This time of year the film industry gets busy with all of their various award ceremonies; the Golden Globes, the Grammy’s, The Oscars and more. One of the phrases you hear a lot is “you must be present to win.” Now with the big public award ceremonies it is acceptable to not be present yourself and you can still win; however the “presence” of the winner is still felt. Sometimes they show up on recorded video feed, or they send in another person to accept the award on their behalf. They can get away with that in the entertainment industry because the energy of the winner is so huge via their songs, dance or acting.
In smaller venues this phrase is usually meant to keep people in their chairs so they stay for the whole presentation. The drawing for the prize is at the end of the program and is used as an incentive for participation.
These are the key words that struck me; participation and presence. For a winning life don’t we need to participate? And in order to participate don’t we need to be present? If you don’t know you won something, you can’t receive it. Or you can know you won and still not “receive” it such as in the case of Woody Allen in 2014 who won a Golden Globe but didn’t attend. He never attends these award ceremonies. He has chosen not to receive these commendations in any form. He does his craft for other reasons. Woody is not “present to win” which means he is not present for this type of energy in his life. Yet I would guess that he is quite present and powerful in his life because it takes a lot of courage and fortitude to stand up against the tide of pressure especially publically. So kudos to Woody Allen for taking up space his way and sticking to it for decades!
Do you have to be present to win? Yes and no. It depends on what you want to win. If you want to win self-respect, autonomy, privacy and live life for your own reasons then that is what you need to be present for, so you win that. But if you want to join the crowd for whatever reason, and receive the accolades of your fans and peers, then yes you need to be present in that format to “win.”
The point here is to decide what it is you want to win. Ask yourself what you want to be “present” for. What is the life you wish to have? Go for that all the way, stick to its unique format and make yourself present for that to win – no matter the opinion of others and what they are choosing to be present for. No I admit this takes courage but if you find the courage once it will be easier the next time to stand up for what you value and be present for that “win” in your life.
May this courage to be our unique selves come easier for all of us in the New Year to come!
‘till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach