I know some of you will think I am overstating where our personal space borders are when I tell you that it includes your car, but I saw a perfect example as I was doing my food shopping today.
I was driving from one store to the next and was stopped at a busy intersection waiting at a light when a movement caught my eye. Right in front of me was a big white Cadillac and stretched across their back seat was a hanging bar with at least 3 dozen white plastic hangers swaying from the movement of the car. They were all empty and there were two people in the front seat. This is not something you see every day but I have seen this before. I had a neighbor once who was a traveling sales woman for a fabric company and she did this as well. She said it beat ironing and unpacking every day and since she had to dress professionally it was the best way for her.
Do you see where I am going with this? Here was a business woman who for all intents and purposes had her office and closet in her car. I don’t’ know about the people I saw today, perhaps they just took everything to the dry cleaners and were on their way to pick it up and didn’t want it to wrinkle on drive home. Most likely they store hanging clothes in their back seat as part of their life style or work.
When I was a shop-at-home Design Consultant I too worked from my car. My entire back seat and trunk space was filled with plastic totes which held fabric samples hard bound with handles for easy carrying. I had more in my garage as well for our fabric sales shifted month to month and I couldn’t carry every fabric we sold in my car. So my office was partly in my car and partly in my garage. I found it really important to keep my car neat so I got the plastic bins and this kept the fabric books from moving when I drove.
The couple I saw today was doing something I never could, for the swaying hangers would drive me nuts! But, that is their business to decide. Claiming the various personal spaces of your life is what self empowerment is all about. They not only have the right to do this with their car space but it is necessary for them to fulfill their unique purpose.
Now, sometimes what we want and choose to do in our Personal Spaces affects others in what I refer to as Shared Space. Their moving hangers got my attention but it wasn’t a danger to my driving so no problem. But say they had something reflective swaying in the back, then it would adversely affect others in “shared space” and as you know I encourage you to always do what is most loving for yourself while looking at the big picture to be sure you don’t adversely affect others. Chances are if you are being true to yourself you are not harming another but it is important to be aware. If they had something reflective swaying in the back it would also hurt their driving and probably cause the police to make them remove it.
Perhaps you do something out of the ordinary with your car space, if so please leave a comment I’d love to hear how you use your car space.
’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach