Everywhere we turn it seems that someone is telling us how to live; what to eat, what not to eat, how to dress our body in the latest (and only approved of) styles, how to decorate our home, what the latest and greatest is for every moment of our life experience. Even if we turned off all the TV ads, radio marketing and newspaper ads, internet and magazine publications we would still be prompted by others to do it their way. And always there is that unspoken “or else” that is implied. Or else you won’t be popular, or else you won’t get that job, or else you won’t look attractive and the worst one of all “or else you won’t be loved.”
“Re-examine all you have been told, dismiss what insults your soul.”
Most often the thoughts running through our heads are not our own, they belong to what others in the world have told us. We judge ourselves, or make decisions based upon something our mom said to us, or our 5th grade teacher told us years ago, and we didn’t know we could question it to see if it was true for us now that we are old enough to make decisions for ourselves. Many of us have people living “rent free” right inside our minds! It’s time to clean house and get out what doesn’t match you and your value system!!
If we don’t learn how to stop the world from taking us over, we will continue to feel that vague sense of emptiness inside and continue to feel lost in a jungle taken over by the beliefs and values of others. That vague sense of emptiness you feel inside is your own Soul Space crying out to you to stop the merry-go-round the world has you on, and come home to you. If you don’t live in your space someone else will. Space can’t really go extinct but the “personal you” part can get buried so deep you could forget all about your right to exist your way.
Every one of these subtle and sometimes not too subtle voices in your head bombard you all day long and before you know it, you’ve lost your connection to your essence; that part of you that makes you unique, original, and makes you happy. You are lost as to what makes you, YOU. By reclaiming and possessing your Personal Space you can get the world off of your back and begin living the authentic and wonderful life you were meant to have, and the best part is no one around you has to change at all. No one has to give you permission or approve of what you find to be true about yourself. In fact no one but you can give you permission. The strength to be all that we are comes from within each of us-at our soul level. We are all equally powerful and capable. We are all winners, as long as we are in our game and not trying to play by the rules of others in their game.
It’s up to each of us to take a stand and take up our Personal Space deliberately so it doesn’t go extinct in our lives. Sure it’s healthy to share yourself with others, connections are vital to our lives but keep some of your time and space personal for yourself because if you don’t then where do you exist?
’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach©