Cry If You Want To

In her bestselling book “You Can Heal Your Life” Louise L. Hay writes about how our body “talks” to us through the physical symptoms each of us have such as; burns, cuts, colds, accidents etc. She writes about the companion emotion or thought process we are quite likely going through and are not conscious of – which is why our body will get our attention with pain of some kind.
When a physical symptom manifests this is a Body Space message to pay attention and look within, because something “else” or “other” is going on besides the symptom that has gotten our attention in the moment. For instance when you are starting a new job, moving your home or doing a major clutter clearing you might find yourself “coming down with a cold.” According to Louise L. Hay (which I can vouch for with my own experience) a cold is a sign of “too much going on at once.” This is how our body copes with all the new added stress by flushing the emotions that are coming up too fast for us to handle individually.

Take a BreakWhen our body speaks up with pain or physical symptoms it is telling us we need to pay attention. It might be we need more rest scheduled into our moving plans; better food or perhaps we need to stop and have a good cry. What? Yep. I am a firm believer in letting the tears flow. They might be tears of frustration, fatigue or genuine sadness and grief. We can even cry when extreme joy or relief fills us. Even getting what you what can bring on the grief response because no matter what we get next it involves letting go of what we had – even sometimes things we liked. Moving is tough work not just physically but mentally and emotionally as well.

When you move items you haven’t seen in a while it brings up old energy and emotions. If you have to let go of something you love such as furniture items or co-workers, neighbors or a city because your job requires the move, then you might be sad. Feeling and processing our emotions when they appear is the best way to get through and over them efficiently. Stop and give yourself a moment to grieve even if it is not a convenient time (really when is it convenient to cry?) If we stuff it and hold on and keep on “keeping on” then one day later we might find we have that cold and we are “stuffed up” because we stuffed down our emotions.

Did you know that there are stress hormones in our tears that we do not release any other way? Yes, it true and these stress hormones need to vent now and then for our best health to prevail. Tears produced during emotional crying have a chemical composition which differs from other types of tears and are truly healing to our well being. I laughed at the title of this blog when writing it because I kept hearing that old classic song from Lesley Gore “It’s My Party.” This is about a party she has where a boy she likes comes with another girl so she sings “it’s my party and I’ll cry if I want to” and she is right.

No matter where you go or what you do you will either be taking your body along or dragging your body along with you. I have done both, and I recommend taking your body with you as a partner – treat it as a team member and listen to it whenever he/she speaks. Take the action your body requires in the moment…sleep, rest, food, water, a good cry, etc…whatever it is and your body will respond with full support for you during whatever task you need of it in the moment.I have discovered a good 10 minute cry especially when I pair it with some EFT tapping and I am good to go. Plus the issue at the time never comes back to haunt me.

So give yourself permission to be real and authentic and if you need a private moment to do this then take it for yourself – you will be glad you did and so will your body.
’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach©

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