dream. The point is to get quiet so you can hear the inner voice of your Soul which has all the answers to any question you may have on your mind. Its download, refresh and reboot time and just 15 minutes a day can greatly improve your energy and happiness.

If you don’t have a Private Power Spot check out my website for the free book where I go into detail the methods I use to create one for myself and my clients.

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach




Are You Getting What You Want?

I had a professor in college who was a bit of smart aleck and one of his favorite phrases was “Happiness is wanting what you get, not getting what you want.” He used this quite frequently when giving us weekend assignments. I know this phrase is around with other additions but at that time in college I had never heard it before and I thought it was just plain stupid. Time Out

I have come to reconsider my young adult-self’s opinion and I believe my life experience is the reason. I am not sure when inspiration struck but one day while pondering this phrase I decided to give it at try. I thought what if I just said “thank you” for whatever happened? What if I found something to like in what was occurring? This is somewhat like what the character Pollyanna does with her “glad game” but with a twist.

When I know what I am hoping to achieve – what I would consider  the “success” of my objective – and I don’t get the results I wanted,  I will stop and look at what DID happen and ask myself how was getting “this” giving me what I wanted? And surprisingly enough I found in each scenario how I was getting what I wanted at least in the “end result” of my goal.

You see we say we want something, like a new home with specific items, or a new car in a particular color and style and when something else happens we get upset. For instance you are saving for your dream car. You have it all picked out when one day your company transfers you to New York City where having a car is more trouble than benefit. You are frustrated because you didn’t get your wish and you had worked hard for it. BUT – and in life there is always a “but” – you did get your end result/goal. Ask yourself what was the reason you wanted the car? You might find it was because the brand make and model had an excellent safety record, or was reliable or was comfortable. Perhaps it was a “green” car and good for the environment and your pocket book by using less gas. The reasons behind our wishes are what we want to focus on here. So getting the job in NYC just happens to be within walking distance to your home and if it is raining your building has a car service to drive you. So right there you have reliable transportation, comfort and good for the environment and you get to where you are going in style….NYC style.

I recently created a wish list of what I wanted to have happen for my life before a big family event. I didn’t achieve a single one of my wish list items specifically but I did get the end result I had been working for. The energy, feeling and health I needed were all there for me when the big day came. And when I looked at my list of “wants” the reason for each one was what I received even if the specific way I thought it would play out was different. This event is now one of my happiest memories ever!!

So the next time you find yourself unhappy for frustrated with the way your life is moving along, stop and ask yourself…

  • What exactly did I want or hope would happen?
  • Why did I want it play out this way?
  • What result was I hoping to achieve?
  • What feelings did I want to have?
  • Just what is my “happy end result?”
  • Next look at what DID happen and see if you did receive your “core reasons” after all
  • If not then ask yourself “how does what DID happen benefit me?” It might be a next step toward your master goal.

You might find that you did get at least part of what you wanted after all.

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach


Entertainment Cleaning Tips

Do you hate house cleaning? Ever find that you are too tired and just don’t want to bother? Well….do you have a favorite TV show or movie that you tend to watch multiple times? Perhaps a sit-com that makes you laugh or an hour drama that really captures your attention? Maybe you like the talk shows or 24 hour news shows or sports. No matter what your TV entertainment of choice is, this is a tip I use to keep my Home Space in order.

Entertainment Cleaning Tips:

  1. I will prepare my favorite drink and snack and set it all up in the kitchen for easy access when I need it Sheldon's spot
  2. Next I gather all my cleaning supplies and tools
  3. Last I turn on the TV show or movie I want to listen to while I work

If I am especially tired and really don’t want to do the cleaning my home needs I will sit and watch a TV show and when the commercials come on I get up and move. If I am watching a DVD or commercial free TV I will set my phone timer for every 20 minutes, pause and work for 10 minutes or so then sit back down and watch 20 minutes more. I can vacuum during the commercials and not miss my show. This method is slower but before long I have had fun, enjoyed a favorite show or two and my house got miraculously cleaned without me getting tired.

If I feel the need for intense cleaning and fast action I will put on a show with no commercials. I choose a show I have almost memorized and that I enjoy listening to. I will clean the kitchen, dust, spot the mirrors, tidy and do everything I can that isn’t noisy while I listen/watch my show. Then I take a break with my fun snack. When I have finished with the “quiet” cleaning list I will pause my show and get the noisy work done such as vacuuming and turning over a load of laundry. Then I return to my show and enjoy the fact that my house got cleaned while I was “playing around!”

These tips work especially well in a small home but when I had a bigger home I would do something similar by tuning all the TV’s to the same show so I could “watch” as I moved about. Of course you can do the same thing with music but I find music works best if I am cleaning with someone and TV shows work better if I am the only one working.

I know these tips seem kind of silly but they really work. I even employ the TV show method on a nightly basis as I prepare my dinner, fix my food for the next day at work and clean up my kitchen. I may be tired from my work day but this gives me just the boost I need to stay on top of my chores each evening so the weekend isn’t full of dirty dishes in the sink and messes all over the place.

One of my favorite shows is The Big Bang Theory or old Seinfeld reruns. It’s like cleaning with friends because the characters have become so familiar and fun to listen/watch with. The TV or movie distraction gets the job done with enjoyment vs drudgery.

Give it a try and let me know how you like Entertainment Cleaning.

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach

Bread Crumb Clues

Just like Hansel and Gretel in Grimm’s Fairy Tales we too leave clues to help us find our way home again. Every day as we go about our business we leave “bread crumb”  clues for ourselves and if we noticed and used them they would lead us home to our True Authentic Self.

ClueYou might ask “what in the world is she talking about now? and What is a “bread crumb clue?” These clues come in the form of feelings and actions such a mild irritation, or stomach upset. They might come in the form of a cold or sinus attack. They can even come disguised as food cravings.

In our Home Space the clues are usually invisible to us but obvious to an outsider. For instance if I visit a home and find there are a lot of dishes in the sink or laundry in the laundry room I am able to notice and see this objectively because I don’t live there, and the items don’t belong to me. I may not know the reason for these events but it will be clear there is an unresolved issue. The people who live there might not “see” the dishes and laundry anymore because they are ignoring or dismissing it out of habit. Only the person who leaves the bread crumb will know what the message from their authentic self might be – but only if they stop and take an objective look now an then at what is going on around them will they even be able to see what is in front of their eyes.

Here are some common clues we may find in our Home Space. Look at each one and ask yourself if this was happening in your space what would the message mean for you?

  • A closet full of clothes all mixed together
  • A closet full of clothes organized by color
  • A closet full of clothes organized by type of item such as pants, skirts, jacket
  • Books on the shelf – some standing some turned backwards some lying down
  • Books on a shelf with the title facing out, straight and standing
  • Books on a shelf organized by author and type of content, straight and orderly
  • Pictures hanging straight on the wall, spaced together as a unit
  • Pictures hanging crooked on the wall with the glass full of smudges

This is just a quick sample of what I observe when I visit a home and the reasons behind each event are varied and diverse. There is one common element among all of them; when we stop to notice what we normally ignore or dismiss we can learn valuable information about what is going on in our lives and within our own psyche.

To give you a personal example: for myself a closet all organized means I am having a good week where I don’t feel rushed or overwhelmed. My closet gets messy when I have too many things unfinished in my life and I find if I will stop and organize my closet or drawers I suddenly feel better – as if I found the silver lining around my dark cloud. Soon the rest of what is going on in my world settles into order. Either I start getting more done because I am feeling better, or something happens and the item is deleted from my “to-do” list. Taking time for myself to do the little things makes a big difference in my overall energy.

What do your “bread crumb” clues say to you and are you willing to listen?

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach

Energetic Design

There is a transfer of energy which occurs when we enter a decorated environment whether indoors or outdoors and I call this phenomenon “Energetic Design.” To give you a quick sample of what I am talking about try to recall how you felt the last time you walked into a public arena say for a baseball game or a theater for a play or a Starbucks for a coffee…now hold that feeling in your mind. Now recall how you felt the last time you walked into a library. Do you feel the difference in your body? These are extreme examples that are also defined by the fact that they are group settings versus private settings, so the dynamic is more powerful. But this example gives you the picture I want to talk about. New Bell Starbucks (1)

This is the energy I am speaking of when I discuss how you take up space because this taking -up-of- space includes the furnishings, colors and decor you surround yourself with. It also includes the colors and style of clothing you wear and it includes the “story” behind the items you own and surround yourself with.

Our Energetic Design “speaks” to those who see you even before you have said a word to them. For example the Goth style of dress some young adults wear, you know the all black look with heavy makeup, body piercing and colored hair. Without even saying a word the “energy” of their expression is speaking for them and depending on who is present the reception could be “cool” or “yuck” and will cause the recipient to either approach this Goth decorated person or back away. These are prejudices of course but that is what Energetic Design does, it creates in us a moment of “pre-judging” or first impression which may or may not be the full story. It is part of the story and we need to be aware of what Energetic Expression we are projecting to be sure this is an honest example of our truth or we could find we are being misunderstood.

The energy of furniture placement is what Feng Shui is all about and commercial building designers have been using the energy of color deliberately for years. Science tells us that the color red will encourage people to be hungry so you will often see red in restaurants.

One way to apply Energetic Design for yourself is to notice as you go about your week how the different places you visit make you feel. When you find a place that feels really comfortable to you, stop and break down the elements to see why this is. Perhaps it is the color they use or the type of furnishing, or the amount of window space that appeals to you. Doing this can help you as you decorate your home to be sure to include some of these same elements.

Years ago I discovered I tended to gravitate toward restaurants, business and stores that used a lot of green indoor plants. The other common decorating element here is window space to give the plants the light they need. So now I know that large open windows with gardens inside and out are important for me to have in my Home Space.

There are a few chain restaurants that I avoid eating at even though I love their food. The common element here is hard wood tables and chairs with tile floors without any soft fabric on the furniture, walls or windows to absorb the echo. I get a headache just standing in line to get my food so no way am I going to eat there!!

My local library has great seating, wonderful window lighting and a quiet environment EXCEPT they chose florescent lighting that hums loudly so I don’t spend time there either.

These are just a few examples of things you can notice about your environment and discover if they give you energy or take it away. Being conscious is the first step to making the changes you need to really energize your life.

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach


The Cleaning Party

Do you love to clean your home? Unless you are the rare individual you most likely say “no, but I like having it done.” The problem is it won’t “be done” unless someone does it. I have never had a cleaning service for my home and I am not sure I would like it. Our Home Space is filled with our personal things and to have a stranger come in and handle it just wouldn’t feel right to many of us, not to mention the cost involved. So the next best thing I have fouind is to make Cleaning Day an event. Cleaning Supplies

I first got this idea from the Disney movie “Snow White.” Remember how she cleaned the home of the Seven Dwarfs and sang that song “Whistle While You Work?” Now we don’t have a crew of cartoon birds to help us, but we can still make it fun. When I was a in grade school I would clean house every Saturday morning with my two sisters. We were each 4 years apart so our tasks were based upon our age and capability. The older sister would set up the party by putting the stereo on loud -usually it was The Beatles playing and then she would pour us each a Coke, and fill a bowl of potato chips. Our fun food snack would be in the kitchen when we needed it and we would clean the kitchen last.

We moved through the house together working in the same room, each doing a different task and singing along with The Beatles. It might have taken us longer to clean the house this way but I guarantee it was way more fun that doing the job alone and without the “fun” elements.

I recommend The Cleaning Party for all my clients –  especially the families who have a combination of personalities living together. This way the “neat freaks” don’t feel like all the messes are theirs to clean up and the “messy” ones get help organizing their stuff. If you live with others get everyone together for a family meeting. These are best done with food and an energy of fun as well. Make a chart of all that needs to be done and how often. Then assign tasks. Try to work together doing one room at a time if you can because then no one feels isolated and overwhelmed. Place your “Plan of Attack” on the refrigerator and on the selected day and time meet in your cleaning clothes and set up your Party elements. This can be fun music or a TV show playing in the background and set up your food station. Clean the kitchen last so that when you are done even the Party is cleaned up.

Remember that the Cleaning Party is only for the combined spaces that the family shares. All private room spaces need to be cleaned by the owner of that space unless they ask for help.

If you live alone – as I do now that I have an “empty next” – you can still have a Cleaning Party. These days my Party consists of a visit to Starbucks first, then I usually put on a funny TV show I have memorized and I take my list and move from room to room. I also have my lunch all prepared and waiting in the kitchen because the whole house takes me a whole day without help. One day I may hire some help but I know I will work along side of them-ha!

I hope this helps you embrace keeping your Home Space clean and functional for all live there!

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach

Awareness – Acceptance – Action

Living with others can be a daily challenge. Even living with just ourselves can be a challenge – some days we drive ourselves crazy! The “Three A’s” tip is the one thing I know that works every time I need help getting my life back on track. This is how it works…

Living on Auto-PilotUsually when I am having a “bad day” or am supremely irritated with and event, person or situation if I can remember “The Three A’s” I will be able to bring sanity to my mind and restore my energy. The first step is to stop and notice what is actually bothering me. I may need to go deeper than my first thought to get to full Awareness of the situation. For instance say I am mad at the delay at the doctors office. At first I might think it is because I am a busy woman and don’t have time to waste at the doctors. But if I go deeper and ask “what else is this about for me?” I might come up with an inner wound that got triggered by this event and if I take the time to clear it I am not bothered anymore.

Or perhaps I might ask “what is causing this to happen-is there a good reason for this delay at this time?” With this question I have achieved #1 Awareness – I am now fully aware of my situation and the doctor event, and I have moved to #2 Acceptance of what is going on in the moment. Then #3 Action – almost happens by itself as I get up and ask the front desk receptionist what might be the reason the doctor is late. It is here that I learn he witnessed a car accident on his way into the office and is providing emergency care to the wounded.

The funny thing about The Three A’s (which I think originate from the AA 12 set program) is that most of us want to just jump to #3 Action without getting fully clear and Aware of what the REAL problem is and this just doesn’t work out well in the long run. Most of us don’t take the time to become fully Aware and we really don’t like Acceptance. Nope. Not for me we say! It’s “their fault” we say and all this does is dis-empower us as we attempt to solve the part of this scenario that is our problem.

To paraphrase the wise Hawaiian therapist Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len; if you see it, notice it and feel it then some part of the problem is yours to solve – you share responsibility. And “responsibility” means responding-with-ability  a very self-empowering action!

So the next time you find yourself upset or annoyed and the immediate solution doesn’t occur to you –  stop and see if you can apply the Three A’s to assist you. Chances are the right action is not occurring to you  because you don’t know what the “real” problem is or you know what it is and are not able to accept it. Remember Acceptance does NOT mean approval – it just means right here and right now you can see that “this issue” is occurring, and in the next moment something else will occur. So get over it, above it, beyond it by becoming fully Aware of it, Accepting it, and working with it to solve “this issue” with full awareness  and empowered Action. Good luck!

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach

Creating Harmony For The Odd Couple

Do you live with someone who isn’t as neat as you are? We find this sort of situation funny in a TV show like “The Odd Couple” but in real life it can add disturbing energy to the Home Space we share with others- and that is not good for anyone.

We are each born with unique predispositions so that a “mess” to one person is perfect organization to another. I have seen homes where I couldn’t imagine how they manage, but the people are able to find just what they want instantly. They tell me it’s a matter of having what they want handy and out in the open so they don’t forget it. Moving Day

Most energy workers would frown on this type of functionality. Feng Shui the Chinese art of placement, which is thousands of years old, promotes simplicity and organization and for the most part I agree. But of course I would – I am a Virgo after all-ha! However, during my 30 plus years as a designer I have seen many instances where a mess wasn’t really a mess, and to ask the owner to clean it up would be a great disservice to their creative energy. Only the beholder of the mess knows whether it is a problem or a style of living for them. In another post I will go over how you can tell the difference but for now I want to focus on how two polar opposite types can live in harmony together.

The first thing I would advise to a couple or family that has different views on mess and order is for them to grant each person a room of their own. If that is not possible then a room they have the right to create in their particular style of messy or neat. This space becomes “sacred space” to the one it belongs to and they get to have the whole space in their style of functionality without any judgment from others. Once each person has their designated space, the rest of the home is divided between all the other members in a manner that shares styles. For instance the living room – if this is the room they entertain guests in then this space would become a mostly “neat space” so as to allow guests space to sit and visit. The TV or family room might be a blend of the two with a designated chair space for the messy one and one for the neat one. To give you an example of this check out the TV show Frasier where the dad has his scruffy chair in the pristine modern Living Room of Frasier’s loft. The two parties agree not to “mess with” the others portion of each shared room and to be responsible for their part only.

For the “community rooms” in your home – those that you share and are half messy and half neat I suggest creating special days as “cleaning days.” In my experience the messy ones frequently feel overwhelmed by their mess and perhaps in need of some TLC attention. A special cleaning day is just the ticket. On this day you set aside time for the two of you (or whole family) to clean and tidy the home together. I call this a “Cleaning Party” and that is just what you want to make it. Put on a funny TV show you all love or music while you work. Have a coke or Starbucks coffee and fun snacks. Create a plan to go room to room and assign tasks ahead of time for each member. The key here is to HAVE FUN while cleaning and bonding. In this activity the Home Space becomes YOUR Home Space and is a great harmony booster.

With a set day and time for the whole family to clean together the messy one gets the help they need and the neat one doesn’t feel that all the cleaning is on their shoulders alone and both get bonding time. Acceptance is the gift of love we give to each other and to ourselves!

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach