Habits Get a Bad Rap

 I think habits get a bad rap. Quite often when someone is mentioning a habit they are talking about something “bad” they want to change. I try not to use the word “bad” anymore because it feels like I am inviting that energy in and making it stronger. When I remember to re-frame my thinking I will look at what I might label a “bad” habit as an excellent teacher. For instance I will objectively watch myself and simply notice what I seem to do all-the-time that I want to change. I will then do a kind of self-interview and ask…

  • Why do I do this habit?
  • How does it serve me?
  • What prompts me to do it? (like an association from someone or other activity)
  • Do I have a belief that is the driving force behind it?
  • Last I will ask, what would be the opposite of this habit and do I want to find out a way to have that in my life instead?
My most recent experience of changing or shifting habits was watching less TV in the hope I would get back to doing my watercolor painting which I actually love more. I am using a tip I got from Martha Beck called “Ridiculously Easy Steps” It works like this. Instead of berating myself for doing the “bad” habit item I simply notice it, allow and accept that this is the best I can do right now AND in the next moment I can do better. So I begin to add my new better step in small “Ridiculously Easy” measures.
Instead of attempting to watch less TV I simply add in the time I want to paint. I have discovered it works best at the end of my day. If I am tired I will pull out one of my art books and read it for 15 minutes or I will literally just sit in my art studio for 5-10 minutes. I created a whole list of baby steps and commit myself to doing one EVERY day. That’s the key to changing or building on a new habit. I think it’s best to let go of the changing a habit and just think of it as shifting or adding in something you want more.
Many of us cringe and get our dander up when we think there is something about us we need to change.  If you want to make a permanent change do your new activity for 21 days In A Row! That’s how long it takes to form a new habit. Once we do something for 21 straight days it becomes embedded in our psyche.
I have done this 5 minute “baby step” practice before and usually by the time the 21 days are up, I find I am spending more time doing my new habit and almost effortlessness the new habit is formed.
How do you fell about the word habit? Is it a positive energy word for you or a negative one? Do you have new habits or routines you would like to add to your life? Pick a time and the activity then make it really really easy to do and see if you can build on it over time. Martha Beck writes in her book that to build the exercise at the gym habit her first Ridiculously Easy step was to simply drive to the gym and park her car. She didn’t even get out for the first week. Gradually she did and now she is amazingly fit and trim.
It’s like pennies – we think they are not worth much but when you stop to consider that a million dollars starts with that first penny you begin to see that even the smallest effort can move mountains!
’till next time,
Ginger-Marie
Your Personal Space Coach

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The Personal Space Journal

The Personal Space Journal is the way I keep track of the progress I am making as I explore my ever expanding self-empowerment. I use two types currently; one letter size for deep thought sessions and a minim 5 x 7 one for my decorating notes. You might even want a different one for each of the four Personal Space sections; Soul Space, Body Space, Home Space and Life Space, it’s a completely personal choice. Journal Writing

Choose any style and size that appeals to you. I use the larger size for my thoughts, questions and any epiphanies I might have. There is something about hand-writing things down that exercises the brain and clears our mind. I am reminded of the Harry Potter books and the “pensive” that Professor Dumbledore used to unload his mind; that is exactly what writing in my journal does for me.

Often in my blog posts I will refer to “taking notes” or “carry a sample” when talking about a Home-Space energy reboot project. For this purpose you can get by with a small wire notebook where you can jot down short notes and information. I use a that fits in my purse. It even has pockets in it for paint colors and fabric samples. This mini-journal is a smaller version of the Project Book (a three-ring binder) I will teach you about in a later post and easy to carry with you all the time. You never know when an idea or even a color sample will turn up.

Journals in various sizes are a tool I have used for over 30 years and even though today I carry my iPhone with me, I can’t see it ever fully replacing my hand-written journals. The reason for this is that hand-writing stimulates the brain where we store our creativity. It’s very easy to go from writing a thought to drawing a picture, so I highly recommend you employ this tool at least some of the time.

A second reason the electronic notes won’t work is when doing a decorating project you must have actual color samples with you as you shop because a photograph on your phone won’t represent the color accurately for matching purposes.

So by all means use your phone for taking notes and pictures but you will want to transfer them for storage in one place eventually and the hand written Personal Space Journal is a good choice.

I have also discovered that hand writing brings to the surface a deeper view of what is going on inside of my heart. It’s just too easy to self-edit as I write on my computer but with hand writing noting gets filtered and my deepest feelings are revealed. We need this depth if we are going to access our True power and revitalize our Personal Space energy.

I’d love to see a picture of your Personal Space Journals (the one I use for decorating is pictured here) and let me know how it works for you as you proceed on your project.
’till next time,
Ginger-Marie
Your Personal Space Coach©

Do You Need to “Re-boot?”

Do you need a “time-out” or a “re-boot” during your day? If you have energy glitches like these the answer is “yes!”

Four Personal Space Energy Lessons I learned from my computer and TV
One:
Pain ReliefComputer: While happily typing along, suddenly your computer sends up a warning that it has to shut down and you better hurry and save stuff or it’s gonna be lost.
Personal Version: This might look like a sudden shocking event in your life, like a death in the family or a layoff from your job. You quickly stop what you are doing in life and switch gears to deal with the crisis at hand.

Two:
Computer: While in the middle of a project the computer suddenly freezes up and won’t budge even if you hit “escape” or “refresh.” So you do a “hard” re-boot to get it working again.
Personal Version: This is like “brain fog” where you forget what you were about to do or say. Overwork, multi-tasking and fatigue trigger this symptom and only a “get away” break will revive you. Taking a break, drinking water, getting fresh air, and eating a snack are all “hard” re-boot examples for us to follow.

Three:
Computer: In response to your request for help with technical issues IT will say; “well, did you try re-booting it?” This is one of those “if all else fails turn it off and on again” event, or close your browser and re-launch it.
TV: While watching the TV something upsetting comes on so you change the channel.
Personal Version: This happens frequently in social settings. For example you are having lunch with friends and one of them is droning on and on about a subject; you can change the channel by changing the subject. It’s quick, painless and almost unnoticeable.

Four:
TV: The “pause button” on our TV is a great space creator by freezing time until you are ready to engage with what you are watching.
Personal Version: A nap is a good example of a “pause” or a break from your work. Both stop the flow your life is currently going in, which allows you time to reassess, refresh and empower your energy. When we re-emerge from this re-booting process more than likely our focus will be changed and our direction improved.

A word of warning; watch out for the common mistake to look at the need for a re-boot as though something was wrong with you. It’s not! This is simply a natural human need for a clarity boost and totally natural for everyone. Even the weather does these sudden shifts of unexpected direction and energy shifts which “clears the air.”
Life is meant to be enjoyed and lived as it comes. Surprises are the spice of live. So go ahead and re-boot, pause, change channels as necessary, you’ll be happier for it.

Write back and tell me about some of your recent personal space re-boots and what you gained from them.
‘till next time,
Ginger-Marie
Your Personal Space Coach©

Do You Dare Express Your Unique Style?

I love watching people, and the longer I do the more I come to realize that we truly are one of a kind. Some days it’s difficult to notice the unique qualities each person is capable of and on other days it hits you in the face and it almost too much of a shock to absorb. That is what happened to me last week at my local Sprouts. Here I was doing my weekly marketing when I turned the corner and almost ran over this man’s dog. He was so still I didn’t notice him, then the next thing I saw was his owner’s shoes, and as I looked up I got a marvelous shock. Here was a brave man in my midst! He not only brought his dog into the store but was wearing bright red and green seekers, a sombrero hat and a colorful shirt as well. Unique Dressed Man

I can only assume he had a special need for the dog as I don’t think they are allowed in the store under normal circumstances, but then nothing about this man was normal or usual. I admit I didn’t have the courage to speak to him and in hindsight I wish I could have but no, on this day I high-tailed it out of that section and gave myself a wide berth. Why? Well I asked myself this and to be honest my first thought was that this man was unstable but as I explored my reaction further I have to admit that it was more that his uniqueness was a bit more than I could handle. I feel badly about that and in the future I will check my judgment at the door because he is not the only “odd” dresser in the store. I too tend to dress strangely (to others eyes I am sure) because I happen to wear a visor hat almost all the time I am outside, and even while in the store. I don’t like the sun in my eyes and a full hat will flatten my hair. I wear it inside because if a store is warm I tend to perspire so I will put it on so as not to drip about as I do my shopping. Odd? Yep, that’s me. Perhaps we are all odd … after all there are no two of us alike. Sometimes it works and sometimes it just scares people.

This man made my day. I admire his courage. His color coordination was excellent and so cheerful. There are others that dress “oddly” to our way of thinking and they make it really work for them…remember Michael Jackson and his one gloved hand -or how about Pharrell Williams and his Smokey the Bear hat? Sure actors, musicians and artists are given permission by society to dress and even act oddly so why shouldn’t the rest of us have this same permission? I think we have to give it to ourselves and when we encounter brave dressed men like I did in my local store it paves the way for the rest of us to be exactly who we are “out loud!”

Go forth and be brave in your uniqueness and if I see you I will be sure to cheer you on!

’till next time,
Ginger-Marie
Your Personal Space Coach©

 

Stored Energy in Our Furnishings

Have you ever notice how emotional moving our furniture can be? Even if we are excited to make the decorating changes or move to a new location, we will have grief surface because one thing has to end before the new thing can begin. It’s the energy of transition we feel and when we move our furnishings our “roots” get disturbed. There is another reason grief arises when we are moving our furnishings, the energy that is stored in the items we own gets stirred up when we shift them around or pack and move.

11-2012 Sedona Election Trip (245)This is how it works. You have items that are in plain sight but you don’t notice them anymore because you are used to them. When you move them to a new spot suddenly you see them with “fresh eyes” and you might not like what you see. Memories of who gave it to you, or when you bought it surface and suddenly you are overwhelmed with emotions like joy, sadness or repulsion. Now these feelings are great in that they help you to know if you want to keep an item or not, but they can be overwhelming at moving time. If possible try to review all of your possessions before you move and eliminate the ones that you won’t want in your new space. This way that old energy doesn’t move with you.

Next you have items that are special keepsakes and you most likely have them boxed up. High school yearbooks, photos of vacations, mementos etc. As you open them to see what you have and where it will go in your new space, you suddenly are swamped with memories and emotions. If your life is going great then your reminiscing will be a little depleting but sweet. However if your life is not quite where you thought it would be “by now” you might compound your moving grief with self-judgment. Again going through everything before you move will help alleviate this and you can grieve and release in your old home so your move itself is less stressful. However if you can’t to that then I recommend you give yourself permission to leave some things boxed up and slowly go through them over the course of a few months.

I have a three part method for sorting through all my possessions;

  1. Set up an area for “give-a-ways” where you can collect items and then donate
  2. Set up another for “maybe keep items” – this is to give you time to process if you want to keep them or donate them
  3. Keepers- when you know for sure you want an item, put it where you want it to be as soon as possible. If I do this before I move I will label my floor plan with the furniture piece so I can tell the movers where it will go.

Take the “give-a-ways” to the thrift shop each time your car is full. Keep moving this stuff out. Don’t even think about having a garage sale unless this is a thing you love to do because you won’t get as much money as you think you will get, and this just adds to the to-do-list that you already have too much on.

What can be done to dissipate and heal all the memory energy in our possessions? I like to use smudge sticks. I will light a scent that has the energy I want to apply such as sage for purification and I will waif the smoke over the items and hold the intention of letting the old memories go. If I am keeping items I will then use another scent that puts a blessing on my items. Your local metaphysical store will have more information on how to do this. Also my favorite author on this topic is Denise Lynn. Check out her books and website for more energy healing information.

Energy is an invisible component to our lives and understanding how to work with and manage it can really help our overall health and vitality. Good luck with your next moving or clutter clearing project!

’till next time,
Ginger-Marie
Your Personal Space Coach©

 

 

 

Tips For Book-ending Your Day

In my last blog post I introduced you to my invention of “Book-ending Your Day” for maintaining your best energy all day long. I can tell you from personal experience that on the days I skip my daily two-steps I feel lost, scattered and fragmented, but luckily the next day I can re-boot my energy with my 15 minute practice and restore my energy field. Pain Relief

These tips might give you other ideas of what to try so just review them and allow them to activate your own inner wisdom – because this is where your best routine will come from. Over time you may adjust the process you set up and that is also perfect.

Book-ending Tips:

If you don’t already have a morning and evening stop-and-be-quiet practice this will be your first step; to find a way to stop and be quiet for 5-15 minutes twice a day. But in order to apply this step you must first know what it is you usually do in the morning and evening. So take a week and jot down each day how you start and stop your day. We are looking for the “out-of-bed” and “back-in-bed” routine if you have one, if not just list for one week how each day started and stopped.We learn about ourselves as we go along, if we will only take time and space to self-explore.

  1. Write down your current morning and evening routine, add time of day to this as well because we are looking to add or find 15 minutes at both ends.
  2. Once you have your list of usual activities, see if you want to adjust any of them. For instance change your shower from morning to evening if that fits your lifestyle better.
  3. Next, while looking at your list and the timing, see if you can add in a 5 minute stretch to both your morning and your evening to just sit down in your room quietly – I call this the “STOP” practice. Most of us don’t stop until our head hits the pillow which is why brilliant ideas or answers to questions come then. If we stop while upright we can catch our best thoughts better.
  4. Take your evening list of activities (your bookend) and write them on a card, noting the 5 items you feel must do in order. Then add in your 5 minutes of sitting where it fits. We work with the evening first because most of us have extra time at night to try out something new without being stressed about it. Once you have your evening bookend settled and are practicing it, take a look at how your morning has changed if at all. Many find that by going to bed in a positive, organized manner they wake up with this energy already in place and it feeds into the new day.
  5. Once you feel comfortable with your evening book-end routine and are practicing it, apply the same steps (list activities-review/tweak activities-apply stop time) and create your morning practice. Tweak it as you go and once you have a morning and evening routing created that works for you fairly easily take a look at your calendar and see if you can practice it for the next 21 days in a row…even on the weekends. If you can’t do a full 15 minutes of stop-and-be-quiet time then just do 5 minutes. The daily practice for 21 days will set up the habit.

By now, even if you are not doing this daily, you will have discovered the benefits of Book-ending Your Day for yourself. You may have created an entirely different routine than my example but the key here is to place your attention on what gives you energy and finding your own unique ways to enhance it and keep it charged.

I’d love to hear about your practice.

’till next time,
Ginger-Marie
Your Personal Space Coach

Book-ending Your Day

I bet you are wondering what in the world is she talking about now? I don’t blame you-lol  This is the best term I could come up with to describe the way I manage my Personal Energy so that I have the best day possible every day of the week.

It came to me one Sunday when I was having a quiet moment in my Private Spot. My energy for Sunday always feel so good to me and I knew it was because I took all the time I wanted to sit in my quiet area, writing in my journal, watching the birds in the trees and just “be-ing” me. I was wondering how I could create this feeling on a daily basis and it occurred to me that I tend to rush around Monday through Saturday but on Sunday I “mosey.” I never have a moments peace until my Sunday routine of doing nothing. Feet Relaxing

I began to wonder if I could “start” and “stop” my day the same way each day…sort of frame all my activities like book-ends frame and support the books on my shelf…perhaps I could give myself better energy and have that content, satisfied feeling I get on Sunday – every day!

So I set out to first notice what I was doing already every morning and every evening to see if any of it was routine….you know like shower in the morning, put your pj’s on at night, that kind of thing.

Next I looked at what I did on Sunday and decided to add mini parts of this to my morning and evening routine and what I came up with is a 15 minute practice before I head out for the day and a 15 minute practice I do before I crawl into bed at night. And it worked!! I began to feel better during my day. If I found myself rushing around like a chicken-with-my-head-cut-off, I’d catch myself and literally stop and repeat the word “mosey” in my head. This usually makes me laugh because it’s such a silly word but it does the trick. I still get everything done without rushing AND I actually get more done and am happier all day long. I also don’t turn to food (chocolate) to comfort me anymore because I don’t need comfort…I start with comfort and end with comfort and all day long I maintain my comfort level almost magically.

In my next blog I will give you a list of tips to apply if you want to try this daily practice out for yourself.

’till next time
Ginger-Marie
Your Personal Space Coach

 

What is Your Personal Color Match?

Do you have a favorite color? Maybe it’s green, but what shade of green? Is it a color that reminds you of the ocean such as Sea-foam green? A dark forest Hunter green? Or perhaps Lime green? If you don’t know what your favorite color is try this experiment: iphone-pics-6-109.jpg

Color Test:

  • Do this for about 3-5 days
  • Breakfast, lunch and dinner are good times to try this but any time will do
  • Visually scan where you are sitting and see how many different colors you can find
  • Notice which ones feel like “non-colors” or they just blend into the background. This happens often with browns and grays.
  • Try to find a color that evokes an emotional response and make a note of it with your cell phone or notebook. A strong “oh, I love this!” response or a “yuck” response are worth noting. You can even use your cell phone to take a photo of the colors you get a reaction to.

After your 3-5 days are up (go longer if you haven’t found a color that makes you feel joy) you will want to look over your photos and see if you can name one shade that is your absolute favorite. You will know because you will either be smiling when you look at it or will feel an inner smile of joy, it just makes you feel good. Don’t be shocked at your emotional response to color. Color is after all an illusion of vibration. All color originates in white light and the only way we see a color is when it is refracted OUT. Yes I did say “out” and this means we “see” the color that is missing. Nuts right? But that’s science for you, kind of mysterious.

So back to your reaction. Color is a frequency and when you land on one that gives you joy you have found your match…at least for now. This could change over the course of your life. You might stick with green but the shade of green might shift depending on how your vibration (yes you are vibrating as well) clicks with the colors vibration. It’s all energy; you, the world around you, everything in it, and once we recognize this energy we can use it to keep ourselves happy and healthy.

Once you know your favorite color (or colors) check your home decor and your wardrobe – is this color anywhere in sight? Start by adding this color to your home, wardrobe, car and office space in whatever form you want; such as pillows, towels, flowers, candles. Chances are if this is your favorite color it will give you an energy boost to have in your own vibration such as on your body or in the room with you.

Sometimes when I am doing a healing I will “see” a color in my mind and know this is what I need for my therapy. I will pull it up on Google to gaze at while I work or choose to wear it for the day if I own an outfit in that shade.

I hope you have fun with this little color experiment and find that it is an easy, fun way to boost your energy when needed.

By the way my childhood favorite color was blue- I used up that crayon shade the fastest 🙂 It’s the (top) blue shade on the bottom left of this photo. As an adult I collect cobalt blue glass so my “blue” has evolved just a bit. And wouldn’t you know it, this same blue is considered a “power” color for my wardrobe as well.

Let me know your favorite color and if it has changed from childhood.

’till next time,
Ginger-Marie
Your Personal Space Coach

Take a Day for Yourself!

Have you ever taken a day off  just because you wanted to? I admit it wasn’t until I hit 40 that I started doing this and then it was some time later until I felt no guilt over it.

9-6-11 Mom's Sedona Birthday (36)Isn’t it funny how we don’t hesitate to give our car gas (and we don’t wait until it is empty either) but for our own bodies we put off rest and fun? When you fully own your Personal Space you will never hesitate to respect yourself by taking the time and space you either need or want. You won’t be pushing yourself without balancing this “push-time” with equal or greater “off-time” and you will know that if your Soul calls for you to goof off for a day that it is best for you follow your wisdom and do just that.

Taking a personal space” day  for yourself either planned or spontaneous is one of the most powerful stress reducing tips I could ever give you. For when the Universe sees that you value yourself enough to take care of yourself, then it too will align Life around you to also value and support you.

I think it was Oprah who said that we teach others how to treat us by how we treat ourselves. Well it’s the same for Life and the Law of Attraction as well. We must first “do unto ourselves – what we would have Life do unto us” …I know I really altered that Golden Rule quote but seriously it really is how Life works. The world as we see and live it starts with us, not from outside of ourselves but from within us.

So take a moment. Sit in your Personal Private Spot and go within and hear what your heart and soul is calling for you to do next, now. Rest. Dance. Take a drive. Eat some lettuce…lol Seriously if we live from our internal barometer we can’t loose because that is where OUR answers are found and nowhere else.
‘till next time,
Ginger-Marie
Your Personal Space Coach

Public Power Spots

Sheldon's spot

There are examples all around us of people claiming their Public Power Spots – those spaces in public or “shared space” that make us feel more comfortable. From choosing a favorite chair and desk at work to the seat you pick when going out for dinner, we all have preferences that we tend to lean toward and feel better when we are able to claim them.

A funny example you may have seen comes from the funny TV show The Big Bang Theory. In almost every episode we see where the character “Sheldon Cooper” has laid claim to a particular spot on the couch and won’t let anyone else sit there. I don’t recommend that we go this psycho in our creation of our own Public Power Spot but it serves as a funny example of what “taking up space” can look like. TV character Sheldon has definitely declared his right to exist, but unlike Sheldon, we want remember to keep our sense of humor if our space is invaded….especially when we are really dealing with “shared space” and not true private space.

                       Leonard: (shouted to Penny as she starts to sit down) you can’t sit there!!
                      Penny: Why not?
                      Sheldon: That’s where I sit.
                      Penny: What’s the difference?
                     Sheldon: What’s the difference? In the winter that seat is close enough to the radiator to remain warm, and yet not so close as to cause                       perspiration. In the summer, it’s directly in the path of a cross-breeze created by opening windows there and there. It faces the                                         television at an angle that is neither direct, thus discouraging conversation, nor so far wide as to create a parallax distortion. I could go                       on, but I think I’ve made my point.

Have you ever felt this way about a spot you thought was yours? I find this happens to me when I attend a movie and have to get up. I make sure I leave something like a sweater to mark “my spot” because I don’t want to lose it while I go get a soda. I know whole families who have a certain section in their church where they “always” sit, and others who favor particular locations of Starbucks along with a favorite table to sit at. This is healthy human behavior; putting down territorial roots even if they are temporary. We need them for our survival and it is healthy as long as we stay flexible and know the truth – the power behind and ability to create our “roots” is actually inside each of us. The power is never “out there” and always comes from within.  We are the power in our lives, not the spot we choose to inhabit; it just helps us to expand our expression – to take up space in an outward fashion.

I’d love to hear about how you take up space in a powerful yet fair manner in the world. This is not your Personal Private Space – that one is for you alone and is in your home. No this is a kind of echo energy from that one. By taking up space for yourself in your home you will find that once you are out in the world spaces that appeal to your energy will magically appear and be open for you. From parking spots to chairs in a restaurant, Life will make perfect space for you once you declare it for yourself in your own home.
’till next time!
Ginger- Marie
Your Personal Space Coach