The Personal Space Journal

The Personal Space Journal is the way I keep track of the progress I am making as I explore my ever expanding self-empowerment. I use two types currently; one letter size for deep thought sessions and a minim 5 x 7 one for my decorating notes. You might even want a different one for each of the four Personal Space sections; Soul Space, Body Space, Home Space and Life Space, it’s a completely personal choice. Journal Writing

Choose any style and size that appeals to you. I use the larger size for my thoughts, questions and any epiphanies I might have. There is something about hand-writing things down that exercises the brain and clears our mind. I am reminded of the Harry Potter books and the “pensive” that Professor Dumbledore used to unload his mind; that is exactly what writing in my journal does for me.

Often in my blog posts I will refer to “taking notes” or “carry a sample” when talking about a Home-Space energy reboot project. For this purpose you can get by with a small wire notebook where you can jot down short notes and information. I use a that fits in my purse. It even has pockets in it for paint colors and fabric samples. This mini-journal is a smaller version of the Project Book (a three-ring binder) I will teach you about in a later post and easy to carry with you all the time. You never know when an idea or even a color sample will turn up.

Journals in various sizes are a tool I have used for over 30 years and even though today I carry my iPhone with me, I can’t see it ever fully replacing my hand-written journals. The reason for this is that hand-writing stimulates the brain where we store our creativity. It’s very easy to go from writing a thought to drawing a picture, so I highly recommend you employ this tool at least some of the time.

A second reason the electronic notes won’t work is when doing a decorating project you must have actual color samples with you as you shop because a photograph on your phone won’t represent the color accurately for matching purposes.

So by all means use your phone for taking notes and pictures but you will want to transfer them for storage in one place eventually and the hand written Personal Space Journal is a good choice.

I have also discovered that hand writing brings to the surface a deeper view of what is going on inside of my heart. It’s just too easy to self-edit as I write on my computer but with hand writing noting gets filtered and my deepest feelings are revealed. We need this depth if we are going to access our True power and revitalize our Personal Space energy.

I’d love to see a picture of your Personal Space Journals (the one I use for decorating is pictured here) and let me know how it works for you as you proceed on your project.
’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach©

Are You Self-Conscious?

How self-aware or self-conscious are you? To be conscious is to be empowered. To be self-conscious is to be self empoweredSedona 1. The Personal Space journey is all about making our Personal Space “conscious space.” We do this by exploring what it means to be our authentic selves and then put those things we learn about ourselves into daily practice.

That’s right, Personal Space is a practice; the practice of being you. One of the reasons it needs to become a practice is because the world wants to pull you out of yourself; pull you out of self-consciousness. You have heard that “misery loves company” and until everyone else learns to be personally empowered aka self-aware and conscious they will feel miserable and encourage others to join them. Ever known someone who played the drama game of “ain’t it awful?” Then you know what I mean. TV, radio, printed and internet ads want you to “join the crowd” and be like everyone else; only we were not meant to conform, we were designed to be unique.

When you practice self consciousness over time you will do what it takes to be you in the world automatically, instinctively even. Your inner bossy ego voice that says “I want to be like the crowd”  or “I want to belong” will know to keep quiet and save its breath because you are so anchored and confident in your true self he/she can’t sway you any longer to go along with the crowd. From now on you do belong… you belong to yourself!

Once you are firmly self-established you will have great success expanding your space. This means moving out from your standard routine at home and entering the world while remaining true to your core values. You will know how to navigate in new territory because your inner senses are fully tuned and can lead you on. In other words you will have a fully active internal compass which will always point you in your true north direction.

Expanding your space is not about influencing others. It might seem that this is just what you are doing but that is the ego’s illusion. Expanding your space is more like a vibration that is strong and in tune. It surrounds you and keeps you in harmony with yourself while you are in the company of other vibrations and tunes. Like a radio wave that is floating out there invisible to the eye and unheard by the ear unless a tuning device is used and a particular channel chosen. You see, anyone who is influenced by you is in charge of their radio station selection. If they are tuned into you it’s on them to be influenced by your tune …. or not.

Never take the credit for another’s success, it can never be yours. It’s all theirs. Your credit, the credit you deserve, comes from living your life from inside-out and doing so out loud for the world to see if it chooses to. You do this with respect for yourself and all others.

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach©


Do You Dare Express Your Unique Style?

I love watching people, and the longer I do the more I come to realize that we truly are one of a kind. Some days it’s difficult to notice the unique qualities each person is capable of and on other days it hits you in the face and it almost too much of a shock to absorb. That is what happened to me last week at my local Sprouts. Here I was doing my weekly marketing when I turned the corner and almost ran over this man’s dog. He was so still I didn’t notice him, then the next thing I saw was his owner’s shoes, and as I looked up I got a marvelous shock. Here was a brave man in my midst! He not only brought his dog into the store but was wearing bright red and green seekers, a sombrero hat and a colorful shirt as well. Unique Dressed Man

I can only assume he had a special need for the dog as I don’t think they are allowed in the store under normal circumstances, but then nothing about this man was normal or usual. I admit I didn’t have the courage to speak to him and in hindsight I wish I could have but no, on this day I high-tailed it out of that section and gave myself a wide berth. Why? Well I asked myself this and to be honest my first thought was that this man was unstable but as I explored my reaction further I have to admit that it was more that his uniqueness was a bit more than I could handle. I feel badly about that and in the future I will check my judgment at the door because he is not the only “odd” dresser in the store. I too tend to dress strangely (to others eyes I am sure) because I happen to wear a visor hat almost all the time I am outside, and even while in the store. I don’t like the sun in my eyes and a full hat will flatten my hair. I wear it inside because if a store is warm I tend to perspire so I will put it on so as not to drip about as I do my shopping. Odd? Yep, that’s me. Perhaps we are all odd … after all there are no two of us alike. Sometimes it works and sometimes it just scares people.

This man made my day. I admire his courage. His color coordination was excellent and so cheerful. There are others that dress “oddly” to our way of thinking and they make it really work for them…remember Michael Jackson and his one gloved hand -or how about Pharrell Williams and his Smokey the Bear hat? Sure actors, musicians and artists are given permission by society to dress and even act oddly so why shouldn’t the rest of us have this same permission? I think we have to give it to ourselves and when we encounter brave dressed men like I did in my local store it paves the way for the rest of us to be exactly who we are “out loud!”

Go forth and be brave in your uniqueness and if I see you I will be sure to cheer you on!

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach©


Tips For Book-ending Your Day

In my last blog post I introduced you to my invention of “Book-ending Your Day” for maintaining your best energy all day long. I can tell you from personal experience that on the days I skip my daily two-steps I feel lost, scattered and fragmented, but luckily the next day I can re-boot my energy with my 15 minute practice and restore my energy field. Pain Relief

These tips might give you other ideas of what to try so just review them and allow them to activate your own inner wisdom – because this is where your best routine will come from. Over time you may adjust the process you set up and that is also perfect.

Book-ending Tips:

If you don’t already have a morning and evening stop-and-be-quiet practice this will be your first step; to find a way to stop and be quiet for 5-15 minutes twice a day. But in order to apply this step you must first know what it is you usually do in the morning and evening. So take a week and jot down each day how you start and stop your day. We are looking for the “out-of-bed” and “back-in-bed” routine if you have one, if not just list for one week how each day started and stopped.We learn about ourselves as we go along, if we will only take time and space to self-explore.

  1. Write down your current morning and evening routine, add time of day to this as well because we are looking to add or find 15 minutes at both ends.
  2. Once you have your list of usual activities, see if you want to adjust any of them. For instance change your shower from morning to evening if that fits your lifestyle better.
  3. Next, while looking at your list and the timing, see if you can add in a 5 minute stretch to both your morning and your evening to just sit down in your room quietly – I call this the “STOP” practice. Most of us don’t stop until our head hits the pillow which is why brilliant ideas or answers to questions come then. If we stop while upright we can catch our best thoughts better.
  4. Take your evening list of activities (your bookend) and write them on a card, noting the 5 items you feel must do in order. Then add in your 5 minutes of sitting where it fits. We work with the evening first because most of us have extra time at night to try out something new without being stressed about it. Once you have your evening bookend settled and are practicing it, take a look at how your morning has changed if at all. Many find that by going to bed in a positive, organized manner they wake up with this energy already in place and it feeds into the new day.
  5. Once you feel comfortable with your evening book-end routine and are practicing it, apply the same steps (list activities-review/tweak activities-apply stop time) and create your morning practice. Tweak it as you go and once you have a morning and evening routing created that works for you fairly easily take a look at your calendar and see if you can practice it for the next 21 days in a row…even on the weekends. If you can’t do a full 15 minutes of stop-and-be-quiet time then just do 5 minutes. The daily practice for 21 days will set up the habit.

By now, even if you are not doing this daily, you will have discovered the benefits of Book-ending Your Day for yourself. You may have created an entirely different routine than my example but the key here is to place your attention on what gives you energy and finding your own unique ways to enhance it and keep it charged.

I’d love to hear about your practice.

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach

Book-ending Your Day

I bet you are wondering what in the world is she talking about now? I don’t blame you-lol  This is the best term I could come up with to describe the way I manage my Personal Energy so that I have the best day possible every day of the week.

It came to me one Sunday when I was having a quiet moment in my Private Spot. My energy for Sunday always feel so good to me and I knew it was because I took all the time I wanted to sit in my quiet area, writing in my journal, watching the birds in the trees and just “be-ing” me. I was wondering how I could create this feeling on a daily basis and it occurred to me that I tend to rush around Monday through Saturday but on Sunday I “mosey.” I never have a moments peace until my Sunday routine of doing nothing. Feet Relaxing

I began to wonder if I could “start” and “stop” my day the same way each day…sort of frame all my activities like book-ends frame and support the books on my shelf…perhaps I could give myself better energy and have that content, satisfied feeling I get on Sunday – every day!

So I set out to first notice what I was doing already every morning and every evening to see if any of it was routine….you know like shower in the morning, put your pj’s on at night, that kind of thing.

Next I looked at what I did on Sunday and decided to add mini parts of this to my morning and evening routine and what I came up with is a 15 minute practice before I head out for the day and a 15 minute practice I do before I crawl into bed at night. And it worked!! I began to feel better during my day. If I found myself rushing around like a chicken-with-my-head-cut-off, I’d catch myself and literally stop and repeat the word “mosey” in my head. This usually makes me laugh because it’s such a silly word but it does the trick. I still get everything done without rushing AND I actually get more done and am happier all day long. I also don’t turn to food (chocolate) to comfort me anymore because I don’t need comfort…I start with comfort and end with comfort and all day long I maintain my comfort level almost magically.

In my next blog I will give you a list of tips to apply if you want to try this daily practice out for yourself.

’till next time
Your Personal Space Coach


Is Personal Space Extinct?

Personal Space is slowly becoming extinct. Everywhere we go we are constantly connected to everyone else on the planet. Everywhere we turn someone is telling us how to eat, what to eat, what not to eat, how to dress our body in the latest (and only approved of) styles, how to decorate our home, what the latest and greatest is for every moment of our life experience. Even if we turned off all the TV ads, radio marketing and newspaper ads, internet or magazine publications we would still be prompted by well-meaning others to do it their way. And always there is that unspoken “or else” that is implied. Or else you won’t be popular, or else you won’t get that job, or else you won’t look attractive. And the worst one of all; “or else you won’t be loved.” Pain Relief

Every one of these subtle and not too subtle voices coaxes us all day long to comply. Before you know it, you’ve lost the essence of what makes you tick, what makes you happy. You are lost as to what makes you, YOU. Reclaim and take back ownership of your Personal Space by tuning out the world on a daily basis. You’ll be glad you did and it will keep you sane. The only True voice is the one within your heart and soul; this is the voice of your Divine Inner Self – our Soul Space. It is crucial to our personal power and peace of mind that keep our Soul connection open and active or our life will fade into the world view of “one size fits all.”

It used to be that we could come home and leave the world behind for a while and refresh ourselves. But today with our wonderful internet and instant messaging the world comes with us everywhere. It is up to each of us to choose when, how and where we will take a break and give the world a “do-not-disturb” notice.

My favorite method of turning “off” world opinions is by declaring my unique self in my home decor style and in my wardrobe. I also set aside time each morning and evening (I call it my book-ends) to just sit and be still. Sometimes I meditate but most often I contemplate and watch nature while in my garden or through a window. I get so many good ideas and answers during theses quite “off” moments that I keep a note pad handy to jot down what comes to me, but I am careful not to work it then. I pick it up later when I am back “on” for the day.

Our personal power comes from within, the world can’t help us. No one can sleep for you, no one can eat for you and no one can hear your unique Soul’s voice but you alone. Turn off the world now and then and check in with yourself. This is where your power lies; flip your inner switch ON! You have all the power you need. Stay connected to YOU by managing the world with your own personal “off” switch.

’till next time,
Ginger- Marie
Your Personal Space Coach©

Perfection Is Boring

In her original and humorous book on eating raw fresh food “Crazy Sexy Diet” Kris Carr says “perfection is boring.” As a recovering perfectionist this made me laugh out loud the first time I read it and then it began to sink in….was it possible that at those times I was being “perfect” I was actually being rigid and boring? Yes! She is absolutely right!

Think about it from various viewpoints…say we got the perfect weather year in and year out…you know when the weather forecaster says …”and the average temperature is…” and it would never vary, never have sunny days when it is suppose to be rainy season or snow when it is suppose to be warm. That would get boring wouldn’t it? 9-6-11 Mom's Sedona Birthday (36)

Or say you ate the very same food each day of the week like the character Sheldon does in “The Big Theory” and if he goes off that schedule he goes nuts…even if he would rather eat something else he won’t…that is boring for sure!

Being adaptable and flexible is the spice of life and who wants a bland life? Now a routine or schedule is great to follow for it gives us stability and structure but from time to time it’s important to spice up our life with variety and being imperfect is the “perfect” way to do this. For instance say you are driving your regular route one day and the road you want to travel is blocked by an accident, so you have to take a detour. Instead of getting upset realize that “Life” is sending you in a new direction for some reason and use this time to notice all the new things you encounter. You might find a better route home or discover a favorite shop was just built and if you hadn’t been re- routed you wouldn’t have realized this.

Tips For Perfectionists:

  1. Next time you get upset because something didn’t go “right” stop and ask what about this scenario IS going “right” because even if just one part went the way you hoped – it is a success.
  2. One or two days a week take a different route home from your job just for the adventure of it all
  3. One or two days a week eat a new food you have never tried before. Keep a journal and note your brave new choices and if you liked them or not. You may find that just trying something new even if you did’t like it made you feel lighter and more energized. Remember routine held too tightly can end up feeling like the walls of a cage. Set yourself free.
  4. Can you think of any other ways to mix up your life and add “spice” to your day?

Who do we have to be perfect for anyway? For me it was a childhood wound of feeling inadequate and unworthy which made me feel as if I needed to go the extra mile all-the-time just to be barely acceptable. Funny thing is, if you go the extra mile all the time it’s not really “extra” anymore. It becomes your norm and then you end up feeling like you will never measure up. To be honest we won’t ever be able to please others, it’s simply not in our power or our job to do so. We each decide for ourselves how pleased we will be by the events around us; therefore the only one you can be perfect for is you!!

So go ahead and mix it up a little, make mistakes, take detours and laugh about it as you go and discover something new along the way. Lighten up like a butterfly that just fitters about not caring if it has a perfect moment and not caring if it looks scattered and unfocused. Only we in our minds know what we are about and the rest of the worlds doesn’t matter.

So let go of boring perfectionism and start being spicy interesting instead and see if your life energy doesn’t improve!!

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach

Must Be Present to Win

This time of year the film industry gets busy with all of their various award ceremonies; the Golden Globes, the Grammy’s, The Oscars and more. One of the phrases you hear a lot is “you must be present to win.” Now with the big public award ceremonies it is acceptable to not be present yourself and you can still win; however the “presence” of the winner is still felt. Sometimes they show up on recorded video feed, or they send in another person to accept the award on their behalf.  They can get away with that in the entertainment industry because the energy of the winner is so huge via their songs, dance or acting. Award Winner

In smaller venues this phrase is usually meant to keep people in their chairs so they stay for the whole presentation. The drawing for the prize is at the end of the program and is used as an incentive for participation.

These are the key words that struck me; participation and presence. For a winning life don’t we need to participate? And in order to participate don’t we need to be present? If you don’t know you won something, you can’t receive it. Or you can know you won and still not “receive” it such as in the case of Woody Allen in 2014 who won a Golden Globe but didn’t attend. He never attends these award ceremonies. He has chosen not to receive these commendations in any form. He does his craft for other reasons. Woody is not “present to win” which means he is not present for this type of energy in his life. Yet I would guess that he is quite present and powerful in his life because it takes a lot of courage and fortitude to stand up against the tide of pressure especially publically. So kudos to Woody Allen for taking up space his way and sticking to it for decades!

Do you have to be present to win? Yes and no. It depends on what you want to win. If you want to win self-respect, autonomy, privacy and live life for your own reasons then that is what you need to be present for, so you win that. But if you want to join the crowd for whatever reason, and receive the accolades of your fans and peers, then yes you need to be present in that format to “win.”

The point here is to decide what it is you want to win. Ask yourself what you want to be “present” for. What is the life you wish to have? Go for that all the way, stick to its unique format and make yourself present for that to win – no matter the opinion of others and what they are choosing to be present for. No I admit this takes courage but if you find the courage once it will be easier the next time to stand up for what you value and be present for that “win” in your life.

May this courage to be our unique selves come easier for all of us in the New Year to come!

‘till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach

Believe In Your Dreams

Do you have trouble believing that you can have your dreams, wants and desires? I admit that I have trouble with this from time to time. What I have learned is that I have to be the magnet to attract what it is I want in my life. I can’t just want and wish for it. Even taking action won’t help if I don’t actually “believe” I can have what I want. If I don’t have the belief that it can be mine, and believe I deserve it…then my actions will only result in supporting my “can’t have it” belief. Believe

Belief is magnetic and will attract to you what you believe, so it’s important to examine what we believe in, especially if we are not getting what it is we say we want. To believe is to “know” that this desire is right, good and true for you and all you have to do is open to receiving it fully. You might think if we want something then we are already open to receiving it but this isn’t always the case. Sometimes we want things because our heart calls us to reach for it but perhaps we have had an experience, or training that gives us another belief that having this item would be bad for us. For example say we wanted to be wealthy but at the same time all our life our parents spoke harshly about the wealthy people they knew. Perhaps they called them crooks or stingy. Well, our not wanting to lose our parents esteem or not wanting to be considered a crook or stingy might override the desire to be wealthy. Unless we remove the limiting belief we can’t have the abundance desire even if we believe we deserve wealth. See how that works?

So how in the world do we know if we have a limiting belief to clear out? Well you have to play detective and ask yourself some questions such as;

  • Where did the idea of what you want come from? Was it TV, your mother, your friends?? Is it a deep and true calling from your heart or is something that others told you to want? If it’s not really what you truly want you will very likely find a way to block it from happening. In this case the limiting belief is going along with the crowd instead of listening to your own heart. You might manifest the desire but it won’t make you happy even if it makes your friends and family happy. Examine what it is you really want and see if you can create a win-win situation; get what you want and what they want as well.
  • Think of something you know you don’t want, then ask yourself “why not?” What are your good reasons? Do these reasons/beliefs still ring true for you? If not, just by being conscious of them you can remove them. Next what would be the opposite of this “don’t want” that you would like to have? Often our dislikes give us great information about what it is we are really wanting. Let them inform you.
  • Look at your life, your home, or your work. Pick one area of success (a dream come true) and see if you can discover the belief you had to have to get this.
  • Now look at a desire you don’t currently have and ask “what would I have to believe in order for this to show up in my life?” Do I have a belief that might contradict my desire and block me from having this?
  • You might also look at this missing desire and see if something you currently have has to go in order to have the new thing. For instance say you want to live in New York City and currently you live in LA and you drive a SUV. You might have to let your love of driving and the SUV go in order to have the New York City flat because they don’t work together very well.

Getting what we want is actually a rather simple thing to do. The fact that we are complex beings is what slows us down. So first make sure it is what you truly want, from your heart, and then if you are not able to manifest it do a little detective work to see how you might be blocking your dream from coming true.

‘till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach

Stop Watering Your Problems

In the course of a single day you will have moments that lift your spirits and moments that bring you down. The trick is to keep going. No matter what just happened, in the next moment it can and most likely will change. But sometimes it is really difficult to put on a happy face when things seem to keep going “wrong.” It is during those moments that changing your “station” (like you do on TV) is crucial for your energy and well being. I have a few tips to share that have worked for me. Watering Problem

Feel Better Tips:

  1. When things are going your way it’s important not to dismiss them as “luck” or “flukes” but instead do what we usually do when something goes wrong…rehash the happy moment!! Yep, I mean it. Stop a moment and review what you said, what they said, how perfectly everything went. See that smile on your face? That’s what you want to re-experience and then when you are done say silently to yourself “I want more of that please!” and then move on. This is “watering the success” which will bring more of the same to you.
  2. Next, do the opposite with the event that “went wrong.” Instead of rehashing what you said, what they said, what you didn’t do so well etc. change the channel-turn your attention to something that feels good! If you find you are stuck in a bad memory of an event that went “wrong” move on and get something going that you love, do what you like even if it’s just taking a walk or listening to a favorite song you need in the moment to shift out of the problem. This is like giving your energy a re-boot.
  3. In the evening or when your day is done its good to reflect back. Take what went well and remember what worked. Take what went wrong and decide how you would do it differently. This way both events simply become “information” and you stay in the flow that change is always fluid and you are never stuck or doomed.
  4. Also in your evening reflection, take a moment to add up the bits and pieces of your day so you can see the whole effect. Due to my background as a Home Ec teacher I see each day as a cake I am making. If you pull out all the ingredients for baking a cake; flour, sugar, salt, vanilla, baking soda, raw egg etc and examine and taste each one you might find yourself getting discouraged. Most of the ingredients that make a great tasting cake don’t taste very good by themselves. If you based your actions on this taste test you might give up. That’s “watering the problem” or focusing on the negative and not considering that it has a benefit in the big picture. If you stop now you won’t get the end result you want of a delicious cake for dessert. So you move forward in faith and proceed to make the recipe as directed. You trust as you put this “nasty” mixture into round pans that this is right. You further take a leap of faith when you place these pans into an oven so hot you have to use potholders or risk getting burned! Each and every step by itself looks more like failure than success…slimy raw egg, mouth drying flour, bitter vanilla and burning oven…all look “bad” to our untrained eye.

Our life is like that. Do what comes up next to do and trust in the BIG picture. You will get what you want, especially if you keep your focus on the goal. By focusing on the goal we are led along the path to its location. The path is not the goal but the path is necessary to achieve the goal….no matter how many nasty turns the path takes. It all adds up to the success we want. Trust this!

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach