Public Power Spots

Sheldon's spot

There are examples all around us of people claiming their Public Power Spots – those spaces in public or “shared space” that make us feel more comfortable. From choosing a favorite chair and desk at work to the seat you pick when going out for dinner, we all have preferences that we tend to lean toward and feel better when we are able to claim them.

A funny example you may have seen comes from the funny TV show The Big Bang Theory. In almost every episode we see where the character “Sheldon Cooper” has laid claim to a particular spot on the couch and won’t let anyone else sit there. I don’t recommend that we go this psycho in our creation of our own Public Power Spot but it serves as a funny example of what “taking up space” can look like. TV character Sheldon has definitely declared his right to exist, but unlike Sheldon, we want remember to keep our sense of humor if our space is invaded….especially when we are really dealing with “shared space” and not true private space.

                       Leonard: (shouted to Penny as she starts to sit down) you can’t sit there!!
                      Penny: Why not?
                      Sheldon: That’s where I sit.
                      Penny: What’s the difference?
                     Sheldon: What’s the difference? In the winter that seat is close enough to the radiator to remain warm, and yet not so close as to cause                       perspiration. In the summer, it’s directly in the path of a cross-breeze created by opening windows there and there. It faces the                                         television at an angle that is neither direct, thus discouraging conversation, nor so far wide as to create a parallax distortion. I could go                       on, but I think I’ve made my point.

Have you ever felt this way about a spot you thought was yours? I find this happens to me when I attend a movie and have to get up. I make sure I leave something like a sweater to mark “my spot” because I don’t want to lose it while I go get a soda. I know whole families who have a certain section in their church where they “always” sit, and others who favor particular locations of Starbucks along with a favorite table to sit at. This is healthy human behavior; putting down territorial roots even if they are temporary. We need them for our survival and it is healthy as long as we stay flexible and know the truth – the power behind and ability to create our “roots” is actually inside each of us. The power is never “out there” and always comes from within.  We are the power in our lives, not the spot we choose to inhabit; it just helps us to expand our expression – to take up space in an outward fashion.

I’d love to hear about how you take up space in a powerful yet fair manner in the world. This is not your Personal Private Space – that one is for you alone and is in your home. No this is a kind of echo energy from that one. By taking up space for yourself in your home you will find that once you are out in the world spaces that appeal to your energy will magically appear and be open for you. From parking spots to chairs in a restaurant, Life will make perfect space for you once you declare it for yourself in your own home.
’till next time!
Ginger- Marie
Your Personal Space Coach

Silly Humor

When was the last time you acted silly – you know like you used to do as a child? I am not talking about “feeling silly” as in the adult version of the word meaning embarrassed. No that form of “silly” isn’t really the good energy feeling of silly that we had as children. Yet it grew from that experience when perhaps as a child some adult figure in our lives admonished us for “acting silly” …as if that was a crime!

11-17-12 Alex's Community Birthday (16) this is the darkest timeline... I have a theory why Disneyland and other amusement parks like this are so popular…they allow adults a time and a place (aka Personal Space) to bring out their silly energy. To act silly is to choose to be happy no matter what is going on. It is to look for the funny part in whatever is happening. It’s not quite the same as what Pollyanna taught us with her “Glad Game” but it is related in that going silly shifts our energy from negative to positive.

One way to infuse the energy of “silly” into your day is to make note of the daily holiday. It seems as if every day has at least one holiday event associated with it. It could be as silly as National Doughnut Day or as common as St Patrick’s Day. This link is just one of many web links that will tell you what “holiday” it is. www.checkiday.com The point it to just play with it and have fun! Once you know the day’s holiday do something to commemorate it that will add some fun to your life that day. For instance today April 16 is National High Five Day, as well as Wear Your PJ’s to Work Day…you get to pick what you want to have fun with.

We all like to have a good time and that good time starts with us-it never comes from outside of us.I know this from personal experience. Every now and then I have managed to bring a happy event down to mediocre with my attitude and I once went to Disneyland (of all places) with someone who was determined not to enjoy himself and guess what? He was miserable!!

This is why I encourage reactivating our childhood silly vibe – our “funny bone” because unless we find a way to laugh at life and what happens each day, we will grow old and sour. I’d rather grow happier and sillier. Have you ever seen a sour-pus person? Then you know what can happen to us if we forget how to play, laugh and be silly.

Puns are another great way to maintain our silly vibe and there are websites that will send you a “pun of the day” or a “joke of the day” which is a great way to start the energy flowing.

Having happy personal energy is up to each of us. To paraphrase a famous quote by Eleanor Roosevelt “no one (or thing) can make you feel (unhappy) without your consent!”

So do what you did as a child; find things to laugh about, go up to a friend and do that “oh there is something on your shirt trick and then flick their chin” – sign up for one of the daily jokes of the day, play “knock-knock” jokes with your kids….just do whatever it takes to bring a smile to your face, lighten your step and restore your feeling-good energy. You’ll be glad you did and so will the people you meet all day long.

’till next time,
Ginger-Marie
Your Personal Space Coach

Perfection Is Boring

In her original and humorous book on eating raw fresh food “Crazy Sexy Diet” Kris Carr says “perfection is boring.” As a recovering perfectionist this made me laugh out loud the first time I read it and then it began to sink in….was it possible that at those times I was being “perfect” I was actually being rigid and boring? Yes! She is absolutely right!

Think about it from various viewpoints…say we got the perfect weather year in and year out…you know when the weather forecaster says …”and the average temperature is…” and it would never vary, never have sunny days when it is suppose to be rainy season or snow when it is suppose to be warm. That would get boring wouldn’t it? 9-6-11 Mom's Sedona Birthday (36)

Or say you ate the very same food each day of the week like the character Sheldon does in “The Big Theory” and if he goes off that schedule he goes nuts…even if he would rather eat something else he won’t…that is boring for sure!

Being adaptable and flexible is the spice of life and who wants a bland life? Now a routine or schedule is great to follow for it gives us stability and structure but from time to time it’s important to spice up our life with variety and being imperfect is the “perfect” way to do this. For instance say you are driving your regular route one day and the road you want to travel is blocked by an accident, so you have to take a detour. Instead of getting upset realize that “Life” is sending you in a new direction for some reason and use this time to notice all the new things you encounter. You might find a better route home or discover a favorite shop was just built and if you hadn’t been re- routed you wouldn’t have realized this.

Tips For Perfectionists:

  1. Next time you get upset because something didn’t go “right” stop and ask what about this scenario IS going “right” because even if just one part went the way you hoped – it is a success.
  2. One or two days a week take a different route home from your job just for the adventure of it all
  3. One or two days a week eat a new food you have never tried before. Keep a journal and note your brave new choices and if you liked them or not. You may find that just trying something new even if you did’t like it made you feel lighter and more energized. Remember routine held too tightly can end up feeling like the walls of a cage. Set yourself free.
  4. Can you think of any other ways to mix up your life and add “spice” to your day?

Who do we have to be perfect for anyway? For me it was a childhood wound of feeling inadequate and unworthy which made me feel as if I needed to go the extra mile all-the-time just to be barely acceptable. Funny thing is, if you go the extra mile all the time it’s not really “extra” anymore. It becomes your norm and then you end up feeling like you will never measure up. To be honest we won’t ever be able to please others, it’s simply not in our power or our job to do so. We each decide for ourselves how pleased we will be by the events around us; therefore the only one you can be perfect for is you!!

So go ahead and mix it up a little, make mistakes, take detours and laugh about it as you go and discover something new along the way. Lighten up like a butterfly that just fitters about not caring if it has a perfect moment and not caring if it looks scattered and unfocused. Only we in our minds know what we are about and the rest of the worlds doesn’t matter.

So let go of boring perfectionism and start being spicy interesting instead and see if your life energy doesn’t improve!!

’till next time,
Ginger-Marie
Your Personal Space Coach

Must Be Present to Win

This time of year the film industry gets busy with all of their various award ceremonies; the Golden Globes, the Grammy’s, The Oscars and more. One of the phrases you hear a lot is “you must be present to win.” Now with the big public award ceremonies it is acceptable to not be present yourself and you can still win; however the “presence” of the winner is still felt. Sometimes they show up on recorded video feed, or they send in another person to accept the award on their behalf.  They can get away with that in the entertainment industry because the energy of the winner is so huge via their songs, dance or acting. Award Winner

In smaller venues this phrase is usually meant to keep people in their chairs so they stay for the whole presentation. The drawing for the prize is at the end of the program and is used as an incentive for participation.

These are the key words that struck me; participation and presence. For a winning life don’t we need to participate? And in order to participate don’t we need to be present? If you don’t know you won something, you can’t receive it. Or you can know you won and still not “receive” it such as in the case of Woody Allen in 2014 who won a Golden Globe but didn’t attend. He never attends these award ceremonies. He has chosen not to receive these commendations in any form. He does his craft for other reasons. Woody is not “present to win” which means he is not present for this type of energy in his life. Yet I would guess that he is quite present and powerful in his life because it takes a lot of courage and fortitude to stand up against the tide of pressure especially publically. So kudos to Woody Allen for taking up space his way and sticking to it for decades!

Do you have to be present to win? Yes and no. It depends on what you want to win. If you want to win self-respect, autonomy, privacy and live life for your own reasons then that is what you need to be present for, so you win that. But if you want to join the crowd for whatever reason, and receive the accolades of your fans and peers, then yes you need to be present in that format to “win.”

The point here is to decide what it is you want to win. Ask yourself what you want to be “present” for. What is the life you wish to have? Go for that all the way, stick to its unique format and make yourself present for that to win – no matter the opinion of others and what they are choosing to be present for. No I admit this takes courage but if you find the courage once it will be easier the next time to stand up for what you value and be present for that “win” in your life.

May this courage to be our unique selves come easier for all of us in the New Year to come!

‘till next time,
Ginger-Marie
Your Personal Space Coach

Personal Space Awareness Exercises

 

Most of us think of our Personal Space as being just our Body Space  but in fact the boundaries of our Personal Space encompass four distinct aspects; Soul, Body, Home and Life. To show you what I mean I’ve created a few exercises you can try out and see if you can expand your experience to include all four areas. The various tips and tricks I have to share on how to make good use of the full scope of your Personal Space  will assist in boosting your overall energy as you get to know yourself better. PSC Logo

Personal Space Exercises:

Body Space – How do you choose to look each day?

  • Are you a bright colors kind of person, or is black your theme color?
  • Do you dress casually or formally when given a choice?
  • Do you wear comfortable shoes or stylish 3” spikes that hurt your feet but make you feel powerful anyway?

Observing what you chose for your wardrobe and why you have chosen it, will add to the affect you are trying to create. If any of your choices are for “other approval” and not what you would do if you “had a choice,” then I recommend you explore this further and see why you value the opinion of others over your own. That is a major energy drainer we all deal with because we can’t really get approval from another – it can only genuinely come from within. If what you wear is not your choice due to work requirements – see if you can find a way to personalize your outfit such as wearing jewelry or some other item that isn’t against the rules yet allows you to express your individuality.

Home Space – Rooms or Spaces You Avoid

Do you have any rooms you “junk” or closets or drawers that you just toss things in and then you never visit them again? This is a mirror action to things in your life you are not “owing” and dealing with as well. Perhaps you have a health issue you ignore or want a new job but don’t have the energy to do the work to find it. Oddly enough by cleaning out these “junk” areas you may find the disowned areas in your life magically get done….all by just cleaning out the equivalent energy that is stored in your home.

Soul Space – Quiet Time

Remember Kindergarten days when school was a half-day and even then we had rest or nap time? What makes us think as adults that the need for daily rest and rejuvenation is no longer necessary? No wonder we get white hair and arthritis – we never give ourselves restful Quite Time anymore. Unfortunately the voice of our Soul – in “inner voice” is a whisperer and the only way to access it is to BE QUIET. I think as adults we notice how much needs to get done and we think we must push on or it will never get done….guess what? It never does get done and that is actually a good thing for it gives us something to look forward to …tomorrow after we rest and revive ourselves.

Life Space – How Happy Are You?

As a fun exercise you might take this short quiz daily for one week. Jot down your answers in your cell phone or note pad. Set a reminder that will go off at these specific six times a day;

  1. Just after waking
  2. Right before lunch
  3. Right after lunch
  4. Mid afternoon
  5. Just after you get home for the day
  6. Just before bed

At each designated time stop what you are doing for just a second and ask  “how happy am I right now?” Rate this on a scale of 1-10 with 1 = “miserable” to 10= “dancing on air.”

After one week look over your notes and see if you notice a pattern in your mood swings. Next try to find a way to re-energize the low moments and build upon the high moments. For instance you might find first thing in the morning you are “miserable” but after lunch you feel “great” – perhaps you don’t let yourself have a moment for a food you love in the morning? What could you add to your morning that would energize you? Wake up to music vs a screaming alarm? Pass on the morning depressing news? Eat a favorite blueberry muffin? You get the picture.

Give these tips a try and see if you get a new image of just how large your Personal Space truly is and how powerful it can be for you when you consciously own and use all the space power you have been given.

‘till next time,
Ginger-Marie
Your Personal Space Coach

 

 

 

 

 

Community Boosts Personal Energy

I have been studying Personal Energy for decades trying to understand what makes people tick and what I can do to live a happy life. I think we all do this actually but due to my unconventional upbringing I have had great practice at being an observer of others. Now to be self-observant well…ha! That’s another story. Only in the last 20 years… and I admit I did so very reluctantly… have I become adept at self-observation. Cooking Armor

One of the best questions I ask myself (I usually only get around to this good question once I have stopped berating myself) is “What can I do now that will help?” This puts me in an entirely different frame of mind- one that is open minded vs closed minded because my method of action that “should” have worked in fact did not work. Or sometimes what I have been doing has run its course and all the good results I can glean from it are finished and I must move on to Plan B. I don’t like Plan B. For some reason I always think Plan B means I have failed, but as a wise minister told me years ago about my “failed” marriage… “it was not a failure, the relationship was just complete.”

Today’s Personal Energy lesson is actually how “community” feeds us energy if we let them. Community can function as a backup power source we can tap into when we need an energy boost. Now community can drain us as well (the doom and gloom TV news is an example) but if we align ourselves with positive-minded people, their contribution to our energy will be empowering.

Case in point: I have been working since 2011 to drop the obesity I have been carrying for many years. I maxed out at 280 lbs in 2011 and was diagnosed with Type 2 Diabetes (surprise!-NOT) so I decided to go on a healing journey. My first Plan A step was to get cleansed, but I didn’t know how and this is where community came to the rescue. As “luck” would have it I was scrolling the TV stations and landed on PBS and there was a doctor talking about how you can heal diabetes with diet and not drugs. I knew instantly that was for me. So I did some research and ended up working a program called “Clean” by Dr. Alejandro Junger and dropped 50 lbs and healed the diabetes!!

Then I hit a long plateau. I didn’t soar up or drop weight for over a year. This is when community showed up again. I was frustrated and wondered how I could heal myself without great expense when again while surfing the TV on PBS I found “The Fast Metabolism Diet” by Haylie Pomroy. I did fairly well the first month but since I needed to drop another 100 lbs I knew I needed to get more focused. It’s a clever diet that is a bit tricky to manage due to the varied style of eating, but it works!! That’s when community popped up again in the form of Fitness Friends, a private Facebook group my new daughter-in-law Shelly created. It was just what I needed and I found I was reaching my goal of getting below 200 lbs for the first time in 20 years!

In this community all we do is leave messages of what we are up to and then the friends in the group will respond back. It’s very low key and completely supportive. Well, the other night after a long and exhausting day, I didn’t want to eat my required food menu…no way!! I really wanted an item that was not on the menu and I actually meant to eat it but while I was making dinner I just automatically made it according to that day’s required food menu. I ate it and enjoyed it and then sat back and realized I hadn’t fudged my diet after all. Where did the energy to stick to my plan come from? First it came from me allowing myself a break. I learned this over the years to never beat myself up, but to watch myself and do better next time, or I would end up doing a major pity party binge.  But when I was making my dinner I was thinking of my Fitness Friends and how much fun it was to post my Thanksgiving miracle this week that I had dropped 2 lbs and made it to 200 lbs. I am now working on my second goal of 170 lbs. Their supportive energy gave me what I didn’t have myself in that moment and I was able to continue on doing my best.

We all need a cheering section at times and its excellent for our Personal Energy to both receive and offer support. Sharing our best energy, like compound interest will bloom and multiply and create a happier life for all.

Leave me a note; I’d love to hear how your experience with Personal Energy has been helped by your community.

‘till next time,
Ginger-Marie
Your Personal Space Coach

Expand Your Personal Space

Expanding your Personal Space is the expression of your personal empowerment in action. Expanding your space only works if you have first explored what it means to be the authentic you and then put those things you learned about yourself into daily practice. That’s right, Personal Space is a practice; it is the practice of being you, the practice of taking-up-space your way. And just like learning how to cook or drive a car, over time you will do what it takes to be you in the world automatically, instinctively even. Expand Your Space

Your inner bossy-ego voice that tells you to “be like the crowd” will know to keep quiet and save its breath because you are so anchored and confident in your true self your ego can’t sway you any longer to go along with the crowd.

Once you are this firmly established in the practice of being yourself openly, you can have great success at expanding your space. This means moving out of your old habitual “culturally correct” routine and entering the world in a new bold and uniquely “you” manner. And you do this while remaining true to your core values and true self. You will know how be spontaneous and navigate in new territory because your inner senses are fully tuned and can lead you on. In other words you will have a fully active internal compass which will always point you in your true north position.

Expanding your space is not about influencing others. It might seem that this is just what you are doing but that is the ego’s illusion. Expanding your space is more like singing out your Soul’s song vs. just humming it to yourself. Your Personal Space energy is a vibration that is there all the time. It surrounds you and keeps you in tune with yourself, even while you are in the company of other vibrations and tunes – like multiple radio waves that surround us at any given moment. They are invisible to the eye and unheard by the ear unless a tuning device is used and a particular channel chosen. You see, anyone who is influenced by you is in charge of their radio station selection. THEY tuned into you so it’s on them to be influenced by your tune …. or not. Never take credit for another’s success, it can never be yours. It’s all theirs for tuning in and then receiving the message you proclaim. Your credit comes from you sharing openly your Soul’s song with respect for yourself and all others.

So how do tune into yourself, empower your unique voice, and expand your Personal Space power? It starts with a simple practice you do in your Home Space; the Private Power Spot. This is a room or a chair in a designated spot in your home that is all your own. No one else uses this space and you fill it with the things that matter most to you. Once you have your designated spot you begin by spending time here. This is quiet contemplative time. All the other spaces of your life are full of engagement with others, either in person or on TV so this space is just for you. Write, draw, read or just day dream. The point is to get quiet so you can hear the inner voice of your Soul which has all the answers to any question you may have on your mind. Its download, refresh and reboot time and just 15 minutes a day can greatly improve your energy and happiness.

If you don’t have a Private Power Spot check out my website for the free book where I go into detail the methods I use to create one for myself and my clients.

’till next time,
Ginger-Marie
Your Personal Space Coach

 

 

 

Stop Watering Your Problems

In the course of a single day you will have moments that lift your spirits and moments that bring you down. The trick is to keep going. No matter what just happened, in the next moment it can and most likely will change. But sometimes it is really difficult to put on a happy face when things seem to keep going “wrong.” It is during those moments that changing your “station” (like you do on TV) is crucial for your energy and well being. I have a few tips to share that have worked for me. Watering Problem

Feel Better Tips:

  1. When things are going your way it’s important not to dismiss them as “luck” or “flukes” but instead do what we usually do when something goes wrong…rehash the happy moment!! Yep, I mean it. Stop a moment and review what you said, what they said, how perfectly everything went. See that smile on your face? That’s what you want to re-experience and then when you are done say silently to yourself “I want more of that please!” and then move on. This is “watering the success” which will bring more of the same to you.
  2. Next, do the opposite with the event that “went wrong.” Instead of rehashing what you said, what they said, what you didn’t do so well etc. change the channel-turn your attention to something that feels good! If you find you are stuck in a bad memory of an event that went “wrong” move on and get something going that you love, do what you like even if it’s just taking a walk or listening to a favorite song you need in the moment to shift out of the problem. This is like giving your energy a re-boot.
  3. In the evening or when your day is done its good to reflect back. Take what went well and remember what worked. Take what went wrong and decide how you would do it differently. This way both events simply become “information” and you stay in the flow that change is always fluid and you are never stuck or doomed.
  4. Also in your evening reflection, take a moment to add up the bits and pieces of your day so you can see the whole effect. Due to my background as a Home Ec teacher I see each day as a cake I am making. If you pull out all the ingredients for baking a cake; flour, sugar, salt, vanilla, baking soda, raw egg etc and examine and taste each one you might find yourself getting discouraged. Most of the ingredients that make a great tasting cake don’t taste very good by themselves. If you based your actions on this taste test you might give up. That’s “watering the problem” or focusing on the negative and not considering that it has a benefit in the big picture. If you stop now you won’t get the end result you want of a delicious cake for dessert. So you move forward in faith and proceed to make the recipe as directed. You trust as you put this “nasty” mixture into round pans that this is right. You further take a leap of faith when you place these pans into an oven so hot you have to use potholders or risk getting burned! Each and every step by itself looks more like failure than success…slimy raw egg, mouth drying flour, bitter vanilla and burning oven…all look “bad” to our untrained eye.

Our life is like that. Do what comes up next to do and trust in the BIG picture. You will get what you want, especially if you keep your focus on the goal. By focusing on the goal we are led along the path to its location. The path is not the goal but the path is necessary to achieve the goal….no matter how many nasty turns the path takes. It all adds up to the success we want. Trust this!

’till next time,
Ginger-Marie
Your Personal Space Coach

Are You Getting What You Want?

I had a professor in college who was a bit of smart aleck and one of his favorite phrases was “Happiness is wanting what you get, not getting what you want.” He used this quite frequently when giving us weekend assignments. I know this phrase is around with other additions but at that time in college I had never heard it before and I thought it was just plain stupid. Time Out

I have come to reconsider my young adult-self’s opinion and I believe my life experience is the reason. I am not sure when inspiration struck but one day while pondering this phrase I decided to give it at try. I thought what if I just said “thank you” for whatever happened? What if I found something to like in what was occurring? This is somewhat like what the character Pollyanna does with her “glad game” but with a twist.

When I know what I am hoping to achieve – what I would consider  the “success” of my objective – and I don’t get the results I wanted,  I will stop and look at what DID happen and ask myself how was getting “this” giving me what I wanted? And surprisingly enough I found in each scenario how I was getting what I wanted at least in the “end result” of my goal.

You see we say we want something, like a new home with specific items, or a new car in a particular color and style and when something else happens we get upset. For instance you are saving for your dream car. You have it all picked out when one day your company transfers you to New York City where having a car is more trouble than benefit. You are frustrated because you didn’t get your wish and you had worked hard for it. BUT – and in life there is always a “but” – you did get your end result/goal. Ask yourself what was the reason you wanted the car? You might find it was because the brand make and model had an excellent safety record, or was reliable or was comfortable. Perhaps it was a “green” car and good for the environment and your pocket book by using less gas. The reasons behind our wishes are what we want to focus on here. So getting the job in NYC just happens to be within walking distance to your home and if it is raining your building has a car service to drive you. So right there you have reliable transportation, comfort and good for the environment and you get to where you are going in style….NYC style.

I recently created a wish list of what I wanted to have happen for my life before a big family event. I didn’t achieve a single one of my wish list items specifically but I did get the end result I had been working for. The energy, feeling and health I needed were all there for me when the big day came. And when I looked at my list of “wants” the reason for each one was what I received even if the specific way I thought it would play out was different. This event is now one of my happiest memories ever!!

So the next time you find yourself unhappy for frustrated with the way your life is moving along, stop and ask yourself…

  • What exactly did I want or hope would happen?
  • Why did I want it play out this way?
  • What result was I hoping to achieve?
  • What feelings did I want to have?
  • Just what is my “happy end result?”
  • Next look at what DID happen and see if you did receive your “core reasons” after all
  • If not then ask yourself “how does what DID happen benefit me?” It might be a next step toward your master goal.

You might find that you did get at least part of what you wanted after all.

’till next time,
Ginger-Marie
Your Personal Space Coach

 

Home Space Self-Reflection

Our Home Space is a mirror reflection of what is going on inside of us and this reflection vibrates out into our life creating what we claim we deserve by what we let ourselves have in our own home! Reflection

If we don’t let ourselves have, do and be what we want in our very own home, how can we expect to attract what we want in our life such as in our relationships, our jobs and our life experience? Here are some questions to consider and the possible Life Space results…

Home Space Review

A Home Space Review will ask you to consider these types of question…

  • Do you have any items of furniture you can’t stand in your house? Perhaps it is a color or a pattern you hate or something doesn’t fit and feel comfortable to you. Unless your reason for keeping these items is that they belong to others who live with you and this is a healthy compromise you are making can you see how holding on to items you don’t like could attract in your daily life events, situations and people you don’t like as well?
  • Do you have a room or rooms that you avoid or prefer not to be in? Can you list the reasons why you might feel this way? If you don’t face what you are avoiding in your home what likely hood will you face things you don’t like in your outside life?
  • Do you have rooms that you spend a great deal of time in and do they energize or drain you? You might find you frequent favorites places for lunch and even sit at the same table for coffee when it’s available.
  • Think about your furnishings; do you have items you chose yourself or were they hand-me-downs from family until you could afford what you really wanted? If they give you a bad “poor me” feeling is there any way you could jazz them up so that they felt fresh and new to you? This might reflect in your daily life with frequent “I can’t afford” that comments and feeling undervalued at work.
  • What colors are your rooms done in? Do these colors feel good to you? Do you also wear these colors as clothing? Wearing your favorite colors – the ones that look good on you is a great energy boost and is also one when you decorate your home with these same color.

Once you become aware of the energy drainers in your home and make changes to improve the overall feeling of your Home Space, you will find changes in your life occur automatically. For instance you might start seeing improvements in your relationships, career or health. When we begin to take notice of how we treat ourselves in our private spaces and take steps to improve our personal energy field, positive changes will ripple out into the rest of our personal space expression.

These questions are just a tiny sample of what I do for a Home Space Energy Review. Try applying these questions and making changes and see if you don’t notice improvements in your life as well.

’till next time,
Ginger-Marie
Your Personal Space Coach