Perfection Is Boring

In her original and humorous book on eating raw fresh food “Crazy Sexy Diet” Kris Carr says “perfection is boring.” As a recovering perfectionist this made me laugh out loud the first time I read it and then it began to sink in….was it possible that at those times I was being “perfect” I was actually being rigid and boring? Yes! She is absolutely right!

Think about it from various viewpoints…say we got the perfect weather year in and year out…you know when the weather forecaster says …”and the average temperature is…” and it would never vary, never have sunny days when it is suppose to be rainy season or snow when it is suppose to be warm. That would get boring wouldn’t it? 9-6-11 Mom's Sedona Birthday (36)

Or say you ate the very same food each day of the week like the character Sheldon does in “The Big Theory” and if he goes off that schedule he goes nuts…even if he would rather eat something else he won’t…that is boring for sure!

Being adaptable and flexible is the spice of life and who wants a bland life? Now a routine or schedule is great to follow for it gives us stability and structure but from time to time it’s important to spice up our life with variety and being imperfect is the “perfect” way to do this. For instance say you are driving your regular route one day and the road you want to travel is blocked by an accident, so you have to take a detour. Instead of getting upset realize that “Life” is sending you in a new direction for some reason and use this time to notice all the new things you encounter. You might find a better route home or discover a favorite shop was just built and if you hadn’t been re- routed you wouldn’t have realized this.

Tips For Perfectionists:

  1. Next time you get upset because something didn’t go “right” stop and ask what about this scenario IS going “right” because even if just one part went the way you hoped – it is a success.
  2. One or two days a week take a different route home from your job just for the adventure of it all
  3. One or two days a week eat a new food you have never tried before. Keep a journal and note your brave new choices and if you liked them or not. You may find that just trying something new even if you did’t like it made you feel lighter and more energized. Remember routine held too tightly can end up feeling like the walls of a cage. Set yourself free.
  4. Can you think of any other ways to mix up your life and add “spice” to your day?

Who do we have to be perfect for anyway? For me it was a childhood wound of feeling inadequate and unworthy which made me feel as if I needed to go the extra mile all-the-time just to be barely acceptable. Funny thing is, if you go the extra mile all the time it’s not really “extra” anymore. It becomes your norm and then you end up feeling like you will never measure up. To be honest we won’t ever be able to please others, it’s simply not in our power or our job to do so. We each decide for ourselves how pleased we will be by the events around us; therefore the only one you can be perfect for is you!!

So go ahead and mix it up a little, make mistakes, take detours and laugh about it as you go and discover something new along the way. Lighten up like a butterfly that just fitters about not caring if it has a perfect moment and not caring if it looks scattered and unfocused. Only we in our minds know what we are about and the rest of the worlds doesn’t matter.

So let go of boring perfectionism and start being spicy interesting instead and see if your life energy doesn’t improve!!

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach

The Inner Holiday

From Thanksgiving until New Year we have the “Winter Holiday Season” which can be quite overwhelming to our senses. We are inundated with music, color, lights, gifts, food, social events, and nonstop commercials to buy this or that. With all this activity it can be difficult to remember that the holiday season is really only happening inside of us!! The power for how we mark this time of year (happy, sad, chaotic, peaceful etc.) is not up to Toys R Us, JC Penney or Starbucks. It’s not up to your mother, your friends, the local church, your Rabbi or your neighbors. It is only up to you.

Sedona Day OffOur senses act as personal filters for everything going on around us. Our thoughts and beliefs tell us how we feel about what we are experiencing. For example; this time of year we have a big selection of major movie releases and this year has a doozy with the continuation of the Star Wars series. No matter how much money this movie makes there will be a huge range of opinions about it – no two people who see it will see the same movie. And the same is true for what our experience of Christmas or Hanukkah or Kwanzaa will be. It’s in our hands alone; the power to filter what comes across our path. We get to choose what to think, what to say, and what to feel in every moment. No one can control us for they don’t live inside of us. No one is in our minds, our hearts or lives behind our eyes but us.

But there is a trick to doing this “choosing” especially this time of year. The trick is to get quiet time for yourself daily if you can, even if it’s just for just 15 minutes. This will help you to restore your energy and collect your thoughts so you feel centered and balanced as you dance through all the activities you have planned. It will also help you to process and download the overload to your senses so you can detach and choose what is best for yourself in the moment.

No matter what happens in your life during this time of year, you can choose peace. You can choose to be happy and grateful or stressed and miserable. Flexibility is your best friend here. Bear in mind that plans are just that PLANS; not events taking place in the current moment, and plans can and will be changed, so remain open to this and flex with what does happen next. Be okay with what comes next and the right response to it will occur to your now open mind. This is how to maintain the feeling of peace inside yourself; which you can choose no matter what is going on outside of you. The first best choice you can make will be to find time for contemplative peace daily.

Give yourself  the gift of happiness this holiday season by taking short breaks and get away from it all. This way you can find happiness and gratitude over and over and over again and your holiday season will be wonderful!

Happy Holidays!
Your Personal Space Coach



The True Cost of a Gift

Just before Thanksgiving I heard a commercial for some item that a local department store was selling that they guarantee is “the best price ever” for this item…”get more for your money” at this location….”it’s the best value anywhere” and that’s when it hit me. Is this the “best value” anywhere? How could it be if purchasing it voids the values you possess? You see in order to get this “best price ever” you have to be at this store by midnight on Thanksgiving night, not to mention MIDNIGHT??? Who are we freakin kidding here? How in the world is that the best value? Spoil one holiday in favor of another? And is it even honoring the winter holiday sentiment of “peace and goodwill toward men” to go to these extremes to purchase the perfect gift? As if you won’t be loved and your holiday won’t be a good one unless you get some specific gift at just the right price? Just how is that goodwill? Believe

In order to tally up the real cost of this item I think you have to answer a few questions such as;

  • What is a good night sleep worth to you?
  • What is your Thanksgiving holiday worth to you?
  • Is the gift you are giving and the person you are getting it for worth the $5.00 or the $50.00 you “save” by being up at midnight on Thanksgiving?

So this got me thinking…just what is the cost of a gift? And should a gift really cost anything at all? Let me explain. There are gifts that are completely money free such as; doing someone a favor like washing the dishes for them, taking care of a loved one when they get the flu, or giving someone a compliment, or how about just smiling at the lady at the checkout counter? All are free and all really appreciated.

Then there are gifts that cost money but if you have that money saved away for buying gifts it’s not much of a cost now is it? If you go into debt on your credit card then that gift just became infinitely more “costly.” What about the time you spend to purchase a gift or the gas you use? Say you go to store after store because they are out of stock? What about if you feel guilty because the gift you wanted you couldn’t get so you go for some other item to “make up for their disappointment” and it is more expensive than the one you intended to purchase.

I think it’s important that the giver truly enjoy the shopping, and selecting experience. This puts positive energy on the gift for everyone involved.

Also stop and get clear and “own” what you give and “why” you are giving it because what we give instantly comes back to us. The give-receive energy exchange is instantaneous and both parties are receiving the intent, the energy behind the gift. So if you stress over the gift, you receive stress. If you give to manipulate someone, you are the one manipulated. If you give to show someone you love and cherish them, you are then the recipient of love and adoration as well.

As you move through this holiday season selecting gifts ask yourself, what was the real cost of the gift? If you say “noting” because of the joy and love you got in giving it then I say you succeeded where most fail. You got the point of it all.

So don’t let the store ads push you into doing something you wouldn’t “love” to do. Take your power back and be a deliberate gift giver this year. Have fun shopping and give with love for all.

Happy Holidays!

‘till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach


Energetic Design Tips – Color

Color is a quick and powerful way to add energy to your Home Space and is best done with a plan in mind – here are a few tips that will get your plan off to a great start.

Tips for Choosing Color:

  • Starting out fresh? – begin with 3 of your favorite colors first and see what items you can find that use these shades. Three is a good start and won’t overwhelm your space with conflicting energy. Remember color is actually a vibration so keep it simple.
  • iphone-pics-6-109.jpgIf you already have your home established and need to update with some new fresh colors, then you will want to first gather samples of the colors you currently have and are keeping. This way you can easily incorporate a new shade that is harmonious with the rest of your décor. Paint chips, fabric samples and washcloths are a great way to create samples of the colors you already are using and are easy to carry with you when you shop.
  • Colors change according to the lighting used. Fluorescent lighting will add a blue hue to your colors and incandescent will add a yellow hue. So it’s important to view all your possibilities from your own home and in the very room you will be adding the item to if possible.
  • Paint Color: You might be out one day and see the perfect color you were looking to paint your walls in but it’s in a child’s toy or on some old book cover. Buy it if you can and hang on to it. Most hardware stores can now match paint color to any sample you can give them. If it catches your eye then find a way to make a record of it.
  • Once you have decided on the color palate you want to use for your home, gather your samples and head to the paint department. Choose paint swatches that match your fabric, carpet, accessory colors and take them home.
  • Get some cardboard (I use the back of used legal pads) cover the board with white paper and then begin arranging your color swatches on the board. Group the colors you will use together and organize them by room if you are doing more than one.
  • Once you like your color arrangement and you can see that the colors work together – glue them down and write what items will be in those shades (carpet, wall paint, sofa fabric, pillow, candles etc)
  • Remember when choosing your color pallet to consider the “view” your room presents. Ask yourself what other rooms are visible from this space? Example: Recently I did a “three-in-one” room section of my home which included the entertainment area, eating nook and kitchen. Since the décor for all three were visible to each other I displayed all 3 spaces on my Mini Color Board together and labeled them. This helped me to keep the color scheme the same (or at least compatible) in all three rooms. The entertainment area was mostly green, eating nook was blue and the kitchen was blue and red. I made sure my accessories for all three created a blend. Blue throw and pillows in the green space, red in the blue nook and green plants in the kitchen created a harmonious flow of the “great room” space.

Now that you have your color theme chosen it will be much easier to shop because you have a plan already in mind and simply want to find what fits your plan. The Mini Color Board will be easy to carry with you as well and if the colors look great in your home when you match them in the store they will work in your home as well.

I hope you found these tips helpful!

‘till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach



Energetic Design Tips – Carpet

With the holidays coming many of us like to give our homes a bit of a face lift and one way to do this quickly is to change out our carpet. Now this can be the wall-to-wall kind or a decorative area rug. Basically “carpet” refers to fabric covering on our floors vs hard surfaces alone such as tile, wood, or vinyl. Carpet Color

When visiting a clients home to determine the best selection of carpet for their floors I would ask a series of questions that usually met with the response “oh, I never thought of that.” I tend to think in terms of the energy of things and so my questions reflect this as well.

I always start any decorating project with a notebook to keep track of my selections and to collect my thoughts in.

  • To start your search for a new carpet or rug you will want to begin at home with what you are now living with and list what you love about what you currently have and what you really dislike. Love is great energy and dislike is a message to steer clear of that choice. It might give good energy to someone else but it is not your match.
  • Note the color – love or hate? What would you rather have?
  • Note the style – shag, wall to wall, area rug, sculpted, etc – love it or hate it? What would you rather have?
  • Note the texture and how it feels when you walk on what you have now. Then when you get to the carpet showroom practice walking on different textures in the store and note how you feel. If you tend to go barefoot or in stocking feet in your home; ask the sales rep if you could walk on the samples that way as well. Make sure they add a sample of the padding as well so you get the best effect.
  • Bring home a few of the large swatches of what you like in the store. Lay them down on your floor at home and as you come and go from the room envision how it will look in the room. Make a log in your notebook of the samples you are considering listing the manufacturer, style,  name, color, lot number and cost per yard. Place a star next to the one you are selecting to buy. Be sure to give yourself 3 good choices in case the one you like is out of stock.
  • Next move the samples to another spot with different lighting. Check it out at night. Keep your note pad handy and rate them. I work with three samples at a time, sometimes 5. As soon as you can limit your possible choices to three you are then able to move on. Usually price or availability will help you make the final selection.
  • Also be sure to place the carpet up against the various other surfaces it will be installed next to such as furniture, cabinets, other flooring like wood, ceramic tile, vinyl etc. You want to make sure the color works in your homes lighting and with all the other surfaces you are still using in your decor.
  • Once you have made your selection and placed your order, ask the sales rep to order you a sample piece. You will add this to your Home Space color board to take with you when you shop for other items to coordinate the carpet colors with the rest of your decor.

Design Tip: As a design feature rugs for the floor need to balance and harmonize a room. Just as in nature most ground surfaces are darker in color than the sky. This gives the energetic effect of being grounded and stabilized. Even a white sand beach can give you the feeling of floating on air so try to make your carpet color a darker shade than your walls and ceiling. If you do chose a light color carpet then be sure to place dark furniture pieces on it to anchor the room as I did in this living room. Think of the shape of a pyramid and how the base is larger than the pointed top; that is the balance of energy you are looking for.

Many years ago there was a large luxury department store in the Phoenix area that chose to decorate the whole store in chrome and white, with white flooring as well. I remember the first time I walked into the place I felt my equilibrium go wacky. I couldn’t get my balance and think and I for sure couldn’t shop and concentrate. I left fairly quickly and the relief I felt when I stepped into the mall with its dark flooring was shocking. So I looked back into the store and took it apart from a design viewpoint and wha-la there it was…they were missing their anchor. It was all sky and no earth for grounding this space.

I hope these Energetic Design tips are helpful to you on your next project. Drop me a note and I will answer any questions you might have.

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach




Believe In Your Dreams

Do you have trouble believing that you can have your dreams, wants and desires? I admit that I have trouble with this from time to time. What I have learned is that I have to be the magnet to attract what it is I want in my life. I can’t just want and wish for it. Even taking action won’t help if I don’t actually “believe” I can have what I want. If I don’t have the belief that it can be mine, and believe I deserve it…then my actions will only result in supporting my “can’t have it” belief. Believe

Belief is magnetic and will attract to you what you believe, so it’s important to examine what we believe in, especially if we are not getting what it is we say we want. To believe is to “know” that this desire is right, good and true for you and all you have to do is open to receiving it fully. You might think if we want something then we are already open to receiving it but this isn’t always the case. Sometimes we want things because our heart calls us to reach for it but perhaps we have had an experience, or training that gives us another belief that having this item would be bad for us. For example say we wanted to be wealthy but at the same time all our life our parents spoke harshly about the wealthy people they knew. Perhaps they called them crooks or stingy. Well, our not wanting to lose our parents esteem or not wanting to be considered a crook or stingy might override the desire to be wealthy. Unless we remove the limiting belief we can’t have the abundance desire even if we believe we deserve wealth. See how that works?

So how in the world do we know if we have a limiting belief to clear out? Well you have to play detective and ask yourself some questions such as;

  • Where did the idea of what you want come from? Was it TV, your mother, your friends?? Is it a deep and true calling from your heart or is something that others told you to want? If it’s not really what you truly want you will very likely find a way to block it from happening. In this case the limiting belief is going along with the crowd instead of listening to your own heart. You might manifest the desire but it won’t make you happy even if it makes your friends and family happy. Examine what it is you really want and see if you can create a win-win situation; get what you want and what they want as well.
  • Think of something you know you don’t want, then ask yourself “why not?” What are your good reasons? Do these reasons/beliefs still ring true for you? If not, just by being conscious of them you can remove them. Next what would be the opposite of this “don’t want” that you would like to have? Often our dislikes give us great information about what it is we are really wanting. Let them inform you.
  • Look at your life, your home, or your work. Pick one area of success (a dream come true) and see if you can discover the belief you had to have to get this.
  • Now look at a desire you don’t currently have and ask “what would I have to believe in order for this to show up in my life?” Do I have a belief that might contradict my desire and block me from having this?
  • You might also look at this missing desire and see if something you currently have has to go in order to have the new thing. For instance say you want to live in New York City and currently you live in LA and you drive a SUV. You might have to let your love of driving and the SUV go in order to have the New York City flat because they don’t work together very well.

Getting what we want is actually a rather simple thing to do. The fact that we are complex beings is what slows us down. So first make sure it is what you truly want, from your heart, and then if you are not able to manifest it do a little detective work to see how you might be blocking your dream from coming true.

‘till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach

Stop Watering Your Problems

In the course of a single day you will have moments that lift your spirits and moments that bring you down. The trick is to keep going. No matter what just happened, in the next moment it can and most likely will change. But sometimes it is really difficult to put on a happy face when things seem to keep going “wrong.” It is during those moments that changing your “station” (like you do on TV) is crucial for your energy and well being. I have a few tips to share that have worked for me. Watering Problem

Feel Better Tips:

  1. When things are going your way it’s important not to dismiss them as “luck” or “flukes” but instead do what we usually do when something goes wrong…rehash the happy moment!! Yep, I mean it. Stop a moment and review what you said, what they said, how perfectly everything went. See that smile on your face? That’s what you want to re-experience and then when you are done say silently to yourself “I want more of that please!” and then move on. This is “watering the success” which will bring more of the same to you.
  2. Next, do the opposite with the event that “went wrong.” Instead of rehashing what you said, what they said, what you didn’t do so well etc. change the channel-turn your attention to something that feels good! If you find you are stuck in a bad memory of an event that went “wrong” move on and get something going that you love, do what you like even if it’s just taking a walk or listening to a favorite song you need in the moment to shift out of the problem. This is like giving your energy a re-boot.
  3. In the evening or when your day is done its good to reflect back. Take what went well and remember what worked. Take what went wrong and decide how you would do it differently. This way both events simply become “information” and you stay in the flow that change is always fluid and you are never stuck or doomed.
  4. Also in your evening reflection, take a moment to add up the bits and pieces of your day so you can see the whole effect. Due to my background as a Home Ec teacher I see each day as a cake I am making. If you pull out all the ingredients for baking a cake; flour, sugar, salt, vanilla, baking soda, raw egg etc and examine and taste each one you might find yourself getting discouraged. Most of the ingredients that make a great tasting cake don’t taste very good by themselves. If you based your actions on this taste test you might give up. That’s “watering the problem” or focusing on the negative and not considering that it has a benefit in the big picture. If you stop now you won’t get the end result you want of a delicious cake for dessert. So you move forward in faith and proceed to make the recipe as directed. You trust as you put this “nasty” mixture into round pans that this is right. You further take a leap of faith when you place these pans into an oven so hot you have to use potholders or risk getting burned! Each and every step by itself looks more like failure than success…slimy raw egg, mouth drying flour, bitter vanilla and burning oven…all look “bad” to our untrained eye.

Our life is like that. Do what comes up next to do and trust in the BIG picture. You will get what you want, especially if you keep your focus on the goal. By focusing on the goal we are led along the path to its location. The path is not the goal but the path is necessary to achieve the goal….no matter how many nasty turns the path takes. It all adds up to the success we want. Trust this!

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach

Don’t Judge A Book By Its Cover

“Don’t judge a book by its cover” is a phrase we use and it is good advice. Yet how many of us judge ourselves “by our cover” and usually we find ourselves lacking? Don't Judge a Book

Each morning we wake up and get ready for our day. We check on our appearance (our book cover) by looking in a mirror as we do our hair, put on our make-up and get dressed. When was the last time you looked at yourself in the mirror and said “hello beautiful!” or “looking good!” to yourself? Why not I wonder? We do look good. How do I know this? Because God doesn’t create ugly! The Universe is overflowing with massive varieties of beauty. From the pug-nose face of a mix-breed dog, to the wild eyes of a fly, to the various sizes, shapes, colors and styles of human beings. If only one style, one color, one shape or “one-size-fits-all” were true then the Universe wouldn’t be so chock full of diversity would it?

Even if you are home with the flu or covered in a rash you are still beautiful. Beauty is value and it goes far beyond the face we carry, or the style we wear. Our true beauty is the total package of us…our thoughts, our generosity, our health and what we create and share with the world. Do you remember Mother Theresa and Princess Dianna? Now on the one hand if we were going to “judge a book by its cover” we would say that Dianna was beautiful and Mother Theresa was homely and not so attractive right? And wouldn’t we be mistaken! There isn’t a person alive who encountered Mother Theresa who would say she was anything but beauty in action. Love is true beauty and Mother Theresa taught the world by her actions how to express love beautifully! Now Princess Dianna was beautiful as well both in fashionable style and in deeds. She started out as “book cover” beauty and became the full value of beauty by her actions over time. Mother Theresa never expressed herself in fashion beauty but then her life mission didn’t require that, while Princess Dianna’s did.

So don’t get caught up in the package. Go deeper and see the full picture and I guarantee you will find beauty within and by noticing it you allow it to bloom even brighter!

The next time you find yourself critically judging your appearance STOP and remember there is more to you than that “bad haircut” or whatever you are judging yourself about. Begin listing all the qualities you possess you are proud of. Count your blessings instead of your wants. Do this in front of the mirror and before you know it you will see the beauty that you truly are shine forth from the sparkle in your eyes!

One of my favorite authors calls this sparkle “Soul Shine” which is exactly correct. So get your Soul Shine up to full power before you leave for your day and I guarantee your energy will soar and your day will be as beautiful as you are!!

‘till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach


Entertainment Cleaning Tips

Do you hate house cleaning? Ever find that you are too tired and just don’t want to bother? Well….do you have a favorite TV show or movie that you tend to watch multiple times? Perhaps a sit-com that makes you laugh or an hour drama that really captures your attention? Maybe you like the talk shows or 24 hour news shows or sports. No matter what your TV entertainment of choice is, this is a tip I use to keep my Home Space in order.

Entertainment Cleaning Tips:

  1. I will prepare my favorite drink and snack and set it all up in the kitchen for easy access when I need it Sheldon's spot
  2. Next I gather all my cleaning supplies and tools
  3. Last I turn on the TV show or movie I want to listen to while I work

If I am especially tired and really don’t want to do the cleaning my home needs I will sit and watch a TV show and when the commercials come on I get up and move. If I am watching a DVD or commercial free TV I will set my phone timer for every 20 minutes, pause and work for 10 minutes or so then sit back down and watch 20 minutes more. I can vacuum during the commercials and not miss my show. This method is slower but before long I have had fun, enjoyed a favorite show or two and my house got miraculously cleaned without me getting tired.

If I feel the need for intense cleaning and fast action I will put on a show with no commercials. I choose a show I have almost memorized and that I enjoy listening to. I will clean the kitchen, dust, spot the mirrors, tidy and do everything I can that isn’t noisy while I listen/watch my show. Then I take a break with my fun snack. When I have finished with the “quiet” cleaning list I will pause my show and get the noisy work done such as vacuuming and turning over a load of laundry. Then I return to my show and enjoy the fact that my house got cleaned while I was “playing around!”

These tips work especially well in a small home but when I had a bigger home I would do something similar by tuning all the TV’s to the same show so I could “watch” as I moved about. Of course you can do the same thing with music but I find music works best if I am cleaning with someone and TV shows work better if I am the only one working.

I know these tips seem kind of silly but they really work. I even employ the TV show method on a nightly basis as I prepare my dinner, fix my food for the next day at work and clean up my kitchen. I may be tired from my work day but this gives me just the boost I need to stay on top of my chores each evening so the weekend isn’t full of dirty dishes in the sink and messes all over the place.

One of my favorite shows is The Big Bang Theory or old Seinfeld reruns. It’s like cleaning with friends because the characters have become so familiar and fun to listen/watch with. The TV or movie distraction gets the job done with enjoyment vs drudgery.

Give it a try and let me know how you like Entertainment Cleaning.

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach

The Cleaning Party

Do you love to clean your home? Unless you are the rare individual you most likely say “no, but I like having it done.” The problem is it won’t “be done” unless someone does it. I have never had a cleaning service for my home and I am not sure I would like it. Our Home Space is filled with our personal things and to have a stranger come in and handle it just wouldn’t feel right to many of us, not to mention the cost involved. So the next best thing I have fouind is to make Cleaning Day an event. Cleaning Supplies

I first got this idea from the Disney movie “Snow White.” Remember how she cleaned the home of the Seven Dwarfs and sang that song “Whistle While You Work?” Now we don’t have a crew of cartoon birds to help us, but we can still make it fun. When I was a in grade school I would clean house every Saturday morning with my two sisters. We were each 4 years apart so our tasks were based upon our age and capability. The older sister would set up the party by putting the stereo on loud -usually it was The Beatles playing and then she would pour us each a Coke, and fill a bowl of potato chips. Our fun food snack would be in the kitchen when we needed it and we would clean the kitchen last.

We moved through the house together working in the same room, each doing a different task and singing along with The Beatles. It might have taken us longer to clean the house this way but I guarantee it was way more fun that doing the job alone and without the “fun” elements.

I recommend The Cleaning Party for all my clients –  especially the families who have a combination of personalities living together. This way the “neat freaks” don’t feel like all the messes are theirs to clean up and the “messy” ones get help organizing their stuff. If you live with others get everyone together for a family meeting. These are best done with food and an energy of fun as well. Make a chart of all that needs to be done and how often. Then assign tasks. Try to work together doing one room at a time if you can because then no one feels isolated and overwhelmed. Place your “Plan of Attack” on the refrigerator and on the selected day and time meet in your cleaning clothes and set up your Party elements. This can be fun music or a TV show playing in the background and set up your food station. Clean the kitchen last so that when you are done even the Party is cleaned up.

Remember that the Cleaning Party is only for the combined spaces that the family shares. All private room spaces need to be cleaned by the owner of that space unless they ask for help.

If you live alone – as I do now that I have an “empty next” – you can still have a Cleaning Party. These days my Party consists of a visit to Starbucks first, then I usually put on a funny TV show I have memorized and I take my list and move from room to room. I also have my lunch all prepared and waiting in the kitchen because the whole house takes me a whole day without help. One day I may hire some help but I know I will work along side of them-ha!

I hope this helps you embrace keeping your Home Space clean and functional for all live there!

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach