I heard a quote the other day that really perked me up…
“Failure is not the opposite of success, it is a stepping stone to success.” Ariana Huffington
I really like the image this projects because when you think about it there are way more stepping stones in the world than there are landing spots. If you are crossing a stream you will have a dozen or more stepping stones and just two shores. If you are walking on a stepping stone path from your car to the front door you will have at least six to a dozen or so stepping stones and only one exit and one entrance spot.
Then there is the falling down along the way. This too is not an indication of failure…in fact I don’t think failure actually exists as we tend to refer to it today. Failure just means “not yet” or “pending” but those words don’t emotionally defeat us the way the word “failure” will. So perhaps we need to delete that word from our personal dictionary.
Consider an Olympic athlete. There, just that title denotes an amazing success don’t you think? Yet once they hit the big Olympic games and don’t get a medal they are considered a “failure” – how is that right? Or even a candidate for a job position who is not chosen. Didn’t they write a resume? Didn’t they dress up, show up and go through the interview process? Didn’t they also learn more about the company and the people involved in the process of applying? Information is NEVER failure and as long as we are breathing and thinking we are gathering and processing information non-stop…we are “pending” as we take action toward the success we after. I can’t tell you the number of times I have learned something crucial to my wellbeing and happiness during an interview for a job I didn’t get. I remember one time an eager beaver in the office I was applying to took it upon herself to call me to get information on whether we would be a good fit. This was not her business to do this but the fact that she did and the fact that I would be working with such a control freak made me cancel the official interview. The information her phone call gave me told me I wouldn’t like it there.
So pay attention as you are gathering information. See all your steps toward your goal as stepping stones because even when you reach the “shore” you will keep on moving and create another goal to achieve. Life is all about living after all and there is really no “getting there” just being here right now. As Human BEINGS we need to remember this and cut ourselves some slack and perhaps delete the word “failure” from your personal dictionary.
’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach