Book-ending Your Day

I bet you are wondering what in the world is she talking about now? I don’t blame you-lol  This is the best term I could come up with to describe the way I manage my Personal Energy so that I have the best day possible every day of the week.

It came to me one Sunday when I was having a quiet moment in my Private Spot. My energy for Sunday always feel so good to me and I knew it was because I took all the time I wanted to sit in my quiet area, writing in my journal, watching the birds in the trees and just “be-ing” me. I was wondering how I could create this feeling on a daily basis and it occurred to me that I tend to rush around Monday through Saturday but on Sunday I “mosey.” I never have a moments peace until my Sunday routine of doing nothing. Feet Relaxing

I began to wonder if I could “start” and “stop” my day the same way each day…sort of frame all my activities like book-ends frame and support the books on my shelf…perhaps I could give myself better energy and have that content, satisfied feeling I get on Sunday – every day!

So I set out to first notice what I was doing already every morning and every evening to see if any of it was routine….you know like shower in the morning, put your pj’s on at night, that kind of thing.

Next I looked at what I did on Sunday and decided to add mini parts of this to my morning and evening routine and what I came up with is a 15 minute practice before I head out for the day and a 15 minute practice I do before I crawl into bed at night. And it worked!! I began to feel better during my day. If I found myself rushing around like a chicken-with-my-head-cut-off, I’d catch myself and literally stop and repeat the word “mosey” in my head. This usually makes me laugh because it’s such a silly word but it does the trick. I still get everything done without rushing AND I actually get more done and am happier all day long. I also don’t turn to food (chocolate) to comfort me anymore because I don’t need comfort…I start with comfort and end with comfort and all day long I maintain my comfort level almost magically.

In my next blog I will give you a list of tips to apply if you want to try this daily practice out for yourself.

’till next time
Ginger-Marie
Your Personal Space Coach

 

What is Your Personal Color Match?

Do you have a favorite color? Maybe it’s green, but what shade of green? Is it a color that reminds you of the ocean such as Sea-foam green? A dark forest Hunter green? Or perhaps Lime green? If you don’t know what your favorite color is try this experiment: iphone-pics-6-109.jpg

Color Test:

  • Do this for about 3-5 days
  • Breakfast, lunch and dinner are good times to try this but any time will do
  • Visually scan where you are sitting and see how many different colors you can find
  • Notice which ones feel like “non-colors” or they just blend into the background. This happens often with browns and grays.
  • Try to find a color that evokes an emotional response and make a note of it with your cell phone or notebook. A strong “oh, I love this!” response or a “yuck” response are worth noting. You can even use your cell phone to take a photo of the colors you get a reaction to.

After your 3-5 days are up (go longer if you haven’t found a color that makes you feel joy) you will want to look over your photos and see if you can name one shade that is your absolute favorite. You will know because you will either be smiling when you look at it or will feel an inner smile of joy, it just makes you feel good. Don’t be shocked at your emotional response to color. Color is after all an illusion of vibration. All color originates in white light and the only way we see a color is when it is refracted OUT. Yes I did say “out” and this means we “see” the color that is missing. Nuts right? But that’s science for you, kind of mysterious.

So back to your reaction. Color is a frequency and when you land on one that gives you joy you have found your match…at least for now. This could change over the course of your life. You might stick with green but the shade of green might shift depending on how your vibration (yes you are vibrating as well) clicks with the colors vibration. It’s all energy; you, the world around you, everything in it, and once we recognize this energy we can use it to keep ourselves happy and healthy.

Once you know your favorite color (or colors) check your home decor and your wardrobe – is this color anywhere in sight? Start by adding this color to your home, wardrobe, car and office space in whatever form you want; such as pillows, towels, flowers, candles. Chances are if this is your favorite color it will give you an energy boost to have in your own vibration such as on your body or in the room with you.

Sometimes when I am doing a healing I will “see” a color in my mind and know this is what I need for my therapy. I will pull it up on Google to gaze at while I work or choose to wear it for the day if I own an outfit in that shade.

I hope you have fun with this little color experiment and find that it is an easy, fun way to boost your energy when needed.

By the way my childhood favorite color was blue- I used up that crayon shade the fastest 🙂 It’s the (top) blue shade on the bottom left of this photo. As an adult I collect cobalt blue glass so my “blue” has evolved just a bit. And wouldn’t you know it, this same blue is considered a “power” color for my wardrobe as well.

Let me know your favorite color and if it has changed from childhood.

’till next time,
Ginger-Marie
Your Personal Space Coach

Take a Day for Yourself!

Have you ever taken a day off  just because you wanted to? I admit it wasn’t until I hit 40 that I started doing this and then it was some time later until I felt no guilt over it.

9-6-11 Mom's Sedona Birthday (36)Isn’t it funny how we don’t hesitate to give our car gas (and we don’t wait until it is empty either) but for our own bodies we put off rest and fun? When you fully own your Personal Space you will never hesitate to respect yourself by taking the time and space you either need or want. You won’t be pushing yourself without balancing this “push-time” with equal or greater “off-time” and you will know that if your Soul calls for you to goof off for a day that it is best for you follow your wisdom and do just that.

Taking a personal space” day  for yourself either planned or spontaneous is one of the most powerful stress reducing tips I could ever give you. For when the Universe sees that you value yourself enough to take care of yourself, then it too will align Life around you to also value and support you.

I think it was Oprah who said that we teach others how to treat us by how we treat ourselves. Well it’s the same for Life and the Law of Attraction as well. We must first “do unto ourselves – what we would have Life do unto us” …I know I really altered that Golden Rule quote but seriously it really is how Life works. The world as we see and live it starts with us, not from outside of ourselves but from within us.

So take a moment. Sit in your Personal Private Spot and go within and hear what your heart and soul is calling for you to do next, now. Rest. Dance. Take a drive. Eat some lettuce…lol Seriously if we live from our internal barometer we can’t loose because that is where OUR answers are found and nowhere else.
‘till next time,
Ginger-Marie
Your Personal Space Coach

Powerful Privacy

Have you ever considered how powerful privacy is? Being alone with yourself or as I like to think of it… alone = “al -one”…. is a wonderful gift we can give ourselves. Now you might think we are always with ourselves so why do we need to be alone or by ourselves? Well, I would challenge that we are never alone and unless we deliberately work at it we are almost never “al-one”…that is in a space where we can hear ourselves think and feel.

Expand Your SpaceThe reason for this is not just because of the people we have in our lives but the energy of others that is always present either in electronic devices, radio, TV, media or even voices of others in our heads. My parents have been deceased for over 15 years and I still hear their voices in my head (or their beliefs coming out of my mouth if I am not careful-ha!)

So to get away from the world and dive into our own true soulful energy we need to get away-claim some privacy for a while. We must deliberately choose to do this and hold to our commitment to be with ourselves alone (al-one) otherwise the world will seep in.

I often wonder how Henry David Thoreau would manage in today’s environment. Could he go to Walden Pond and produce the same work as he did in 1854? To answer my own question I have no doubt he could, but the journey to make it happen would be different. He’d have to consciously and bravely choose not to have phone, internet and other services. He might have to look a while to find a pond in a forest where the road to it isn’t paved or under the path of air travel. But once he was able to get “al-one” with himself I have no doubt he’d find the same solace and wisdom and Divine answers he found in 1854. And they might be even more profound today considering how much more outside static there is to  clear out in order to hear our soul speak.

When was the last time you gave yourself a private moment? From people? From electronics? From media? Give it a try for one hour and even better drive or hike away from your usual space and sit outdoors and do nothing. You will soon find how powerful true privacy is for the healing of your body, mind and soul.

I would love to hear about your hour of powerful privacy, where did you take it and what gifts did you receive?

’till next time,
Ginger – Marie
Your Personal Space Coach

 

Public Power Spots

Sheldon's spot

There are examples all around us of people claiming their Public Power Spots – those spaces in public or “shared space” that make us feel more comfortable. From choosing a favorite chair and desk at work to the seat you pick when going out for dinner, we all have preferences that we tend to lean toward and feel better when we are able to claim them.

A funny example you may have seen comes from the funny TV show The Big Bang Theory. In almost every episode we see where the character “Sheldon Cooper” has laid claim to a particular spot on the couch and won’t let anyone else sit there. I don’t recommend that we go this psycho in our creation of our own Public Power Spot but it serves as a funny example of what “taking up space” can look like. TV character Sheldon has definitely declared his right to exist, but unlike Sheldon, we want remember to keep our sense of humor if our space is invaded….especially when we are really dealing with “shared space” and not true private space.

                       Leonard: (shouted to Penny as she starts to sit down) you can’t sit there!!
                      Penny: Why not?
                      Sheldon: That’s where I sit.
                      Penny: What’s the difference?
                     Sheldon: What’s the difference? In the winter that seat is close enough to the radiator to remain warm, and yet not so close as to cause                       perspiration. In the summer, it’s directly in the path of a cross-breeze created by opening windows there and there. It faces the                                         television at an angle that is neither direct, thus discouraging conversation, nor so far wide as to create a parallax distortion. I could go                       on, but I think I’ve made my point.

Have you ever felt this way about a spot you thought was yours? I find this happens to me when I attend a movie and have to get up. I make sure I leave something like a sweater to mark “my spot” because I don’t want to lose it while I go get a soda. I know whole families who have a certain section in their church where they “always” sit, and others who favor particular locations of Starbucks along with a favorite table to sit at. This is healthy human behavior; putting down territorial roots even if they are temporary. We need them for our survival and it is healthy as long as we stay flexible and know the truth – the power behind and ability to create our “roots” is actually inside each of us. The power is never “out there” and always comes from within.  We are the power in our lives, not the spot we choose to inhabit; it just helps us to expand our expression – to take up space in an outward fashion.

I’d love to hear about how you take up space in a powerful yet fair manner in the world. This is not your Personal Private Space – that one is for you alone and is in your home. No this is a kind of echo energy from that one. By taking up space for yourself in your home you will find that once you are out in the world spaces that appeal to your energy will magically appear and be open for you. From parking spots to chairs in a restaurant, Life will make perfect space for you once you declare it for yourself in your own home.
’till next time!
Ginger- Marie
Your Personal Space Coach

Is Personal Space Extinct?

Personal Space is slowly becoming extinct. Everywhere we go we are constantly connected to everyone else on the planet. Everywhere we turn someone is telling us how to eat, what to eat, what not to eat, how to dress our body in the latest (and only approved of) styles, how to decorate our home, what the latest and greatest is for every moment of our life experience. Even if we turned off all the TV ads, radio marketing and newspaper ads, internet or magazine publications we would still be prompted by well-meaning others to do it their way. And always there is that unspoken “or else” that is implied. Or else you won’t be popular, or else you won’t get that job, or else you won’t look attractive. And the worst one of all; “or else you won’t be loved.” Pain Relief

Every one of these subtle and not too subtle voices coaxes us all day long to comply. Before you know it, you’ve lost the essence of what makes you tick, what makes you happy. You are lost as to what makes you, YOU. Reclaim and take back ownership of your Personal Space by tuning out the world on a daily basis. You’ll be glad you did and it will keep you sane. The only True voice is the one within your heart and soul; this is the voice of your Divine Inner Self – our Soul Space. It is crucial to our personal power and peace of mind that keep our Soul connection open and active or our life will fade into the world view of “one size fits all.”

It used to be that we could come home and leave the world behind for a while and refresh ourselves. But today with our wonderful internet and instant messaging the world comes with us everywhere. It is up to each of us to choose when, how and where we will take a break and give the world a “do-not-disturb” notice.

My favorite method of turning “off” world opinions is by declaring my unique self in my home decor style and in my wardrobe. I also set aside time each morning and evening (I call it my book-ends) to just sit and be still. Sometimes I meditate but most often I contemplate and watch nature while in my garden or through a window. I get so many good ideas and answers during theses quite “off” moments that I keep a note pad handy to jot down what comes to me, but I am careful not to work it then. I pick it up later when I am back “on” for the day.

Our personal power comes from within, the world can’t help us. No one can sleep for you, no one can eat for you and no one can hear your unique Soul’s voice but you alone. Turn off the world now and then and check in with yourself. This is where your power lies; flip your inner switch ON! You have all the power you need. Stay connected to YOU by managing the world with your own personal “off” switch.

’till next time,
Ginger- Marie
Your Personal Space Coach©

Habits Get a Bad Rap

I think habits get a bad rap. Quite often when someone is mentioning a habit they are talking about something “bad” they want to change. I try not to refer to anything as “bad” anymore. When I remember to re-frame my thinking I will look at “bad” as an excellent teacher. For instance I will objectively watch myself and simply notice what I seem to do all-the-time that I want to change. I will then do a kind of self-interview and ask…

– why do I do this habit?
-how does it serve me?
-what prompts me to do it? -like an association from someone or other activity
– and do I have a belief that is the driving force behind it?

– next I will ask what would be the opposite of this habit and do I want to find a way to have that in my life instead.

Painting HabitMy most recent experience of changing or shifting habits as I prefer to think of it, was watching less TV in the hope I would get back to doing my watercolor painting which I actually love more. I am using a tip I got from Martha Beck called “Ridiculously Easy Steps.” It works like this. Instead of berating myself for doing the “bad” habit item I simply notice it, allow and accept that this is the best I can do right now AND in the next moment I can do better. So I begin to add my new better step in small “Ridiculously Easy” measures. Instead of attempting to watch less TV I simply add in the time I want to paint. I have discovered it works best at the end of my day. If I am tired I will pull out one of my art books and read it for 15 minutes or I will literally just sit in my art studio for 5-10 minutes. I created a whole list of baby steps and commit myself to doing one EVERY day. That’s the key to changing or building on a new habit. I think it’s best to let go of the idea of changing yourself and just think of it as shifting or adding in something you want more. Many of us cringe and get our dander up when we think there is something about us we need to change.  Next we do this for 21 daysIn A Row! That’s the behaviorist key for habit forming. Once we do something for 21 straight days it becomes embedded in our psyche. I have done this before and by the time the 21 days are up the time I spend doing the new activity actually increases and the new habit is formed.

“Life is what happens when we make plans” is a famous quote so from time to time I check my daily routine to see if “life” has forced new habits on me and have I lost something I love like my daily painting routine. It seems to be a frivolous activity (I am not a pro after all) yet it is very important to my souls energy and I have learned never to discount what my soul longs for.

So how do you feel about the word habit? Is it a positive energy word or a negative one? Do you have any new habits or routines you would like to add to your life? Pick a time and the activity then make it really, really easy to do and see if you can build on it over time. Martha Beck writes in her book that for her to develop the exercise at the gym habit, her first Ridiculously Easy step was to simply drive to the gym and park her car. She didn’t even get out for the first week. Gradually she did and now she is amazingly fit and trim.

It’s like pennies. We think they are not worth much but when you stop to consider that a million dollars starts with that first penny … you can see how it all adds up and one penny worth of effort will make your dreams come true!

’till next time,
Ginger-Marie
Your Personal Space Coach

Silly Humor

When was the last time you acted silly – you know like you used to do as a child? I am not talking about “feeling silly” as in the adult version of the word meaning embarrassed. No that form of “silly” isn’t really the good energy feeling of silly that we had as children. Yet it grew from that experience when perhaps as a child some adult figure in our lives admonished us for “acting silly” …as if that was a crime!

11-17-12 Alex's Community Birthday (16) this is the darkest timeline... I have a theory why Disneyland and other amusement parks like this are so popular…they allow adults a time and a place (aka Personal Space) to bring out their silly energy. To act silly is to choose to be happy no matter what is going on. It is to look for the funny part in whatever is happening. It’s not quite the same as what Pollyanna taught us with her “Glad Game” but it is related in that going silly shifts our energy from negative to positive.

One way to infuse the energy of “silly” into your day is to make note of the daily holiday. It seems as if every day has at least one holiday event associated with it. It could be as silly as National Doughnut Day or as common as St Patrick’s Day. This link is just one of many web links that will tell you what “holiday” it is. www.checkiday.com The point it to just play with it and have fun! Once you know the day’s holiday do something to commemorate it that will add some fun to your life that day. For instance today April 16 is National High Five Day, as well as Wear Your PJ’s to Work Day…you get to pick what you want to have fun with.

We all like to have a good time and that good time starts with us-it never comes from outside of us.I know this from personal experience. Every now and then I have managed to bring a happy event down to mediocre with my attitude and I once went to Disneyland (of all places) with someone who was determined not to enjoy himself and guess what? He was miserable!!

This is why I encourage reactivating our childhood silly vibe – our “funny bone” because unless we find a way to laugh at life and what happens each day, we will grow old and sour. I’d rather grow happier and sillier. Have you ever seen a sour-pus person? Then you know what can happen to us if we forget how to play, laugh and be silly.

Puns are another great way to maintain our silly vibe and there are websites that will send you a “pun of the day” or a “joke of the day” which is a great way to start the energy flowing.

Having happy personal energy is up to each of us. To paraphrase a famous quote by Eleanor Roosevelt “no one (or thing) can make you feel (unhappy) without your consent!”

So do what you did as a child; find things to laugh about, go up to a friend and do that “oh there is something on your shirt trick and then flick their chin” – sign up for one of the daily jokes of the day, play “knock-knock” jokes with your kids….just do whatever it takes to bring a smile to your face, lighten your step and restore your feeling-good energy. You’ll be glad you did and so will the people you meet all day long.

’till next time,
Ginger-Marie
Your Personal Space Coach

Perfection Is Boring

In her original and humorous book on eating raw fresh food “Crazy Sexy Diet” Kris Carr says “perfection is boring.” As a recovering perfectionist this made me laugh out loud the first time I read it and then it began to sink in….was it possible that at those times I was being “perfect” I was actually being rigid and boring? Yes! She is absolutely right!

Think about it from various viewpoints…say we got the perfect weather year in and year out…you know when the weather forecaster says …”and the average temperature is…” and it would never vary, never have sunny days when it is suppose to be rainy season or snow when it is suppose to be warm. That would get boring wouldn’t it? 9-6-11 Mom's Sedona Birthday (36)

Or say you ate the very same food each day of the week like the character Sheldon does in “The Big Theory” and if he goes off that schedule he goes nuts…even if he would rather eat something else he won’t…that is boring for sure!

Being adaptable and flexible is the spice of life and who wants a bland life? Now a routine or schedule is great to follow for it gives us stability and structure but from time to time it’s important to spice up our life with variety and being imperfect is the “perfect” way to do this. For instance say you are driving your regular route one day and the road you want to travel is blocked by an accident, so you have to take a detour. Instead of getting upset realize that “Life” is sending you in a new direction for some reason and use this time to notice all the new things you encounter. You might find a better route home or discover a favorite shop was just built and if you hadn’t been re- routed you wouldn’t have realized this.

Tips For Perfectionists:

  1. Next time you get upset because something didn’t go “right” stop and ask what about this scenario IS going “right” because even if just one part went the way you hoped – it is a success.
  2. One or two days a week take a different route home from your job just for the adventure of it all
  3. One or two days a week eat a new food you have never tried before. Keep a journal and note your brave new choices and if you liked them or not. You may find that just trying something new even if you did’t like it made you feel lighter and more energized. Remember routine held too tightly can end up feeling like the walls of a cage. Set yourself free.
  4. Can you think of any other ways to mix up your life and add “spice” to your day?

Who do we have to be perfect for anyway? For me it was a childhood wound of feeling inadequate and unworthy which made me feel as if I needed to go the extra mile all-the-time just to be barely acceptable. Funny thing is, if you go the extra mile all the time it’s not really “extra” anymore. It becomes your norm and then you end up feeling like you will never measure up. To be honest we won’t ever be able to please others, it’s simply not in our power or our job to do so. We each decide for ourselves how pleased we will be by the events around us; therefore the only one you can be perfect for is you!!

So go ahead and mix it up a little, make mistakes, take detours and laugh about it as you go and discover something new along the way. Lighten up like a butterfly that just fitters about not caring if it has a perfect moment and not caring if it looks scattered and unfocused. Only we in our minds know what we are about and the rest of the worlds doesn’t matter.

So let go of boring perfectionism and start being spicy interesting instead and see if your life energy doesn’t improve!!

’till next time,
Ginger-Marie
Your Personal Space Coach

Do You Have a Personal Private Spot?

We all need personal time to ourselves, but with our busy lives and constant activity via the internet it can be difficult to find this time and space. This is why I ask all of my clients to create for themselves somewhere in their home a personal private spot. This is a place in the home that you can call your own. No one else sits here or disturbs the possessions you keep here. Having this private space anchors us so that our energy is strong and stable. It is our “home base,” the place we return to at the end of the day or even during the day to collect our thoughts, to refresh and to center ourselves. Vision Practice Chair

It is our birthright to take up space our way. We are given our own Personal Space real-estate at the moment of conception. That spark of life from the Divine, our Soul Space, ignited the human life that was developing in the womb. This Soul and Body Space energy grew as we developed and experienced life. The personal private spot acts as a powerful root that keeps us grounded and allows us the time and space we need to reconnect with our true essence. Our energy is enhanced when we create this space by filling it with the things that give us comfort and joy.

You especially need to create and claim a personal power spot for yourself if you live with others. Those you live with can do this as well and as you respect each other’s private spaces and private time spent there, you will find your relationships improve. Taking up Personal Space consciously is akin to declaring ownership for your life. Before you think these steps sound like work, remember if you are not taking responsibility for your life then someone else is, and that someone else will have power over you.

Creating a space that you can call your very own, that no one will disturb without your permission is a vital step to reducing the stress in your life. It will also energize you and enhance your personal power. It’s the step that will allow you to expand and take up space in the world as the unique, distinctive individual that you are. You might think this message is only needed for young adults who are just beginning to express themselves in the adult world, but in fact most adults have lost much of their Personal Space over the years due to education, training, and social pressure. We are taught to fit-in, get along, cooperate and compromise until there is nothing left of the unique individual that we are at our core. Rarely are we encouraged in school, at work or in our families to “stand up and be different!”

This step of establishing your private power spot is so crucial to the Personal Space Journey that it is the #1 Energy Check I use for my Home-Space Energy Review.

Personal Private Spots are as diverse are we are, and no matter your living conditions I can help you create one for yourself. Please write and tell me about your space and how you make it uniquely yours. If you need ideas or support let me know.

I would love to hear about the places you have created for yourself.

’till next time,
Ginger – Marie
Your Personal Space Coach