There are examples all around us of people claiming their Public Power Spots – those spaces in public or “shared space” that make us feel more comfortable. From choosing a favorite chair and desk at work to the seat you pick when going out for dinner, we all have preferences that we tend to lean toward and feel better when we are able to claim them.
A funny example you may have seen comes from the funny TV show The Big Bang Theory. In almost every episode we see where the character “Sheldon Cooper” has laid claim to a particular spot on the couch and won’t let anyone else sit there. I don’t recommend that we go this psycho in our creation of our own Public Power Spot but it serves as a funny example of what “taking up space” can look like. TV character Sheldon has definitely declared his right to exist, but unlike Sheldon, we want remember to keep our sense of humor if our space is invaded….especially when we are really dealing with “shared space” and not true private space.
Leonard: (shouted to Penny as she starts to sit down) you can’t sit there!!
Penny: Why not?
Sheldon: That’s where I sit.
Penny: What’s the difference?
Sheldon: What’s the difference? In the winter that seat is close enough to the radiator to remain warm, and yet not so close as to cause perspiration. In the summer, it’s directly in the path of a cross-breeze created by opening windows there and there. It faces the television at an angle that is neither direct, thus discouraging conversation, nor so far wide as to create a parallax distortion. I could go on, but I think I’ve made my point.
Have you ever felt this way about a spot you thought was yours? I find this happens to me when I attend a movie and have to get up. I make sure I leave something like a sweater to mark “my spot” because I don’t want to lose it while I go get a soda. I know whole families who have a certain section in their church where they “always” sit, and others who favor particular locations of Starbucks along with a favorite table to sit at. This is healthy human behavior; putting down territorial roots even if they are temporary. We need them for our survival and it is healthy as long as we stay flexible and know the truth – the power behind and ability to create our “roots” is actually inside each of us. The power is never “out there” and always comes from within. We are the power in our lives, not the spot we choose to inhabit; it just helps us to expand our expression – to take up space in an outward fashion.
I’d love to hear about how you take up space in a powerful yet fair manner in the world. This is not your Personal Private Space – that one is for you alone and is in your home. No this is a kind of echo energy from that one. By taking up space for yourself in your home you will find that once you are out in the world spaces that appeal to your energy will magically appear and be open for you. From parking spots to chairs in a restaurant, Life will make perfect space for you once you declare it for yourself in your own home.
’till next time!
Your Personal Space Coach