Do You Need to “Re-boot?”

Do you need a “time-out” or a “re-boot” during your day? If you have energy glitches like these the answer is “yes!”

Four Personal Space Energy Lessons I learned from my computer and TV
Pain ReliefComputer: While happily typing along, suddenly your computer sends up a warning that it has to shut down and you better hurry and save stuff or it’s gonna be lost.
Personal Version: This might look like a sudden shocking event in your life, like a death in the family or a layoff from your job. You quickly stop what you are doing in life and switch gears to deal with the crisis at hand.

Computer: While in the middle of a project the computer suddenly freezes up and won’t budge even if you hit “escape” or “refresh.” So you do a “hard” re-boot to get it working again.
Personal Version: This is like “brain fog” where you forget what you were about to do or say. Overwork, multi-tasking and fatigue trigger this symptom and only a “get away” break will revive you. Taking a break, drinking water, getting fresh air, and eating a snack are all “hard” re-boot examples for us to follow.

Computer: In response to your request for help with technical issues IT will say; “well, did you try re-booting it?” This is one of those “if all else fails turn it off and on again” event, or close your browser and re-launch it.
TV: While watching the TV something upsetting comes on so you change the channel.
Personal Version: This happens frequently in social settings. For example you are having lunch with friends and one of them is droning on and on about a subject; you can change the channel by changing the subject. It’s quick, painless and almost unnoticeable.

TV: The “pause button” on our TV is a great space creator by freezing time until you are ready to engage with what you are watching.
Personal Version: A nap is a good example of a “pause” or a break from your work. Both stop the flow your life is currently going in, which allows you time to reassess, refresh and empower your energy. When we re-emerge from this re-booting process more than likely our focus will be changed and our direction improved.

A word of warning; watch out for the common mistake to look at the need for a re-boot as though something was wrong with you. It’s not! This is simply a natural human need for a clarity boost and totally natural for everyone. Even the weather does these sudden shifts of unexpected direction and energy shifts which “clears the air.”
Life is meant to be enjoyed and lived as it comes. Surprises are the spice of live. So go ahead and re-boot, pause, change channels as necessary, you’ll be happier for it.

Write back and tell me about some of your recent personal space re-boots and what you gained from them.
‘till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach©

Do You Dare Express Your Unique Style?

I love watching people, and the longer I do the more I come to realize that we truly are one of a kind. Some days it’s difficult to notice the unique qualities each person is capable of and on other days it hits you in the face and it almost too much of a shock to absorb. That is what happened to me last week at my local Sprouts. Here I was doing my weekly marketing when I turned the corner and almost ran over this man’s dog. He was so still I didn’t notice him, then the next thing I saw was his owner’s shoes, and as I looked up I got a marvelous shock. Here was a brave man in my midst! He not only brought his dog into the store but was wearing bright red and green seekers, a sombrero hat and a colorful shirt as well. Unique Dressed Man

I can only assume he had a special need for the dog as I don’t think they are allowed in the store under normal circumstances, but then nothing about this man was normal or usual. I admit I didn’t have the courage to speak to him and in hindsight I wish I could have but no, on this day I high-tailed it out of that section and gave myself a wide berth. Why? Well I asked myself this and to be honest my first thought was that this man was unstable but as I explored my reaction further I have to admit that it was more that his uniqueness was a bit more than I could handle. I feel badly about that and in the future I will check my judgment at the door because he is not the only “odd” dresser in the store. I too tend to dress strangely (to others eyes I am sure) because I happen to wear a visor hat almost all the time I am outside, and even while in the store. I don’t like the sun in my eyes and a full hat will flatten my hair. I wear it inside because if a store is warm I tend to perspire so I will put it on so as not to drip about as I do my shopping. Odd? Yep, that’s me. Perhaps we are all odd … after all there are no two of us alike. Sometimes it works and sometimes it just scares people.

This man made my day. I admire his courage. His color coordination was excellent and so cheerful. There are others that dress “oddly” to our way of thinking and they make it really work for them…remember Michael Jackson and his one gloved hand -or how about Pharrell Williams and his Smokey the Bear hat? Sure actors, musicians and artists are given permission by society to dress and even act oddly so why shouldn’t the rest of us have this same permission? I think we have to give it to ourselves and when we encounter brave dressed men like I did in my local store it paves the way for the rest of us to be exactly who we are “out loud!”

Go forth and be brave in your uniqueness and if I see you I will be sure to cheer you on!

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach©


Stored Energy in Our Furnishings

Have you ever notice how emotional moving our furniture can be? Even if we are excited to make the decorating changes or move to a new location, we will have grief surface because one thing has to end before the new thing can begin. It’s the energy of transition we feel and when we move our furnishings our “roots” get disturbed. There is another reason grief arises when we are moving our furnishings, the energy that is stored in the items we own gets stirred up when we shift them around or pack and move.

11-2012 Sedona Election Trip (245)This is how it works. You have items that are in plain sight but you don’t notice them anymore because you are used to them. When you move them to a new spot suddenly you see them with “fresh eyes” and you might not like what you see. Memories of who gave it to you, or when you bought it surface and suddenly you are overwhelmed with emotions like joy, sadness or repulsion. Now these feelings are great in that they help you to know if you want to keep an item or not, but they can be overwhelming at moving time. If possible try to review all of your possessions before you move and eliminate the ones that you won’t want in your new space. This way that old energy doesn’t move with you.

Next you have items that are special keepsakes and you most likely have them boxed up. High school yearbooks, photos of vacations, mementos etc. As you open them to see what you have and where it will go in your new space, you suddenly are swamped with memories and emotions. If your life is going great then your reminiscing will be a little depleting but sweet. However if your life is not quite where you thought it would be “by now” you might compound your moving grief with self-judgment. Again going through everything before you move will help alleviate this and you can grieve and release in your old home so your move itself is less stressful. However if you can’t to that then I recommend you give yourself permission to leave some things boxed up and slowly go through them over the course of a few months.

I have a three part method for sorting through all my possessions;

  1. Set up an area for “give-a-ways” where you can collect items and then donate
  2. Set up another for “maybe keep items” – this is to give you time to process if you want to keep them or donate them
  3. Keepers- when you know for sure you want an item, put it where you want it to be as soon as possible. If I do this before I move I will label my floor plan with the furniture piece so I can tell the movers where it will go.

Take the “give-a-ways” to the thrift shop each time your car is full. Keep moving this stuff out. Don’t even think about having a garage sale unless this is a thing you love to do because you won’t get as much money as you think you will get, and this just adds to the to-do-list that you already have too much on.

What can be done to dissipate and heal all the memory energy in our possessions? I like to use smudge sticks. I will light a scent that has the energy I want to apply such as sage for purification and I will waif the smoke over the items and hold the intention of letting the old memories go. If I am keeping items I will then use another scent that puts a blessing on my items. Your local metaphysical store will have more information on how to do this. Also my favorite author on this topic is Denise Lynn. Check out her books and website for more energy healing information.

Energy is an invisible component to our lives and understanding how to work with and manage it can really help our overall health and vitality. Good luck with your next moving or clutter clearing project!

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach©




Using Your “No” Power!

I was just a little girl and not yet in school when we got our first black and white TV and I remember it being a really big deal. When color TV came out it was even more exciting, because now it wasn’t just a box on a rickety stand, it was in a finely crafted piece of wood furniture…console TV.

Media in RoomEven before the TV we had a radio in our living room and from the start our listening time was limited. This was due to what time the stations were playing programs.  So even though I am a child of the mass communications age I didn’t feel it ruled our lives. Fast forward to 2015 and it’s an entirely different story.

Not only do we have multiple TV’s in our homes, perhaps one in every room to watch pre-recorded shows, we also have instant connection to the entire world through the internet and social media. The first telephone we had when I was a kid was a “party line” which meant our calls were not private and we had to go through an operator to ring someone. Today my phone is “smart” and can connect with the world in real time. Now before you think I am ancient, this was just 50 years ago and the previous 50 years only saw the invention of the telephone and radio!!

Inventions are happening much faster than they used to – are we keeping up? Are we “smart” with our phones and other electronics or do they control our lives?  What we do to get along and entertain ourselves has completely changed and I want to address how this has affected our ability to find and create separate space for ourselves – and maintain our personal power.

In order to have personal power we must first have our “person” intact. This was difficult to do when I was a teen/adult and it is exponentially more difficult today thanks to mass media and a plethora of devices. The choices we are presented with each day are too numerous to count and it’s easy to get lost in the sea of information and technology. The best way to combat this influx of sales stimuli is to make space for yourself where you can hear yourself think and more importantly feel yourself react to life. It is through our feelings that we can really know when we are in harmony with our True authentic self. The thinking mind or ego will want to “belong” in the world and since it perceives everything as danger, it rarely wants to take a stand and be unique. But your heart has all the courage you could ever need to stand up and be your true self. And this courage is fed by having a private spot within our protected personal space. I say protected because that is what we have to do. We do this by choosing what we will and won’t let into our space and this enables us to reclaim our power from the world that is invading our home.

Here is an example of what I mean; I was born at the end of the Korean War and soon we were in the Vietnam War. Three brothers, 2 cousins, and one uncle all served in the Navy and I was busy as a little girl writing letters and sending care packages so I was quite familiar with wartime energy-or so I thought. When we bombed Kuwait in 1991 live on TV I was not at all prepared and was shocked and horrified. You’d think with all the wars I had experienced I would be numb but they were never “live” in my living room. Neither was the explosion of the Challenger Spaceship or the bombing of the Twin Towers on my TV as a child. We do need to know what is going on in the world however we must say “no” when the media wants us to watch them 24-7 and inundate us with their minutia and bad reporting just for the sake of adding money to their coffers. Nor do we need to get shocked and upset for this helps and empowers no one!! Now more than ever our “no” power must be exerted. And remember this; every time you say “no ”you are saying ”yes” to something else you decided you want more such as peace of mind and space to collect and restore your own energy.

Today I limit how much and when I watch the news. I prepare myself and remind myself that the Universe is indeed in order even if it doesn’t look like it and I send blessings of love and light to all who appear in the media that are troubled. In this manner I use my “no” power in a way that is a “win-win” for all.

How do you use your “no” power?

’till next time
Your Personal Space Coach©




Tips For Book-ending Your Day

In my last blog post I introduced you to my invention of “Book-ending Your Day” for maintaining your best energy all day long. I can tell you from personal experience that on the days I skip my daily two-steps I feel lost, scattered and fragmented, but luckily the next day I can re-boot my energy with my 15 minute practice and restore my energy field. Pain Relief

These tips might give you other ideas of what to try so just review them and allow them to activate your own inner wisdom – because this is where your best routine will come from. Over time you may adjust the process you set up and that is also perfect.

Book-ending Tips:

If you don’t already have a morning and evening stop-and-be-quiet practice this will be your first step; to find a way to stop and be quiet for 5-15 minutes twice a day. But in order to apply this step you must first know what it is you usually do in the morning and evening. So take a week and jot down each day how you start and stop your day. We are looking for the “out-of-bed” and “back-in-bed” routine if you have one, if not just list for one week how each day started and stopped.We learn about ourselves as we go along, if we will only take time and space to self-explore.

  1. Write down your current morning and evening routine, add time of day to this as well because we are looking to add or find 15 minutes at both ends.
  2. Once you have your list of usual activities, see if you want to adjust any of them. For instance change your shower from morning to evening if that fits your lifestyle better.
  3. Next, while looking at your list and the timing, see if you can add in a 5 minute stretch to both your morning and your evening to just sit down in your room quietly – I call this the “STOP” practice. Most of us don’t stop until our head hits the pillow which is why brilliant ideas or answers to questions come then. If we stop while upright we can catch our best thoughts better.
  4. Take your evening list of activities (your bookend) and write them on a card, noting the 5 items you feel must do in order. Then add in your 5 minutes of sitting where it fits. We work with the evening first because most of us have extra time at night to try out something new without being stressed about it. Once you have your evening bookend settled and are practicing it, take a look at how your morning has changed if at all. Many find that by going to bed in a positive, organized manner they wake up with this energy already in place and it feeds into the new day.
  5. Once you feel comfortable with your evening book-end routine and are practicing it, apply the same steps (list activities-review/tweak activities-apply stop time) and create your morning practice. Tweak it as you go and once you have a morning and evening routing created that works for you fairly easily take a look at your calendar and see if you can practice it for the next 21 days in a row…even on the weekends. If you can’t do a full 15 minutes of stop-and-be-quiet time then just do 5 minutes. The daily practice for 21 days will set up the habit.

By now, even if you are not doing this daily, you will have discovered the benefits of Book-ending Your Day for yourself. You may have created an entirely different routine than my example but the key here is to place your attention on what gives you energy and finding your own unique ways to enhance it and keep it charged.

I’d love to hear about your practice.

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach

Book-ending Your Day

I bet you are wondering what in the world is she talking about now? I don’t blame you-lol  This is the best term I could come up with to describe the way I manage my Personal Energy so that I have the best day possible every day of the week.

It came to me one Sunday when I was having a quiet moment in my Private Spot. My energy for Sunday always feel so good to me and I knew it was because I took all the time I wanted to sit in my quiet area, writing in my journal, watching the birds in the trees and just “be-ing” me. I was wondering how I could create this feeling on a daily basis and it occurred to me that I tend to rush around Monday through Saturday but on Sunday I “mosey.” I never have a moments peace until my Sunday routine of doing nothing. Feet Relaxing

I began to wonder if I could “start” and “stop” my day the same way each day…sort of frame all my activities like book-ends frame and support the books on my shelf…perhaps I could give myself better energy and have that content, satisfied feeling I get on Sunday – every day!

So I set out to first notice what I was doing already every morning and every evening to see if any of it was routine….you know like shower in the morning, put your pj’s on at night, that kind of thing.

Next I looked at what I did on Sunday and decided to add mini parts of this to my morning and evening routine and what I came up with is a 15 minute practice before I head out for the day and a 15 minute practice I do before I crawl into bed at night. And it worked!! I began to feel better during my day. If I found myself rushing around like a chicken-with-my-head-cut-off, I’d catch myself and literally stop and repeat the word “mosey” in my head. This usually makes me laugh because it’s such a silly word but it does the trick. I still get everything done without rushing AND I actually get more done and am happier all day long. I also don’t turn to food (chocolate) to comfort me anymore because I don’t need comfort…I start with comfort and end with comfort and all day long I maintain my comfort level almost magically.

In my next blog I will give you a list of tips to apply if you want to try this daily practice out for yourself.

’till next time
Your Personal Space Coach


What is Your Personal Color Match?

Do you have a favorite color? Maybe it’s green, but what shade of green? Is it a color that reminds you of the ocean such as Sea-foam green? A dark forest Hunter green? Or perhaps Lime green? If you don’t know what your favorite color is try this experiment: iphone-pics-6-109.jpg

Color Test:

  • Do this for about 3-5 days
  • Breakfast, lunch and dinner are good times to try this but any time will do
  • Visually scan where you are sitting and see how many different colors you can find
  • Notice which ones feel like “non-colors” or they just blend into the background. This happens often with browns and grays.
  • Try to find a color that evokes an emotional response and make a note of it with your cell phone or notebook. A strong “oh, I love this!” response or a “yuck” response are worth noting. You can even use your cell phone to take a photo of the colors you get a reaction to.

After your 3-5 days are up (go longer if you haven’t found a color that makes you feel joy) you will want to look over your photos and see if you can name one shade that is your absolute favorite. You will know because you will either be smiling when you look at it or will feel an inner smile of joy, it just makes you feel good. Don’t be shocked at your emotional response to color. Color is after all an illusion of vibration. All color originates in white light and the only way we see a color is when it is refracted OUT. Yes I did say “out” and this means we “see” the color that is missing. Nuts right? But that’s science for you, kind of mysterious.

So back to your reaction. Color is a frequency and when you land on one that gives you joy you have found your match…at least for now. This could change over the course of your life. You might stick with green but the shade of green might shift depending on how your vibration (yes you are vibrating as well) clicks with the colors vibration. It’s all energy; you, the world around you, everything in it, and once we recognize this energy we can use it to keep ourselves happy and healthy.

Once you know your favorite color (or colors) check your home decor and your wardrobe – is this color anywhere in sight? Start by adding this color to your home, wardrobe, car and office space in whatever form you want; such as pillows, towels, flowers, candles. Chances are if this is your favorite color it will give you an energy boost to have in your own vibration such as on your body or in the room with you.

Sometimes when I am doing a healing I will “see” a color in my mind and know this is what I need for my therapy. I will pull it up on Google to gaze at while I work or choose to wear it for the day if I own an outfit in that shade.

I hope you have fun with this little color experiment and find that it is an easy, fun way to boost your energy when needed.

By the way my childhood favorite color was blue- I used up that crayon shade the fastest 🙂 It’s the (top) blue shade on the bottom left of this photo. As an adult I collect cobalt blue glass so my “blue” has evolved just a bit. And wouldn’t you know it, this same blue is considered a “power” color for my wardrobe as well.

Let me know your favorite color and if it has changed from childhood.

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach

Powerful Privacy

Have you ever considered how powerful privacy is? Being alone with yourself or as I like to think of it… alone = “al -one”…. is a wonderful gift we can give ourselves. Now you might think we are always with ourselves so why do we need to be alone or by ourselves? Well, I would challenge that we are never alone and unless we deliberately work at it we are almost never “al-one”…that is in a space where we can hear ourselves think and feel.

Expand Your SpaceThe reason for this is not just because of the people we have in our lives but the energy of others that is always present either in electronic devices, radio, TV, media or even voices of others in our heads. My parents have been deceased for over 15 years and I still hear their voices in my head (or their beliefs coming out of my mouth if I am not careful-ha!)

So to get away from the world and dive into our own true soulful energy we need to get away-claim some privacy for a while. We must deliberately choose to do this and hold to our commitment to be with ourselves alone (al-one) otherwise the world will seep in.

I often wonder how Henry David Thoreau would manage in today’s environment. Could he go to Walden Pond and produce the same work as he did in 1854? To answer my own question I have no doubt he could, but the journey to make it happen would be different. He’d have to consciously and bravely choose not to have phone, internet and other services. He might have to look a while to find a pond in a forest where the road to it isn’t paved or under the path of air travel. But once he was able to get “al-one” with himself I have no doubt he’d find the same solace and wisdom and Divine answers he found in 1854. And they might be even more profound today considering how much more outside static there is to  clear out in order to hear our soul speak.

When was the last time you gave yourself a private moment? From people? From electronics? From media? Give it a try for one hour and even better drive or hike away from your usual space and sit outdoors and do nothing. You will soon find how powerful true privacy is for the healing of your body, mind and soul.

I would love to hear about your hour of powerful privacy, where did you take it and what gifts did you receive?

’till next time,
Ginger – Marie
Your Personal Space Coach


Is Personal Space Extinct?

Personal Space is slowly becoming extinct. Everywhere we go we are constantly connected to everyone else on the planet. Everywhere we turn someone is telling us how to eat, what to eat, what not to eat, how to dress our body in the latest (and only approved of) styles, how to decorate our home, what the latest and greatest is for every moment of our life experience. Even if we turned off all the TV ads, radio marketing and newspaper ads, internet or magazine publications we would still be prompted by well-meaning others to do it their way. And always there is that unspoken “or else” that is implied. Or else you won’t be popular, or else you won’t get that job, or else you won’t look attractive. And the worst one of all; “or else you won’t be loved.” Pain Relief

Every one of these subtle and not too subtle voices coaxes us all day long to comply. Before you know it, you’ve lost the essence of what makes you tick, what makes you happy. You are lost as to what makes you, YOU. Reclaim and take back ownership of your Personal Space by tuning out the world on a daily basis. You’ll be glad you did and it will keep you sane. The only True voice is the one within your heart and soul; this is the voice of your Divine Inner Self – our Soul Space. It is crucial to our personal power and peace of mind that keep our Soul connection open and active or our life will fade into the world view of “one size fits all.”

It used to be that we could come home and leave the world behind for a while and refresh ourselves. But today with our wonderful internet and instant messaging the world comes with us everywhere. It is up to each of us to choose when, how and where we will take a break and give the world a “do-not-disturb” notice.

My favorite method of turning “off” world opinions is by declaring my unique self in my home decor style and in my wardrobe. I also set aside time each morning and evening (I call it my book-ends) to just sit and be still. Sometimes I meditate but most often I contemplate and watch nature while in my garden or through a window. I get so many good ideas and answers during theses quite “off” moments that I keep a note pad handy to jot down what comes to me, but I am careful not to work it then. I pick it up later when I am back “on” for the day.

Our personal power comes from within, the world can’t help us. No one can sleep for you, no one can eat for you and no one can hear your unique Soul’s voice but you alone. Turn off the world now and then and check in with yourself. This is where your power lies; flip your inner switch ON! You have all the power you need. Stay connected to YOU by managing the world with your own personal “off” switch.

’till next time,
Ginger- Marie
Your Personal Space Coach©

Silly Humor

When was the last time you acted silly – you know like you used to do as a child? I am not talking about “feeling silly” as in the adult version of the word meaning embarrassed. No that form of “silly” isn’t really the good energy feeling of silly that we had as children. Yet it grew from that experience when perhaps as a child some adult figure in our lives admonished us for “acting silly” …as if that was a crime!

11-17-12 Alex's Community Birthday (16) this is the darkest timeline... I have a theory why Disneyland and other amusement parks like this are so popular…they allow adults a time and a place (aka Personal Space) to bring out their silly energy. To act silly is to choose to be happy no matter what is going on. It is to look for the funny part in whatever is happening. It’s not quite the same as what Pollyanna taught us with her “Glad Game” but it is related in that going silly shifts our energy from negative to positive.

One way to infuse the energy of “silly” into your day is to make note of the daily holiday. It seems as if every day has at least one holiday event associated with it. It could be as silly as National Doughnut Day or as common as St Patrick’s Day. This link is just one of many web links that will tell you what “holiday” it is. The point it to just play with it and have fun! Once you know the day’s holiday do something to commemorate it that will add some fun to your life that day. For instance today April 16 is National High Five Day, as well as Wear Your PJ’s to Work Day…you get to pick what you want to have fun with.

We all like to have a good time and that good time starts with us-it never comes from outside of us.I know this from personal experience. Every now and then I have managed to bring a happy event down to mediocre with my attitude and I once went to Disneyland (of all places) with someone who was determined not to enjoy himself and guess what? He was miserable!!

This is why I encourage reactivating our childhood silly vibe – our “funny bone” because unless we find a way to laugh at life and what happens each day, we will grow old and sour. I’d rather grow happier and sillier. Have you ever seen a sour-pus person? Then you know what can happen to us if we forget how to play, laugh and be silly.

Puns are another great way to maintain our silly vibe and there are websites that will send you a “pun of the day” or a “joke of the day” which is a great way to start the energy flowing.

Having happy personal energy is up to each of us. To paraphrase a famous quote by Eleanor Roosevelt “no one (or thing) can make you feel (unhappy) without your consent!”

So do what you did as a child; find things to laugh about, go up to a friend and do that “oh there is something on your shirt trick and then flick their chin” – sign up for one of the daily jokes of the day, play “knock-knock” jokes with your kids….just do whatever it takes to bring a smile to your face, lighten your step and restore your feeling-good energy. You’ll be glad you did and so will the people you meet all day long.

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach