Sheldon Cooper’s Power Spot

Once you claim your private (power) spot in your home, you will notice other places that you frequently visit will also have spots that you regularly use which are power spots for you even if they are not completely private.Sheldon's spot

There are examples all around us of people claiming their power spots. A funny example you may have seen comes from one of my favorite TV shows The Big Bang Theory. In almost every episode we see where the character “Sheldon Cooper” has laid claim to a particular spot on the couch and won’t let anyone else sit there. I don’t recommend that we go this psycho in our relationships but it serves as a funny example of what “taking up space” can look like. TV character Sheldon has definitely declared his right to exist, but unlike Sheldon, we want remember to keep our sense of humor if our space is invaded.

[easyazon_link asin=”B000W91RUG” locale=”US” new_window=”default” nofollow=”default” tag=”persspaccoac-20″]The Big Bang Theory: The Complete First Season[/easyazon_link], the pilot episode from 2007:
Leonard: (shouted to Penny as she starts to sit down) you can’t sit there!!
Penny: Why not?
Sheldon: That’s where I sit.
Penny: What’s the difference?
Sheldon: What’s the difference? In the winter that seat is close enough to the radiator to remain warm, and yet not so close as to cause perspiration. In the summer, it’s directly in the path of a cross-breeze created by opening windows there and there. It faces the television at an angle that is neither direct, thus discouraging conversation, nor so far wide as to create a parallax distortion. I could go on, but I think I’ve made my point.

Have you ever felt this way about a spot you thought was yours? I find this happens to me when I attend a movie and have to get up. I make sure I leave something like a sweater to mark “my spot” because I don’t want to lose it while I go get a soda. I know whole families who have a certain section in their church where they “always” sit and others who favor particular locations of Starbucks along with a favorite table to sit at. This is healthy human behavior; putting down territorial roots even if they are temporary. We need them for our survival and it is healthy as long as we stay flexible and know the truth – the power behind and ability to create our “roots” is actually inside each of us. The power is never “out there” and always comes from within. We are the power in our lives, not the spot we choose to inhabit; it just helps us to expand our expression to take up space in an outward fashion.
’till next time!
Ginger- Marie
Your Personal Space Coach©

Your “Off Limits” Space

Do you have a space that you can call your own, a spot that is off-limits to others? This is a key step to take if your goal is to take up space more dynamically in your life. Having this private power spot space will help you establish healthy personal boundaries with others. If you cannot create a full room all for yourself, then find a corner of a room, or a special chair, a table or window seat. Here is an example of what I am talking about:

Mom's Chair
Mom’s Chair

A friend of mine, who is the mother of three teenagers, created her private power spot by taking over a corner in her family room. She found an upholstered chair she loved and placed it on a colorful round rug. The rug helped define the borders of her personal space and once she stepped on it she felt insulated from the world around her.  Next she added her iPod, a shelf for books, a lamp and a table. This space she titled “Mom’s Place” and no one; not her husband or her children could enter this small 5′ corner of the room and talk to her unless she invited them. When she went to this spot it meant “Mom was taking a time-out.” Only her 2 pet Yorkshire terriers were welcomed without invitation. She created this spot because every other room in the house was used by the rest of her family. This spot suited her perfectly, she even had a window she could open for fresh air, look out of and see her garden. Many of her friends asked her if the kitchen wasn’t her private power spot but she told them that while the kitchen was her room, filled with her things, she worked there and it couldn’t be hers privately, so she found she couldn’t relax and unwind there. The spot she called “Mom’s Place” was hers alone and served as a refuge and sanctuary from the work of the day. It meant time off, a place to restore herself and refresh her spirit. 

Everyone needs this private form of personal space; it helps us to maintain our personal power and sanity. We are meant to take up space for ourselves, it’s not only our birthright but it’s our responsibility to live and breathe as the unique beings we were created to be. We all have something distinctive to put forth into this world and unless we claim our right to express ourselves, we all miss out on something wonderful. So empower and anchor your individual expression by first creating a spot that is all yours; a place from which you can center yourself and restore your energy.

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach©