Find Your Personal Colors

Having the right color scheme can make all the difference between creating a room that is just okay, to one that simply sparkles. And who is to say which color is “right” anyway? You are that’s who!!

When you choose a color scheme that gives you energy and happiness, it will follow that others who enter the room will pick up on this vibration. It may not be the design or color they would choose for themselves but they will be able to recognize the feeling of harmony and symmetry the room exudes. This is why you can visit restaurants, resorts and other environments decorated in a style you would never choose for your home decor, yet you enjoy being in these rooms. Simply put, they work because the person behind their creation loved the finished room themselves.

The rooms of our home reflect who we are inside. And just as with a charismatic person whose dynamic energy draws everyone at a party toward them, so too the rooms we decorate can have this dynamic pull as well – and it’s opposite if we are not careful with our space. Create what you love, care for and tend to your home space and it will translate good vibrations to all. So the “right” color scheme is the one that makes you feel good. Personal Colors

If you feel hesitant to put color on your walls or use bold color fabrics here is a step that will help you find your best colors. You will need a notebook (your Personal Space Journal) a pen and your clothes closet.

Find Your Personal Colors:

  1. Look over your wardrobe and notice what colors you see – list them in your notebook
  2. Next group similar colors together- does one color stand out as the one you wear the most? Jot down the number of outfits you have in each color (all shades of a color go together)
  3. Pick your favorite 3-5 outfits and write down why you like these most.
  4. Stand before a mirror with good lighting – hold them up under your chin and notice how they affect your complexion. Typically our “power” colors will make our skin look smooth and pink, and the colors that our not in our palate will make our skin look sallow and cause every blemish or purple shadow to stand out.
  5. Notice what colors are not in your closet. Do you know why? It could be because you might love the color and it might look good on you but it feels too flashy, or feminine or some other reaction pops up. Just notice and write it in your journal

So here is the point I am trying to make; fill the rooms of your home with the colors you love to wear. For example; maybe the color taupe washes out your completion so you stay away from wearing that color. Well, be sure to stay away from taupe in your room decor as well. Never decorate with a color you wouldn’t wear on your body, at least not the dominate colors. Accent colors can be colors you wouldn’t wear, but never the large surfaces such as large upholstered items,  wall color or flooring color. You won’t feel good in those rooms any more than you would if you were wearing that color on your body.

Keep reading for more tips on color. If you have any questions write me a note and I’ll be sure to cover it in my posts. Thank you for reading my blog!!

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach©


You Are Money!

Over the years I have read many self-help books about abundance and while I have received a great deal of good advice these two phrases really strike a cord with me;

“Be the wise steward of your money”
“You’re money baby!” – (from the 1996 movie [easyazon_link asin=”B006LQ80VI” locale=”US” new_window=”default” nofollow=”default” tag=”persspaccoac-20″]Swingers[/easyazon_link]

Copy of Wallet of MoneyWhen these two phrases are placed together they become a statement of truth, not just clever words. To “be a wise steward of your money” refers to your Personal Space; are you managing your value and worth with respect and dignity? “You’re money baby!” is simply the truth. You ARE money. You are the energy of the gifts and talents that create an exchange when you share yourself with the world. This energetic exchange is usually in the form of money and it wouldn’t exist without you and your talents.

John Randolph Price – [easyazon_link asin=”1561703478″ locale=”US” new_window=”default” nofollow=”default” tag=”persspaccoac-20″]The Abundance Book[/easyazon_link] describes money this way;
M.O.N.E.Y. = My Own Natural Energy Yield

It’s our energy expression in the form our gifts and talents take that when expressed openly bring a return of “yield” which is money, abundance, or wealth.
It’s up to us to manage both our outward expression of money and our inner reception of money. Money circulates, it’s like a flowing river that carries water to plants along the riverbed and also evaporates and becomes rain which then fills the river again.

When we care for our Personal Space by getting regular health care visits, eating nutritious food, buying property insurance and car insurance, tending our yard and home maintenance needs, following a budget, investing our income etc. we are taking the steps of a “good steward.” By your actions you are saying that you value your Personal Space and you respect and honor the work you did to create the cash flow that bought you these blessings. In other words you are declaring that you indeed are money!

If you find you do not feel like money, then the Personal Space Journey can help you. Money and energy are one and the same;  improve your energy and your attraction of money will increase as well.

I’d love to hear your thoughts…

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach©

Tips on Hanging Pictures

There is nothing like art or photographs to give a room your personal stamp. More than with the furniture or rugs you add to a room, the art you include shows off your distinctive taste and personality. This happens at an even greater level if you are the painter or the photographer of a picture or someone you know is. When you add pictures of the people you love to your wall arrangements you are stating their importance and value in your life. Kitchen Private Spot

Art can set the mood for the room by portraying a theme you want to emphasize. So when you choose art such as paintings, wall sculptures, or photography be sure to ask yourself if these selections feel good to you. Here are some suggestions:

  • Bedroom:  choose art that is warm and inviting or sensual and stimulating depending on your preferences
  • Kitchen: choose something that expresses your cooking style or a motif you are fond of such as fruit or roosters
  • Living Room: choose a fine art painting that accents the colors you are using and has a theme that reflects what matters to you
  • Family Room: a good place for movie and travel posters as well as vacation photos
  • Kids Room: use a theme they really love (Disney, Cars, Dinosaurs)  and keep it flexible for changing as they grow. Framed posters are much easier to change than wallpaper

Systematic Art  has all the equipment you could possible need to hang a picture. If your art is large and heavy you to have the proper equipment for both the framed picture and the wall in case extra supports are needed. Also, remember to lift framed pictures with two hands, one on each side so that you don’t place too much strain on the corner joints which can cause a frame to pull apart.

Hang Pictures Low!

Use your furniture and your height (not the ceiling) to guide your placement of pictures. I recommend using a combination of your eye-level and the shoulder-level of the shortest adult in the home as your guide. This means as they stand before the picture or the main picture in a collection, that the bottom of the picture aligns just below the shoulders. The pictures center is meant to be at the eye level of the people living in the home.Copy of iphone pics 5 033

Place pictures over a sofa no higher than 6″ – 12″ above the back. (As in this photo) You are in essence framing the scene with the sofa as the anchor. If you have other details on the wall to coordinate with like a fire place or windows, you need to think of these items as part of your “picture” arrangement and hang the art in harmony with these items.

The space that the art, the window and the fireplace take up is called “positive space,” and the space all around these items is called “negative space.” Positive and negative space creates shapes that need to be considered as well when you do the hanging. For instance you would hang a picture evenly spaced between two windows which would leave the negative space balanced and the overall feeling will be more harmonious than if you hung it closer to one window than the other.

These are just a few tips and tricks to consider when hanging pictures on your walls and I hope you found them helpful. Drop me a note and I’ll be sure to answer any questions you might have.

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach©



Shared Space

When we are out in public our Personal Space goes with us and it engages others. This combined area of Personal Space interaction is what I call Shared Space. We actually live most of our daily life in Shared Space which is why it is crucial that we create a supportive environment in our private Home Space so we can remain anchored as we engage the world.

The trick to managing yourself in the world of Shared Space is to remember what your kindergarten teacher taught you all those years ago…”take turns and share!” There is a behavior change required while in the Shared Space environment. When by yourself you can sing as you drive and no one will care, you can cook using smelly cheese, and no one will complain, and you can tap your pencil all you want in your private office, and no one will be annoyed. But in Shared Space you need to curtail some of your natural desires and tendencies all while remaining empowered. Sounds like a magic trick doesn’t it? Kind of impossible, you say. How can I be powerful if I am compromising and bending to the will of others? Copy of iphone pics 5 119

It’s simple! The answer to this is the whole point of what Personal Space Coaching is all about. You see, it’s ultimately you yourself who will be your “coach” in this self-empowerment journey. Once you discover the energy boosting tips and tricks I have to show you, and implement the ones that make sense to you, you will find yourself so anchored and so centered in your true self that your personal power will remain in full strength no matter what environment you find yourself in. You will be like a deeply rooted willow tree; strong, and tall, yet able to bend with the wind and not snap in two.

A key ingredient to getting along well with others is my Shared Space Guideline.
To thine own self be true
Doing unto others as you would have them do unto you

I am sure you can tell where the Shared Space Guideline comes from; Shakespeare’s “Hamlet” and The Golden Rule. You might think this is a little simplistic but there is a reason for that. It is simple but powerful; easy to remember and apply as you engage the world. However sometimes I still I get caught up in the human drama going on around me and when this happens this is what I do to return to center and find my balance…

1. Stop and Pause – take a break from what is going on
2. Apply the Shared Space Guideline to the situation and ask these questions:
 Am I being true to myself and what I really need?
 Am I staying in my business or am I “minding” someone else’s business?
 Am I invading another’s space and stepping on anyone’s toes?
 Have my rights been violated?
 Is there a way for this to be a “Win-Win” for each of us?
 Ask “What would it take” …(fill in the blank with your desired outcome)
 Then listen to your inner wisdom and take the inspired action you receive

I’d love to hear your thoughts on this and how it works for you. Leave me a comment.
“till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach©

True Personal Power

Today I’ll conclude my Starbucks observations by reviewing the behavior of everyone in the room, including the “silent” party; the staff at Starbucks.

If this were a full service restaurant you can bet that the staff would have been in charge of the table placement, and if a problem such as this one occurred it would have been handled by management. The lady by the window would have felt she had an intermediary to ask help from if she wanted to. Or the staff would have been monitoring the room and taking care of the guests. Copy of My Old Starbucks (12)

However Starbucks is more of a self-serve establishment. They make your beverage, keep the place clean and will arrange the furniture each evening back to their default design plan but they don’t really get involved with the guests in the room; although if asked they will be happy to help. Even so, a self-empowered employee who valued their work might take it upon themselves to monitor the room, and step forward and resolved this situation. Since this rarely happens it is up to each person to maintain their space the way they need it to be.

If the lady by the window had felt fully empowered I believe she would have spoken up, asked for help from the staff at Starbucks. If she was self-empowered but didn’t want to deal with the hassle this caused, she might choose from a place of power to get on with her day and leave. Since she did leave I have no idea if it was a powerful choice or a victim choice. Her posture had the look of being imposed upon so I suspect she felt dis-empowered. Only she will ever know for sure.

If the two ladies at the table had felt fully empowered they would have looked around the room first then made their table choice more comfortable for all involved by moving the table or choosing the other two chairs (another couple came in later and did just that.)
You might say but they were powerful, they moved in on that window lady and didn’t budge. Nope. That’s not power. True power is polite, open, expansive and loving. Their decision to ignore the discomfort of the window lady, consciously or unconsciously was a selfish choice which is not empowered. Selfishness actually comes from feeling inferior and is similar to bully behavior which also comes from feeling inadequate. Neither of which are empowered even if they appear to be on the surface.

Well, I hope my Starbucks Personal Space observation has whetted your appetite to notice more of what goes on around you in your daily life and thereby become more empowered. Explore this website further for tips and tricks I have learned that will enhance the energy of your total Personal Space expression; your home, your soul, your body and your life.
Let me know what you think…

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach©

Do You Live on Auto-Pilot?

Let’s continue the topic of my last two blogs and today let’s look at the actions of the two women who sat at the large square table in the middle of the room.

From what I shared the original post “Coffee Space Invaded,” I bet most of you thought what they did was “rude” behavior; I know I did at first. What else could possibly have been going on for them that they were oblivious to the woman by the window? I say oblivious because I saw nothing in their attitude that suggested deliberately rude behavior. They were simply clueless to the options they could have taken to give the woman by the window space. Nonverbal communication can tell us more than verbal and I saw no smug expressions, no postures of superiority, and no deliberate stares to make the lady by the window uncomfortable. All I saw was a self-contained cocoon of oblivion to the rest of the room.

All of this suggests they came to the table already deeply involved in the topic of conversation they were having.
• Perhaps it was a life or death topic like an illness.
• Maybe they hadn’t seen each other is years and couldn’t wait to catch up.
• One of the women could have been hard of hearing in one ear so they had to sit in the position they choose to communicate.
• Perhaps they were not Americans and to sit that close was not an issue in their native culture.
Living on Auto-Pilot

The point I want to make today is that we just don’t know! But that doesn’t stop us from believing and acting as if we do know. We will believe what we want and not even (usually) question our thoughts. What we choose to believe about what we encounter happening around us can either make us happy or make us sad or not even cause a blip on our personal radar (aka be as oblivious as the two women) it’s our choice completely. I wonder if we are making that choice consciously and powerfully or are we on auto-pilot; quick to judge and cast blame instead of offering help and solutions?
For my part I was thrilled to be seeing my favorite subject in action. I love observing how people react in public. This was an example of what happens in what I call “Shared Space.” Personal Space still exists within Shared Space but the dynamics are different. When we are in Shared Space we are called upon to use the personal power we have amassed. If our personal power is insufficient to deal with the events of life, we will feel it as pain of some kind.

As an act of self-loving kindness, the next time you feel pain from an event you experienced, stop when you can take the time and review it. By doing this you will gain insight and clarity and quite possibly boost your own personal empowerment as a result. Consciousness is power.
Next time I’ll conclude my Eye Witness review by looking at the behavior of the Starbucks staff.

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach©

Her Choice – Her Business

In my last blog “Coffee Space Invaded” I wrote about a personal space event at my local Starbucks.
Let’s look at the woman by the window again. What other options could she have chosen besides saying nothing and then leaving the building? Well, the possibilities are simply unlimited…

• She could have started a conversation with the two women. I’ve seen this often especially with the very social personality types or sales people.
• She could have stood up and moved her chair so she faced the window which would have forced the square table to be moved away.
• She could have asked the two women to sit on the other two chairs away from her.
• She could have started a coughing fit to annoy them.
• She could have directly stated that they move further back.
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The possibilities are unlimited and each one takes a different inner power to enact; boldness, confidence, self-preservation, anger, an open awareness of the room and herself in it, etc. But none of those things happened and I can only guess at what was going on for this woman. What I saw might have been a shy easily intimidated and inwardly angry woman resulting in the the no comment, and the early leaving. Or perhaps she didn’t leave early and it only seemed that way to me.

What is my point? My point is this, it’s her business. It’s her personal space and she gets to do what she wants with it, or at least what she can do to the best of her ability at the time. Only the woman by the window knows for sure how this event affected her; did it make her uncomfortable, and uneasy or was she so consumed with her own world that she didn’t give it a notice? I will never know because I didn’t ask her. I only watched this play out and then drew my own conclusions which are again my business. Perhaps there were others in the room that also watched and had their own thoughts about what took place.

Bottom line; there is no right or wrong. There is only what happened and how it affected you personally and what if anything you would like to change about your response to it if it happens again.

Being aware of events around you means you have an opportunity for a more powerful life. Being unaware means you miss out on possible opportunities to learn, grow and engage the world. No matter which you choose, it’s your right in each and every moment. It is my hope for all of us that we become more open and aware about how powerful our choices are to both ourselves and to the people we encounter in our day.
Next time we’ll look at the two women at the square table.

’till then,
Your Personal Space Coach©

Coffee Space Invaded!

I was working on a project last week at my local Starbucks when I watched a personal space scenario unfold.
Square Table Two women came to sit at the large square table which is normally in the center of the room, but instead was extra close to the window tables. Instead of sitting opposite from each other, they sat diagonal to each other. And instead of sitting in the two locations farthest from the woman next to them at a smaller round table by the window, they sat in the two seats closest to her so that the second lady when she sat down was directly facing the window woman with barely 18″ of space between them. This became obvious to her as she lowered herself into her chair saying self-consciously “Oh, I’m in your space aren’t I?” But instead of changing to the chair on the opposite side of her friend (which would have given the window lady her space back), she just scooted her chair 6″ away, then began to engage her friend in an animate conversation.

I watched as the woman at the window (who had said nothing at all) stiffened, squirmed and shifted in her chair and within 10 minutes she got up and left.

Next, another woman sat at the window table. Starbucks was packed and no other spot was open. She picked the other chair across from the one the first window lady had been in, which was right next to the “space invading” lady. They were practically shoulder to shoulder for a moment when the square table lady sensed an invasion to her space and shifted her seat away a few inches.

Even though this new lady had a better space created for herself, she only lasted in that spot long enough to notice a different spot open up. She got up quickly with here drink and moved leaving that small table open. No one sat there again until the two talkative women left.
Later I looked up from my work only to find a whole new group of people arrive to sit down at the square table, and wouldn’t you know it, they shifted the square table away from the round window tables two feet to gain greater comfort for both themselves and the pair at the window.

My Summary:
I am always amazed when I watch how people take up space and I often wonder if they are even aware of what they are doing. I wonder if that first scenario put a damper on the woman’s day and she didn’t even know why? If she had been self-empowered she could have asked the two at the square table to please shift the table over. But seldom do I witness this. Usually we just move out instead of declaring what we need to strangers. Yet both groups would have been more comfortable with the bold clarification. The two chatty ladies hardly had any privacy for their conversation sitting so close.

Well, perhaps one day we will all get it that we have a right to take up space and get our needs met and we can be bold about it while still respecting the space of those around us. We do this in two ways… first by being aware and asking for what we need and second by being aware of and courteous to the needs of others.

So, what would you have done if you were the lady by the window who had her space invaded? It’s something to think about. If you have an “eye-witness” story to share I’d love to hear it.

’till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach©

Take A Personal Space Day

Have you ever taken a day off “just because?”

I call this a “personal space” day – that time and space you need and don’t necessarily know why and sure don’t feel like explaining it to anyone.  The urge for a personal space day comes up from time to time for all of us. I don’t think we take enough of them. These are different from days off, vacation or sick days in that they come about for no good reason! In fact I suggest that you don’t try to justify a personal space day with a reason; just go with the flow. That decision alone is a vacation from what you usually do. 9-6-11 Mom's Sedona Birthday (36)

You might ask; “How will I know if I need a personal space day if I don’t have a reason?” You will know because of how you feel. This is a feeling from deep within; it’s not sad, it’s not angry but it is vaguely restless, sometimes moody and very often uncertain as to what you are feeling. Giving yourself space and time to just “chill” will usually bring up what you need to do to refresh and revive yourself. This is usually a day to yourself but sometimes it can include others who are feeling the same vibe and are in sync with you.

There is a quote from the movie [easyazon_link asin=”B003ASLJK4″ locale=”US” new_window=”default” nofollow=”default” tag=”persspaccoac-20″]The Bridges of Madison County[/easyazon_link]The Bridges of Madison County that I love and use often when taking a personal space day;
                          “We let the day take us where it wanted.”

That in a nutshell is a personal space day; the urge to just up and leave and let serendipity take over. It’s a rest from everything; action, decision, thoughts, beliefs and feelings. Just go with the flow of what comes up. Usually an inspiration is trying to surface but your busy life won’t let it in. Just wait and see what comes up. Keep your journal handy if you want.

When was the last time you took a day off and did “nothing?” How often do you allow yourself this kind of time? I’d love to hear your stories. If you have never taken a personal space day give it a try soon; you’ll be glad you did!

Drop me a line I’d love to hear your thoughts…

‘till next time,
Your Personal Space Coach©


I am writing from Sedona, Arizona; one of my personal space spots. I needed to get out of my home office and create from a new space today because I recently crashed my website. I made a mistake when trying to do an update…actually more than one mistake (yikes) and the end result was so bad I needed to completely delete my work and start fresh. (Talk about clutter clearing! Ha) This was over 3 years of effort, much of it trial and error and needless to say I was upset. Since I was still in the development stage of my coaching business it seemed like a good idea to let it “die” and then give my program fresh new energy.Sedona Day Off

Since I teach that nothing wrong is happening, no matter what it looks like on the surface, I had to take this and apply it to my own issue. When I did I found an interest parallel. My site “died” on Good Friday and now it is “Easter Monday” and I am resurrecting it…new and improved. I don’t consider myself a practicing anything anymore, more of a free thinking-Zen-spiritualist but I am well aware of the meaning of the Easter message so it hit home and gave me hope.

That’s about all we can do when we “crash and burn.” Stop, reassess, and look for the silver lining – because there is always good going on in one form or another and we find the good when we look for it. So to enhance my website and its personal space message and to give new life energy to my work I got in the car this morning and headed to my favorite personal space spot…Sedona. In a few more years Sedona will be my home base so what better place to launch my updated website than in my dream home location?

Thank you for joining me on this quest where we explore, re-create and energize our lives by deliberately taking up space in our own unique way.

Ginger Marie
Your Personal Space Coach©