Most of us go about our day thinking things should be just this way or exactly that way and if this doesn’t happen we might say we had a “bad day.” But did we have a “bad day” or was it our thinking that made it “bad”?
If we compared our day’s experiences to a day in the natural world how would this work?
In nature there are very few constants; the earth rotates so it appears that the sun comes up and sets each day and the four seasons come and go, the tide of the sea rises and drops. Other than that, what can you really predict will happen? What can you truly count on or rely on? Nothing! Some days I think the weather forecasters should just phone it in and announce what time the sun rises and sets and call it a day. As well-trained as they are and no matter what new gadgets they create, not one of them can consistently predict the weather on a day-to-day basis.
If the very planet we live on – our home – is unpredictable what makes us think we can predict our life and its daily events? We were gifted with consciousness not control of all that is. Can you control the mood your boss will be in? Can you control that driver behind you on the way to work who insists on tailgating you? Nope, you can’t. Yet we try and then we judge our day based upon our failure or success at controlling that which can’t be controlled. Crazy right?
What if we could chuck that behavior out the window and try to be like the animals? Have you ever seen a bird plot and plan out his/her day? Have you ever seen your pet dog or cat make appointments or lists and then get upset if something didn’t get done? Nope. They just take the day as it comes to them and handle things the moment. The animals all around us are great Zen Masters and we could benefit from their example.
Now, animals do fight but it isn’t like our emotion of anger that can linger for hours, days, even years! Have you ever watched a cat fight or a duck fight? They scratch, make loud noises, bite and peck and get it all out in a few minutes and then walk away from it all. Gone. Over. Done. Not one of them carries a grudge or a judgment like “that shouldn’t have happened.”
Conscious Personal Space is what we can learn from the animals; know what you need, work to obtain and maintain it, or move on. They accept what is, and adapt as needed to maintain a balance. It’s the natural order of things…could it also be the natural order of us? We act all superior to the animal world saying we are above the animals; we put them down for being animals when in fact they are just being natural.
Are we being natural? I wonder.
’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach©