You’ve just moved into your new dream home/apartment – Congratulations!! How are you doing? Is everything wonderful?
If you find that even though you got everything you wanted you don’t feel like you did, in fact you have moments where you feel wiped out and depressed, then you are in good company. This happens to all of us no matter how well we plan or how much help we have.You see moving is very similar to re-potting a house plant. No matter how careful you are, there are going to be repercussions to the activity of moving your “roots” And what does a new house plant that has been re-potted need first? It needs rest or in our case “to give it a rest.”
We live in a world where we can get most of what we want instantly and we think this should be the case no matter what we want next. But with a move of our Home Space we are also moving our Body Space and our Life Energy Space not to mention our mental space has shifted as well. It simply takes time for our “roots” to find their footing in this new space we have settled into. Our furnishings look and feel different, even our clothes look different when we put them on and dress for the day. We can’t find the items we used to just reach automatically for like a fork or our hair dryer. It takes time to settle into our new “digs” and we need to give ourselves all the time and space we need to settle in. We will adjust as we go along. Sometimes we can’t tell where an item should go until we live in the space for awhile, and once we are well rested bright ideas can emerge.
It usually takes me three months from the day I move into a new place before I find that it feels like “home” to me. Interestingly enough that is just like a re-potted plant. They first have to rest, then they begin to reestablish their roots in the new soil and space. Then once they feel acclimated they will begin to send out new shoots or even bloom – their version of being and feeling “at home” with their new space.
I have a favorite quote by Susan Strasberg I use when I find myself getting impatient with life…
“You can’t push the wave onto the shore any faster than the ocean brings it in.”
Here are my Tuesday Tips for Healing the New Home Blues:
- Go ahead take a break.
- Stop and congratulate yourself on your new home – Celebrate!!
- Pat yourself on the back for all the hard work you achieved to get yourself set up there.
- Stop looking at what inst’ done and note all you did get done
- Take some time to get to know this new space and “make friends” with it.
- Stretch out and try on different spots for your furnishings
- Nurture and nourish yourself with good food.
- Postpone those “show and tell” open-house parties until you feel up to them.
Have PATIENCE and over time you will find the blues have left and you feel your new house has become the sanctuary you had hoped for. Enjoy your new “digs”
’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach©